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New Life #394 – Superstitions And The Evil Eye

New Life #394 – Superstitions And The Evil Eye
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Yael Leshed-Harel

Summary

What is the role of superstitions and the evil eye in our modern world and how can we influence each other for the best?

Animals feel nature, but humans don’t. Hence the need for different lucky talismans, red strings, etc. It all stems from not knowing the system we live in. In nature everything is deterministic.

Man is a psychological creature and so blessings affect him and his power to cope, but the blessings cannot actually change anything in life nor change the system of nature.

The script is ready. Basically it is impossible to change it, but we can change the way we regard what comes along.

The evil eye is if people think badly about someone, they can change his fate. This is the reason that unfounded hatred is destructive. We are connected to each other by an internal network. Our thoughts toward one another are in this network. Millions of strings tie us together, and today harmful arrows flow in them, not good thoughts.

If a person sets the rule of “love thy friend as thyself” as the goal in life, he has nothing to fear. A person should be modest and not stand out, not because of fear of the evil eye, but so that he will not cause others to fail.

You can buy a new car, but you should keep the intention that your neighbor will not hate you.
From KabTV’s “New Life #394 – Superstitions And The Evil Eye,” 6/3/14

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New Life #393 – Distinguishing Between Good And Evil

New Life #393 – Distinguishing Between Good And Evil
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Yael Leshed-Harel

Summary

Can we reach the absolute definition of good and evil? Why do we need it and what are the special conditions we need in order to use it as a compass in order to advance in the right direction?

Our definitions of good and evil depend on our culture, our upbringing, and our society. In order to actually distinguish between good and evil, we need an absolute definition that can be the criterion. Good—a state of balance, harmony and the complementation of all the forces of nature, evil—the opposite, imbalance.

The compass that guides us in the right direction is being balanced both physically, and in the human and spiritual sense. Total balance means being with others when there are no differences between us, trying to manage our lives so that a common force, goodness, the upper force, is revealed between us.

The right upbringing should develop the sense of the recognition of good and evil in a person. Love is good and the opposite is bad. My nature is wanting to use everything for my own sake, but since everyone is like me, I suffer…

The criterion according to which we measure every action is simple: whatever is good for others is good.

Distinguishing between good and evil means distinguishing between using others for my own sake and using myself for the sake of others.
From KabTV’s “New Life #393 – Distinguishing Between Good And Evil,” 6/3/14

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New Life #392 – The Good Force And The Evil Force

New Life #392 – The Good Force And The Evil Force
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Nitzah Mazoz

Summary

Question: All the religions present the world as being dominated by two forces: the force of good and the force of evil. That is how it feels to the common man. It seems to him that good and evil forces are at work on him. What is the good force that does everything good and what is the evil force that brings all the troubles?

Many dream of there being only one force in the world, the force of good, and generally don’t understand why the evil force exists. This split, the constant struggle between good and evil, between light and darkness, between destruction and construction, accompanies us all through life. Why is there a conflict between these two forces?

Answer: There is no conflict. We just think that good and evil forces exist, but there are no evil and good forces in nature. It is true that there are opposing forces: plus and minus, attraction and repulsion, light and darkness.

Without the two opposing forces, life could not exist, there would be no metabolism within the living body, there would be no connection between fundamental particles or between bodies in space, which connect them into a single whole.

Life is always based on the clash between forces and flows according to the “middle line” that connects them. Two opposing forces operate, and from the balance between them the next phase of a new life is born.

In other words, the opposing forces that exist within matter and create a particular harmony between them. So from the electrons and positrons, from the opposing forces that exist within the atom, whole atoms are built that become connected together into molecules through attraction. And within the molecules, the opposing forces can even determine what is good and what is harmful to the connection between them. So they attract, take in and absorb the materials that are beneficial to them and emit the harmful materials. That is how metabolism happens, life and evolution begin.

All of this happens through the correct integration between the two opposing forces. Without this, there is no development and no life. And without this, our universe could not evolve on the inanimate level and especially not on the vegetative level. In plants, there is a more complex integration of the opposing forces and on the animate level it is an even more complex integration.

A complex scrutiny of the definition of good and evil on all levels happens in the human brain and perception. Our intellect is based on a constant scrutiny of the struggle between the opposing forces and on the search for a form of connection that can bring maximal benefit.

It is not possible to use one force without the second force; it is possible only in the integration between them. That is how life is constructed. On the levels of the still, vegetative, and animate, this system works and develops excellently.

