Question: In Israel, parents of small children aged three months to three years took to the streets to demand that the Ministry of Education and the government establish oversight over nurseries. We know of numerous cases where caregivers treated infants inadequately and abusively, and even lead to fatal outcomes.

Why does hatred arise toward what seems to be the kindest and most innocent thing in the world, a small child?

Answer: Firstly, these are other people’s children, not their own. Although even with their own such attitudes can occur.

The thing is, love and hate, life and death, are very close to one another, practically side by side. They accompany each other and sometimes literally replace one another.

This comes from human nature because the transition from love to hate is very unclear and fragile. The same powerful desires are at work, but they switch poles, a kind of polarization occurs, and this is the result.

We know that the same happens with parents. What about parents who forget their children in the car? They just erase them from their minds entirely. And what can you do about that?

And when we talk about caregivers for whom this is just a job, perhaps even one they hate, that they are forced to do because they cannot do anything else but still need to earn a living, those children become objects of their hatred.

To the extent that they hate their work and their miserable, underprivileged lives, they transfer all of that onto the children.

Today’s egoism, today’s intolerance is found in both women and men, and the attitude toward the world and toward children is unnatural. We live in a generation where egoism compels us to correct it; otherwise, we will not survive.

Question: You said the transition between love and hate is very fragile. How can a person regulate or recognize this moment of transition so they do not lose control?

Answer: There cannot be love without hate, nor hate without love, just as there cannot be a positive without a negative. They work together. But what to consider positive and what negative depends on the person.

Therefore if I love myself, then I see negatives in everyone else. But if I wish to correct myself and see my own flaws, then I can see positives in others.

And here arises a very serious problem. In our time, desires and traits emerge in us that we are obligated to correct into their polar opposites. If we do not do this, you see what happens.

I do not blame those caregivers in nurseries or daycare, nor people who exhibit various sadistic or abusive tendencies, because they just don’t work on them. The human masses need care, work, and education. Before becoming caregivers, they need to be nurtured, and this is not being done.

Question: Is it possible to become a teacher or caregiver not by vocation, not naturally, but through the education or training you are talking about?

Answer: This is very difficult. Because instead of a natural inclination to be a caregiver, if you do not want to be one, you will need to imagine a higher goal that you want to achieve, and therefore be ready to become a caregiver. This requires very serious work on oneself.

Question: A person is a cluster of hormones, chemistry, and so on. Education accounts for only 10% of who a person becomes. What else is added to a person besides these hormones and chemistry that causes them to shift from a state of goodwill to evil? How does egoism suddenly explode within them?

Answer: The fact is, we have become very close to one another, yet we do not work on ourselves. As a result, we negatively influence each other. Mass media, all of this has a tremendous impact. I constantly see bad images and examples before me, and it costs me nothing to imitate them. I imitate them involuntarily.

So everything we see on screens or smartphones enters us and forces us to act like those so-called “heroes” we see. Essentially, the entire problem lies with the media.

Question: Let us take someone who, on the one hand wants to be a caregiver, a teacher, a mother, or a parent. They treat a child or children well, but suddenly there comes a moment when they feel something rising within them they cannot control. What should they do?

Answer: Yes, they cannot control themselves because, again, their inner impulses are stronger than all the restraining factors. Even those they have heard or read about, like how people are punished for being like this, do not help. They cannot restrain themselves; their restraining mechanism shuts down. That is it. Nothing can be done.

The whole issue is that we must provide people with proper examples of behavior, both with each other and with children.

No fear or punishment can restrain or hold back anything—only a good example can.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 8/7/19

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Question: We live in the hustle and bustle of life, often forgetting our loved ones, family, colleagues, and friends. We forget to say kind words, to acknowledge that they are important and needed, that they are remarkable.

There is a saying: “Words can kill, and words can heal.” Why is it so important for a person to hear compliments?

Answer: Because a person is an egoist. That is why it is so crucial for them to hear good things about themselves. And if bad things are said, it hurts them in a different way, conversely.

Comment: But we know that when a person hears something good, they are immediately ready to meet others halfway and do something for them. And vice versa.

My Response: Of course. For them, it is a reward, so they are ready. It is a great incentive for their egoism.

