Question: Someone wrote to you: “Since my husband died, I feel useless. The children do not need me, my daughter recently said to me, ‘You are only interfering.’ I thought that I would be needed by my grandchildren, but they are busy with their own gadgets and just get annoyed with me. I learned to knit and thought I would knit for them, but they buy everything online. I tried to come up with all sorts of things for myself, like playing cards, solving crossword puzzles, but I am not interested. It turns out that nobody needs me. ”

What is this woman to do? How can a person learn to be needed?

Answer: I think that for this we need not look for someone who needs you in some personal sense, but what I can do so that it would be useful and good for a large number of people, for all of humanity. Today everything has been done to ensure that we are as independent as possible from each other. And when someone wants to bother us with offering their help, we do not want it.

Question: So a simple grandmother can reveal herself to the world? Can she suddenly be useful to the world, useful to people?

Answer: Undoubtedly! Only if she understands what is of benefit for the world, for people, she can find herself in this.

Question: And what can her benefit to the world be?

Answer: In teaching herself and other people to be properly interconnected with each other. This will bring a tremendous positive force into the world that will make the world a better place.

Question: Is the meaning of life that a person wants to be needed? Is this the meaning of my life?

Answer: It does not make sense. It is only a remedy. The meaning of life should already be above this.

Question: Is the meaning of life is what you said—establishing connections with others, making them kind? Will this meaning fill a person?

Answer: It will definitely fill. One will begin to feel that he or she has this meaning. Inside this filling, this connection between us, we go to the next level, we can fill ourselves for another 100 years ahead.

We are entering a system in which we are all connected. This is a completely new meaning of life. We live, as it were, in a common body.

Question: Maybe a second youth after 70 to 80 years?

Answer: Undoubtedly! A person breaks away from himself into this society in which he is, which he is building. We must do this.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 2/8/21

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Comment: One of your videos was about children turning into stars and becoming leaders. How they’re raised on stage and become the best at singing or dancing. In this clip you spoke about love, about coming closer together, and what competition should really be.

Then we received this letter to you: “Healthy competition leads to success, leadership, and good outcomes. Being a laggard is never a good thing. Love, closeness, and empathy are false ideals. I want to be better, so I shall be; I want to be more successful, so I will. Winning gives confidence in oneself, in life, and leads to further success.

I doubt that Mr. Laitman would have turned out the way he did if he had no leadership skills or inclination to be a winner. Stop pretending! Only a weed grows by itself. We have to grow a harvest and overpower the weed. Only through leadership, only by winning do we succeed: it’s survival of the fittest.”

My Response: What he says is true! But this is all good among the weeds. While a man in the end has to come out a winner over himself, not over others. He has to see his inner self, and the way he should act in contrast to it on the outside. This is what I mean when I say this, I’m not referring to people as weeds.

Question: What about the competitiveness between children about who has the best voice or who is the best dancer?

Answer: In the end, there’s nothing good about it. Nothing! You’re training a child to be better, higher, and stronger, to win and rejoice in the victory. However, in the end you realize that this is not what makes one a winner in life.

Question: So they don’t grow up to be leaders?

Answer: No. Only an individual victory over oneself, this is where one should be a winner.

Question: In other words, the modern world is built on these concepts, do you reject it?

Answer: That’s for sure. I think that everyone who hears me, who reads what I write, understands that I accept the modern world the way it is in order to change it.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 1/21/21

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Question: There is something that unites all nations—fairy tales. It is part of everyone’s life. We enter life listening to fairy tales. Some kind of morality is meant to pass on to us through them, so that it is understandable to children. Then we grow up and continue to tell fairy tales, but we call them stories, fables, and so on. Sages also write allegorically and convey a lot through a fairy tale.

What is in the fairy tale?

Answer: Everything! Absolutely everything. There is a woodcutter, a princess, a king, a puss in boots, a pumpkin on wheels, whatever you want. Horses moving their hooves nervously, and all that sort of thing. An unhappy prince who is looking for his princess. Either he is like a frog or she is trapped somewhere in a high tower. Whatever you want, everything is possible. A fairy tale can do anything! And moreover, it manifests itself in a very open, as if naked form.