If sometimes we see natural disasters, this is only because we measure them with respect to us. However, in fact, the entire universe, the world, the still, vegetative, and animate levels of nature advance under the influence of the positive and negative forces that operate between them and promote their evolution.

All is good until we reach the humans. The two forces of good and evil, as we call them, are operable even on humanity. If we were to become aware of the program of nature and would protect the balance between the positive and negative forces, we would live in peace and quiet.

The problem is humanity has freedom of choice. They choose the balance between the positive and negative forces themselves, according to their desire. Here the origin of our ruined nature is revealed; it is because we make decisions more in favor of what is pleasant and comfortable for us instead of making the right decision.

We are more interested in what is profitable than in truth. So we begin to pave a curved path that doesn’t pass through the middle between the negative and positive force that should be equal in the correct integration between them to promote evolution. Instead, we constantly tend in the direction of what is comfortable to us at the expense of others.

After all, all of us are a part of integral nature and we need to maintain a general harmony with the world of the still, vegetative, and animate, evolving along with nature in the same direction. If, together with freedom of choice, we were to protect the balance between the two forces, the harmony between them, we would evolve correctly.

We would not allow ourselves to use the forces of nature more than we need for living in harmony between us and with the environment. Our lives would become easier and peaceful. We would get what is imperative for our existence from nature, and we would use the rest of the power for our internal development.

All of the problems of humanity started because we began to produce more than what is required for life. This is the critical point from which humanity began to self-destruct. From then, we departed from the balance of forces and began to turn them according to the desire of our ego.

This is the general picture: there is a positive force, a negative force, and we, humans, together with our egoism, are found between them. If we were to use these two forces to balance our lives and the ego that erupts in us, we would utilize them only for our internal spiritual growth; we would then rise to the next level, called the speaking level.

Our material lives, meaning life within our bodies on the animate level, with all that is required for our existence, food and family, would remain below, in a balanced form, in the state in which they need to be. And we would use our egoism to bring the two opposing forces into a balance between and to rise to a spiritual level, to spiritual life.
From KabTV’s “New Life #392 – The Good Force And The Evil Force,” 6/3/14

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New Life #329 – Patience

New Life #329 – Patience
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Yael Leshed-Harel

Summary

We are under constant pressure and are impatient most of the time. Why is this, how does this state influence the connections between us, and how can we reach a more relaxed environment and be more patient?

We measure patience and lack of patience according to the disturbances from others. Our ego is growing and as a result, we have become impatient. Whoever interferes with my enjoyment, get lost!

Israelis are especially impatient because they have very big egos. They want immediate results.

In the next generation, impatience will grow even more. Life will become very difficult with social problems and health problems. Due to impatience, the family unit is collapsing and people don’t want to get married or have children.

It’s possible to relate to someone with patience only if he is a very close friend, when we are connected as one.
When I feel good, people in society are loving, I am not pressed for time. I have patience, I feel free.

Try to develop a little love for the person in front of you, and then you will see that you have patience for him. When you work on a team on some project, put the pressure on the side and try to develop a warm relationship with them. If you put the building of good relations before the success of the project, you will succeed in the project as well.

In the next generation, there will be a difficult problem with patience. People won’t be able to stand each other. We must work on correcting man’s nature, providing education concerning the building of mutual connection.

Patience is the standard. Delaying gratification is better, putting something different in front of you and turning your attention to it.

If a person is impatient, it is preferable to have a few friends join him to share the tension and stress.

All solutions will come through the connection with others, through developing the ability to look at life through various viewpoints.
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From KabTV’s “New Life #329 – Patience,” 12/11/13

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New Life #322 – The Desire To Succeed

New Life #322 – The Desire To Succeed
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Nitzah Mazoz

Summary

Why does a person aspire to succeed, how does this affect our values, is it possible to succeed alone, and is there success that is eternal?

Our foundation is the desire to enjoy. There are six kinds of desires: food, sex, family, wealth, honor, and knowledge.

We are in constant competition with our surroundings. Each success is relative. There are special people who designate a very limited goal for themselves in the fields of science or the arts. But most people move with the majority with the popular goals such as wealth, control, and honor.

The big question is what it is it to really succeed in life?

Our problem today is that we don’t build a person. Young people go out in life without understanding what success really is. And so we uselessly spend our lives running after imaginary goals that were sold to us.