However, if a person has a goal in life, sees that goal as true and correct, has decided on it, and acts accordingly, then others may say good or bad things about their behavior, goal, actions, or life, and it would not affect them at all. This is because they are confident they are acting correctly.

Compliments in our time are insincere interactions because they are always egoistic.

If I inspire someone, if I push them toward a goal, it should simply be my ongoing work—to help others rise and move forward toward the goal of life, to achieve it. And in doing so, I am not offering a compliment, but am providing a necessary element of progress.

Question: Does the soul require compliments?

Answer: Our egoism requires compliments. That is our entire foundation, that is who we are: egoists!

And so when someone tells me, “Wow! Look at you! You’re amazing!” and so forth, I feel important, gain energy, and can do something. I am ready to repay such a person the same way because they have inspired me. But fundamentally, this is all because we are egoists.

Strictly speaking, relationships should not be built on compliments but on mutual support, where every person supports every other person in their pursuit of life’s goals.

Question: What does proper mutual support look like?

Answer: It is setting an example of “Love your neighbor as yourself.”

People see that you are working on yourself to unite with others, to correct yourself, to help them correct themselves, to help them understand the meaning of life, where to move, how to complete life, with what result, what that result should be, and so on. When you act this way, you naturally provide an example to others, and they strive to act similarly.

Comment: In Kabbalah, there is a rule: speak of the greatness of the friends.

My Response: But that is not a compliment. It is a necessary element of our spiritual work. The difference lies in why I say it. I say it to give someone direction in their development, a goal, and strength.

A compliment, as a rule, is said to flatter someone, to give them a sense of self-importance. But in our study, in Kabbalah, importance is not in us but in our work and the goal—in the Creator, whom we are trying to reveal. So I would not consider these as compliments.

Question: How should one properly speak of the greatness of one’s friends? Can this serve as an example for others?

Answer: As a rule, we do not speak of the greatness of a friend directly to the friend. We speak of their greatness among ourselves to elevate them in our eyes so they may serve as an example for us. Because if we talk about the greatness of a friend directly to them, we essentially lower them by inflating their ego.

Question: Does that turn it into a compliment?

Answer: Yes, and such a compliment will have a negative effect on them. Therefore, I do not see it as beneficial. With a child, we can say: “What a clever boy you are, how smart! Look how well you have done everything, how beautifully!” And they puff up with pride.

But for an adult (I mean people within my circle), such compliments are unnecessary.

Question: What is your advice for people? How should relationships be built so that every moment they feel needed and important to each other?

Answer: By engaging in meaningful work. By moving forward together in a journey toward unity to reveal the upper force, the higher purpose of existence, and the higher nature. This is not a compliment—it is our entire life.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 6/27/19

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Comment: You say a person studies Kabbalah not to attain wisdom but to develop the ability to perceive the next dimension.

Answer: Of course, because we live through feelings. When they develop in us, we can analyze them: if it is hot, light, warm, and so on.

I have five senses, which I can explore and develop based on my perception. Such exploration creates science. In other words, all our sciences are data collected from our senses and devices we add to them like microscopes, telescopes, etc.

That is, first, we use the matter of creation, the desire. Then, in this desire we feel everything that happens in it, all kinds of disturbances and fluctuations; we examine them, record them, scale them, put them in order, and from this our science arises.

When I measure something, I do it relative to my qualities. But I cannot even imagine that I am exploring everything relative to myself. If other creatures were in our place, they would see and measure everything entirely differently. We just do not understand how connected we are and we act only from inside this box, from our body.

Therefore, when a person enters into the sensation of the upper world, the first thing he realizes is how subjective all his previous knowledge, feelings, and experiences were. But understanding this is only possible when he acquires one more system.
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From KabTV’s “I Got A Call. The Development of feeling” 5/28/10

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Question: If you disseminate certain visual things to the whole world, such as dancing, they can reject a person a little. There are some dances that are incomprehensible to people.

Answer: There is no dancing at all in Kabbalah. The fact that people hold hands and dance in a circle is the most popular among all nations because this is how connection naturally manifests itself. It has nothing to do with any national or Kabbalistic peculiarities.