That is, they love, they want to be together. Someone does not help, someone is against it. Everything is open. That’s what is good about the fairy tale. In our world, a lot of adults enjoy watching real fairy tales. Although they know that these are fairy tales.

Question: Why? Is it an escape from reality?

Answer: This is more real than our life actually.

Question: What is the reality of the fairy tale?

Answer: Justice is rewarded, loyalty is rewarded. But all this has to go through a lot of twists and turns, all sorts of nooks and crannies, mazes of our egoism.

Question: So the fairy tale actually tells about what will really happen? That good will triumph over evil?

Answer: Absolutely. Otherwise, nothing would have started. All fairy tales must have a good ending, because it is already set initially.

Question: And fairy tales with a bad ending, what about them?

Answer: There is no such thing. It means they are not finished.

A fairy tale is written from the end. But the good ending should be in that there is a beginning, a denouement, a climax. In general, absolutely everything and always a good ending. It was designed from the very beginning.

My conclusion is this: a fairy tale should start from the beginning. Then there should be some kind of demonstration process; educational, accusatory, and so on. The heroes have to diverge and be unhappy with what is happening, this one wants to kill and it does not work, this one wants to escape but can’t, they want to get married, it’s not working, and so on.

That is, in all this they cannot find ties between them, and who writes that fairy tale? The Creator! That’s when they gradually despair of solutions, each in their own way: ”What to do?” Then they begin to understand that they are under an upper will, and then everything begins to work out for them, to come together. And it turns out that this upper will, the upper force, leads them to the right decision, to a good end. And good triumphs.

Question: Were you really talking about our time just now?

Answer: It is precisely in our time that this upper force begins to manifest itself in various states, when humanity has no other answer to the questions than to say that it is the upper force

Comment: And this unkind fairy tale, as it seems to humanity, begins to move.

My Response: And then it will be kind! Because it points you to the ultimate solution—the one who conceived it, started developing it and doing it, and now has to finish it.

Question: And we are led to love, to happiness?

Answer: Yes!
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 1/21/21

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Question: Is faith a feeling of the Creator? Do I believe you because you are great and strong in my eyes?

Answer: No, this is not at all the same faith the wisdom of Kabbalah speaks about. In the wisdom of Kabbalah, the term “faith” means the characteristic of bestowal, the characteristic of Bina. Whereas the fact that you just believe me, is not considered in the wisdom of Kabbalah because it lacks any basis, just like in any other science.

Question: Which is to say, I don’t have to believe you?

Answer: That’s your business.

Question: But often what you say actually happens. And I believe you.

Answer: That is because with my words I connect previous concepts in you that could not be connected. And this is pleasant, calming, and freeing for you.

The linking and connection of opposites that appear in you because you are listening to me gives you a connection with me. Through your egoistic senses, you begin to feel that it is worthwhile to listen to me, because in a way like this I put concepts in you that were previously incapable of being connected, which could not complement each other.

While now, they complement each other and you think that you have faith in me. But this is not the faith of which we are speaking.

Faith is the characteristic of Bina that can only be attained from above through the bestowal of light. The upper light bestows upon your egoism and you begin to feel within it a characteristic that is its opposite, the desire to bestow, to fulfill someone. That is what is called faith.

And this is not the same faith about which religions speak. The wisdom of Kabbalah doesn’t work by means of things like these.

Question: It follows that I still have a long way to go to get to true faith?

Answer: What difference does that make? You are on the way in any case.
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From KabTV’s “Fundamentals of Kabbalah” 12/22/19

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Question: The entire world is a system of connections between the inanimate, vegetative, and animate levels of nature, and between people. Today, we see the world through our egoistic connections. Everyone feels them differently. What does a Kabbalist see?

Answer: A Kabbalist very clearly sees all connections: how much people give to each other, care for each other, are connected to each other. He sees this in the measure of his correction and thus feels the whole world as existing in the quality of bestowal.

And he constantly reaches other attainments built on oppositeness from the quality of bestowal and love, and two systems are revealed to him: the receiving and the bestowing. And he must work in order to combine them.