“For each person who passes away there still remains half of his desires unfulfilled.” There is a constant pursuit after success that always slips away from you.

The younger generation knows in advance that it isn’t worthwhile to work hard. They are narcissists; they want everything here and now.

There is a difference between the desire to enjoy and the desire to succeed. Success is when someone builds himself up through his own efforts. To this end, a person needs to set goals and work very hard to achieve them, and then it is considered success.

The investment builds the person. People who have set different goals in life turn out different from each other. So sometimes it is impossible to explain your feelings concerning your own success to someone else.

Currently, scientific success is attained more through teamwork, through the cooperation of a team of researchers.
We are gradually approaching the desire to succeed as a group. And when you see one star, behind the discovery there stands a great team.

The philosophical question, looking at life overall, what is considered success in knowledge?

What kind of success doesn’t dissipate and in retrospect won’t disappointment me for investing my life for it? We run away from the big questions concerning the meaning of life because we don’t have answers. So why suffer?

Through the generations, only a few succeeded in cracking the secret of life. Today these questions bother the masses.

Is it possible to reach eternal success? Or is it all just “eat and drink since tomorrow we die”?

We should find out a noble goal because if we succeed in attaining it, we will never be sorry.
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From KabTV’s “New Life #322 –The Desire to Succeed,” 3/20/14

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New Life #321 – Humility And Pride

New Life #321 – HumilityAnd Pride
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Yael Leshed-Harel

Summary

What power is there in the attribute of humility, how do humility and pride affect all aspects of life, and how does one properly use these attributes to benefit the society?

There are several degrees of humility. At the simplest level, we speak about a modest life without being proud and patronizing. A higher level is to face life humbly and understand that I am not an all-powerful hero who controls everything.

In the past there were great rulers like Napoleon and Alexander the Great. Today a ruler could find himself in jail. There is no respect today, not for scientists or artists, really not for anyone. There is nothing left for man to be proud of.

Imagine that the still, vegetative, animal, and man were sitting together talking. The still would say, “I am the basis of the whole world. There would be nothing without me.” The vegetation would say, “I give life to all, all the oxygen comes from me, without me there would only be lifeless stones.” The animal would say, “I fill all of nature, ranging from microbes to huge elephants, with life.

And what about man? The other creatures in nature are connected to nature and fulfill their orders with humility. And man as if wants to control everything, to change everything in his favor, not to be dependent on nature. This is pride.

Man is missing humility. If we would bend a little to nature, we would find its inner strength. If we had humility, we would be able to arrange all of our lives to be much more comfortable.

Today, people work very long hours, barely see their families, working just to attain all kinds of false goals. Think about it, how are we happier than the previous generation? Our pride is bringing us to total destruction.

Humility is to learn the laws of nature and to try to fulfill them. Animals don’t exaggerate at all.

Once we descend from the artificial level of pride toward humility, we will discover why nature awakens pride in us.

The Sages said that humility is the most important measure because it enables a deep penetration into nature. The reversal of great pride to humility builds the perfect life for man and enables him to touch eternity.
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From KabTV’s “New Life #321 – Humility and Pride ,” 3/18/14

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New Life #320 – Happiness And Sadness

New Life #320 – Happiness and Sadness
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Yael Leshed-Harel

Summary

What is the special state of happiness, how is the feeling of sadness shown in a person, how does this relate to one’s development, and is it possible to constantly feel happiness?

Happiness: the result from satisfaction from a certain passion I felt. The bigger the deficiency was, the bigger the happiness will be.

Conditions for happiness: 1) I lack something, 2) I attain that thing, and 3) the ability to express happiness in attaining it.

Anything makes a small child happy. In this way nature pushes him to develop. An adult always feel lack and sadness. If I look at the people I love, like my children, when something good happens to them, I’m happy. But usually I’m surrounded by people that I have no urge to indulge. “When they feel good, then I feel bad.”

The media bombs us with advertisements that aim at giving us the constant feeling of deficiency. Do you want to be happy? “Then buy this product, and also this one, and that one….”

On the street, we are surrounded by unhappy people, tense people. On the road everyone pressures you. It is like this everywhere… What do you do? We have already become used to not being happy. Today from an early age children are under pressure and tension.

Joy brings expansion and eruption; sadness leads to convergence and contraction

In the past, both culture and sports made people happy. Today, for example, football results are manipulated, life is plastic.