I personally do not see myself in it. Singing—yes. It depends on the songs: with deep content, when everyone sings together, it helps to connect thoughts, hearts, and desires. But dancing? It depends on how it is done. If dancing is some kind of general movement, if it goes in rhythm with the flow of inner thoughts, then yes.

When people hold hands, it is also natural because shaking hands is an expression of inner motives. If the movement comes from within people, it will not seem strange or artificial to anyone, and everyone will accept it as a manifestation of their inner feelings.

This often happens at our congresses, when thousands of people from dozens of countries gather, and it all seems natural to them.

If a person sees African or Indian dances for the first time, they may seem strange and unusual to him. I would say it is not the case here. These are universal movements. When people from many countries hold hands, dance in a circle (a circle is the epitome of equality), follow a common movement, sing a familiar song, and utter words expressing their aspirations I do not think it looks strange. It might be in the middle of Broadway or Tverskaya. But if it comes from within people, and such actions are accepted in our global culture, they cannot be misunderstood.

In all kindergartens worldwide, the teacher tells the children: “Hold hands, stand in a circle, start walking and singing.” Such human expression, when they play and express something together, is the most natural thing. These actions are not planned. They appear spontaneously.
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. Let’s Dance…” 5/22/1

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Question: Many people want to conquer Everest, one of the highest peaks on Earth. The height of Mount Everest reaches 8,848 meters above sea level. Climbers and scientists have given this high area of the mountain the name “death zone.”

Why does a person strive to conquer these unreachable peaks?

Answer: It is a sport, a game, to prove to yourself that you can do it, like others. There is a desire in man to establish himself above nature.

Question: A person strives to conquer a mountain, reach higher, be better, and prove to himself and others that he can overcome the limit of human strength. What should he do higher, better, overcoming, and not yielding in his inner spiritual ascent?

Answer: In general, a person wants to conquer peaks, to be above nature, to rise above himself, and to realize himself at the most critical point. This is a human trait.

Of course, an animal will not go there. It understands perfectly what is better or worse and always strives for maximum comfort.

For man, on the contrary, the zone of maximum comfort means nothing if there is still an opportunity to assert himself as a person. Because inanimate, vegetative, and animate levels of nature exist in him, but even higher than that is a level of human in him.

Question: What is the human level that haunts him and pushes him into all these dangers?

Answer: He wants to be above nature. There is an additional point in him called human. But it resides inside the animal in him. Therefore, when we develop the human in us, the animal begins to suffer: “Why on earth are you thinking not of me, not of the animal, but of something above me?” Then, we enter a conflict: the human strives upward and the animal dies.

If a person truly aimed to rise above the animal level in him, he would not cross oceans, storm mountain peaks, or descend to the depths of the sea. The meaning of life is not found in these places; it lies in the conquest of one’s inner nature and environment.

Question: What does it mean to rise above the level of nature from the point of view of Kabbalah?

Answer: To rise above the level of nature is to rise above one’s egoism. Because our egoism is in us on three levels: inanimate, vegetative, and animate to rise above it means to rise above our egoism, that is, from a state of hatred of one’s neighbor to love of one’s neighbor.

Question: Why is it easier to conquer the outer peaks or outer depths?

Answer: This is even greater elevation of egoism, the desire to raise it higher! I want to be proud of it: “Look at me! My animal climbed where no animal has ever climbed, but I have!”

What is human about this? Nothing! If a car can do it, what is the point of my going there?

Question: You met with the head of a large Aikido organization. During the conversation, he said Kabbalah speaks about the amazing vertical connection between man and God.

What is this connection that helps a person anticipate what will happen in the future: the outcome of a duel, the outcome of events?

Answer: This is when a person rises above his nature. When I am clearly aware that from all sides, where my “I” exists, I try to go above it. But I do not have to climb up or dive down to do that. To do so, I just need inner tension, my desire to come out of myself.

I ask nature for help to let me do this. In this way, I transcend rather than try to do it physically.

Question: What does it mean to go above the “I”?

Answer: Beyond egoism, from hating others to loving others.

Question: Many welcome this. Why do they not want to implement it?

Answer: It is very, very difficult. It takes not just a method but all the external conditions to implement it correctly. It is not easy.