Question: Can we say that a person who has crossed the Machsom sees absolutely all connections between people?

Answer: That is correct. However, he will not use them to the detriment of the system itself, which is called the Creator.
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From KabTV’s “Spiritual States” 2/6/20

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The Ninth Commandment says “You shall not bear false witness against your neighbor.” You create completely new conditions in the world and risk distorting the entire harmony between the forces of the world if you pronounce false conditions and enter false parameters.

Question: Do I move even further away from my neighbor in this way and consequently from the Creator?

Answer: Yes. All the rules are built so that man does not move away from the Creator.

Comment: In Kabbalah, the Creator is the purpose. We can only attune ourselves to Him through society. Therefore, if I bear false witness against my neighbor, then I move myself away from the Creator. It is a pity that we do not see it. Then we would observe these laws.

My Response: No. Then we would just be machines. We would not have the freedom of choice.

Comment: It is so hard to observe all this.

My Response: Not hard, but impossible. There can be nothing else in nature . We have to agree with that. We must understand that this is the only way for us to be properly attuned to nature, to its highest law, which raises us above our animalistic nature.

Therefore, we have to agree with this ascent, give in to its forces, and then everything will work out.
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From KabTV’s “Spiritual States” 12/26/19

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No one will give us a break— nature will demand a reckoning from us. We must ask ourselves: what’s the right way for us to go through all the blows. Because only with the help of mutual #inclusion can we rise to a state where all forces of #nature will influence us kindly.

The #coronavirus won’t go away quickly. There is one iron rule that will always safeguard us: if we match the laws of nature, we will be able to eradicate the plague; and if we go against the laws—we will be imprisoned.
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Connection, incorporation, all of these are signs of broken souls, broken desires coming closer together when they feel how far they are from each other but try to come closer. They have a goal to reach the most correct form of the corrected soul, to become one person with one heart, and to restore the system of Adam HaRishon.

The next step in this rapprochement is Arvut (mutual guarantee). This is no longer a simple incorporation, penetration into each other’s desires, but a willingness to exist instead of a friend. It is an active action.

Incorporation can still be egoistic, but mutual guarantee obligates each of us to act for the sake of the other. Therefore, mutual guarantee is an action that completes our corrections.

Complete mutual guarantee means that each one includes qualities of all the others in himself, all the qualities, desires, and thoughts created by the Creator in the common soul of Adam HaRishon. The entire complete soul and every part of it become completely identical, that is, the general and the particular become equal to each other. This equality of the general and the particular is the sign of the corrected spiritual Kli.

It is important the mutual guarantee to come from our sense of responsibility toward the Creator. That is, I am ready to be a guarantor for everyone in the system of Adam HaRishon, for the entire common soul, replacing anyone in his place, and answer for him before the Creator. It turns out that I am responsible for correcting the entire common soul of Adam.

In an effort to reach mutual guarantee, I try to find in what I can replace my friends in order to take upon myself more and more of their responsibilities. I find out what they have to do for the created beings and for the Creator, and I am ready to take it upon myself. The mutual guarantee obligates me to this.

We are able to replace each other because we originally belonged to the same soul and only the shattering separated us from each other, made us opposite. It is precisely this distance that separates us that we can fill with love, as it is said: “Love will cover all crimes.” Then we reach a truly powerful Kli, which is 620 times larger than before the shattering.

The complete correction of the soul of Adam HaRishon is reached through the complete guarantee of each part for all the others parts: everyone is included in everyone, each part includes the whole, and thus, we reach the perfect Kli.

In spirituality, the particular and the general are equal and there is no difference between them. Therefore, the mutual guarantee can be realized only after complete incorporation and responsibility like people sailing in the same boat, if they drown, they drown together.

Through incorporation and mutual guarantee, even the smallest, secondary Kli contains all the Kelim within itself and is able to perform the functions of the entire common soul. There is no difference between this particular soul and the general soul.

Because of the mutual guarantee and the willingness of each one to replace the other, it turns out that everyone includes the entire soul of Adam HaRishon and is capable of serving everyone if the need arises.
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From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 3/4/21, “The Mutual Guarantee”

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