Answer: We must convince ourselves of this. In order to do so, we need to listen and to attain what Kabbalists write about, and to try to absorb it as much as we can, which is quite complicated.
It takes years before we gradually begin to agree with what Kabbalists write, and then a few more years in order to accept it because we relate to it rather passively. It takes years to perceive this seriously.
It seems to us that closeness and connection are like child’s play and that there is actually nothing to be done, and what is this wisdom of Kabbalah in the first place? What is it about? Is it meant to quiet down noisy children?
It is only then that a serious process of repulsion begins, and if a person overcomes it, he goes for it in order to reach closeness.
From KabTV’s “Fundamentals of Kabbalah” 1/12/20