Just like Mount Everest, many people want to climb, but very few succeed, and they even die within a few meters left to go.

But I feel we are moving toward a state of humanity and nature where we can literally overcome this barrier, the potential transition between egoism and love.

Question: What will bring the needed luck?

Answer: What will help us overcome this spiritual ascent? Revealing the greatness of the goal. It will be revealed to us as grand and special, and then we can rise to it.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 8/22/19

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By reading Kabbalistic texts, we draw the upper force upon ourselves according to strict laws derived by Kabbalists from nature. They explain that this force originates from a system called the Rosh of the world of Atzilut, the head part of the system.

How can we attract this force? Through our unified desire, referred to as MAN. In the Torah, this is described as “manna from heaven.”

In Kabbalah, we engage in real spiritual actions, the results of which we must begin to sense within ourselves. This helps us understand our unity, to desire it and simultaneously not desire it.

In other words, our egoistic force must grow, and at the same time, the altruistic force above it must grow as well. Both develop within us—downward and upward—and form a spiritual vessel in which we begin to feel unity above our common egoism, known as Mount Sinai. The word “Sinai” comes from the Hebrew word “Sina,” “hatred,” symbolizing mutual rejection.

Like Moses, we must ascend Mount Sinai, this mountain of hatred, unite with one another, and reveal the Creator, becoming acquainted with Him. For this to happen, a massive mountain of mutual hatred and rejection must form beneath us. Despite this, we must rise above it in an effort to achieve unity and love.

When you reach this state, you undergo a phase of adaptation and self-correction, referred to as the “forty days on Mount Sinai.” This corresponds to the level of Bina, the quality of bestowal. At this stage, you achieve adhesion among all members of the community and begin to sense within it the manifestation of the upper force.

With the help of this force, you continue to correct yourself within the community, thereby progressing further. A real system arises between you, in which you interact and advance together like climbers. You know your goal, understand the path, support one another, and become spiritually “sighted.” This is what we must achieve.
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. Kabbalistic Meditation” 5/23/10

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Question: What is the meaning of reading Kabbalistic sources? A person simply opens a book, reads it, and by doing so he already influences nature, suppose, a volcano?

Answer: Yes, of course, by doing so he already influences the volcano.

Question: There are eight billion people in the world, and how can you prove to them that some book can influence all of humanity?

Answer: First, there is no way out anyway, and a person will accept the method of Kabbalah whether he wants to or not. Suffering will make you believe in anything.

Secondly, why not try? After all, there is logic in the science of Kabbalah; it contains such a harsh, ironclad, and all-crushing truth that a person sees this is really so.

It works very directly and is based on specific data, parameters, combinations of two forces that a person sees around him, and they suddenly explain to him everything that is happening to him so simply and so specifically. As a result, a person becomes convinced of its truth even from his earthly logic, not to mention that this is a science that the whole world respects and appreciates although it is afraid of it. As a saying goes, if one is afraid, then he respects.
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. Come to Harmony” 4/19/10

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Talks about the Steps of the Ladder, Part 67

Why Do We Agree with the Disregard in Corporeality?

In spirituality there is no concept of agreement or disagreement with what happens. On the spiritual path, we acknowledge and accept the state we are in, which depends on the intensity of the light shining upon us. When a certain light shines and sustains us in a specific state, we can be called a “thief.” If less light shines, we are considered a “robber.” If more light shines, we are a “righteous person.” Therefore, there is no point in lamenting, “Oh no, I’m a robber!” The state arises naturally, and only then do we define and name it. We can deceive ourselves with the label, “I am righteous,” but this will not change our state or make us righteous. It will only alter how we feel.

We should thus focus on accepting our state as it is, instead of reacting to it. Whether we like it or not, agree or disagree, such is the reality. When we begin to engage with internality, we neglect corporeality almost entirely. This phenomenon is not subject to judgment as good or bad. Like in nature, we do not judge a lion for hunting a gazelle; its nature compels it to do so. Similarly, for those on the spiritual path, the nature of spiritual work requires constant renunciation of corporeality.
From a Talk 5/29/2002, “What Does It Mean that the Torah Was Given Out of the Darkness in the Work?”

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