Happiness is the completion of the soul, the sages said referring to happiness from attaining the essence of life. Why are we commanded to be happy? Because if I’m not happy, then it’s a sign that I am not, at present, living correctly. Why is it important to please others? Because worrying about myself brings sadness and worrying about others brings happiness. People who direct their lives to attaining perfection, see everything that happens to them as a means for advancement.

Today there all kinds of methods of how to be happy, but they are like applying a band-aid instead of doing a root canal. The real solution is to find the source of life, where all the pressures come from, in order to bring me closer to discovery. Life is one big game in which we are required to solve the riddle of existence. This is the big goal.

Happiness for the ego: my ego requires me to be higher than others. Thus when others fail, I’m happy.

The solution for happiness is simple: develop feeling for others as if they were my relatives.

10% of people naturally feel others as close to them. The other 90% need to develop this attitude toward others. Today it is a must because our world is becoming increasingly connected, we are all dependent on each other. If we develop a concern for the welfare of others, it will immediately fill us. And when we are as one body, all of us will be healed.

Envying others destroys me, I am constantly feeling deficiency, I eat myself.

How have the Jewish people suffered so much yet preserved happiness? Survival and vision: “light unto the nations.” Today, the Israeli society needs to connect, reach happiness, and promote this to the world.Through the connection between us, we will discover the secret of life. This will bring us true happiness and complete joy.
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From KabTV’s “New Life #320 – Happiness and Sadness ,” 3/18/14

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New Life #813 – The Shmoneh Esrei (18) Prayer

New Life #813 – The Shmoneh Esrei (18) Prayer
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Nitzah Mazoz

Summary

There are many questions regarding prayer: What should one pray for? Who is the upper force? How do you turn to It? How do you receive from It? How do you thank It?

We have to get closer to the upper force, which means to resemble it in our attributes so our prayer will not be egoistic. The prayers were composed by people who attained Godliness and we have to understand what is concealed in them.

All our work in life is to pray, to turn to the upper force that wants to do us good. We have to prepare a deficiency on our part, which means that we should lack exactly what the Creator wants to give us. Otherwise it is like a mother who has prepared porridge for us, but we ask her for candies.

A prayer begins with praise because it is only if the upper force is important to us that we will enjoy the “porridge” that He has prepared for us. After the praise, come the request, when we ask for the correction of our egoistic desires. At the end, we praise the upper force again because if we have undergone the right process, the “porridge” now tastes like heaven.

You cannot turn to the Creator by yourself. He will not listen. Turning to Him requires getting closer through our attributes. Because the Creator’s attribute is to bestow goodness, to do good, we also have to bestow goodness and do good in order to get closer to Him.

The Creator created one man and has shattered him to many parts. By connecting and through the good relations between us, we bring Him contentment.

When we ask for something and don’t receive it, it is because we don’t keep the rule of “make your desire like His desire, so that He will make His desire like yours.” A connection with Godliness means love.
From KabTV’s “New Life #813 – The Shmoneh Esrei (18) Prayer,” 1/17/17

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New Life #812 – The Jewish Prayer

New Life #812 – The Jewish Prayer
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Nitzah Mazoz

Summary

People have always felt insecure and turned to nature’s forces with different requests. A person’s inclination to turn to the upper force is natural and you can already see it in small children.

The proper appeal to the system of nature is called a prayer. A prayer includes self-examination with respect to the plan of the creation; that is, a person’s examination of how he uses his desire in relation to nature. Instead of using everyone for his own benefit, he should use himself for the sake of others, for the sake of the Creator.

When a person turns to the system of nature it is called a prayer. The three daily prayers correlate with the three spiritual phases and they begin as a new egoistic desire enters the system and starts to operate in it. The awakening of a new desire in a person, a corrupt desire, is called evening.

From a spiritual perspective every day begins in the evening when a person refrains from using the new desire that has awakened in him, the morning comes, which means that things become clear with the understanding of how to work with this desire. The phase of working with this desire and the incorporation in the system is called noon.

There is a state in the system of nature called the end of correction, Gmar Tikun, toward which we are advancing. In Gmar Tikun we have to reach a state in which we are connected in one system in absolute love.
From KabTV’s “New Life #812 – The Jewish Prayer,” 1/17/17

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New Life #811 – The Right Attitude To Parenting

New Life #811 – The Right Attitude To Parenting
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Tal Mandelbaum ben Moshe

Summary

“Teach a boy according to his way.”

We should not force a small child to share something with others because it is against his nature. Until the age of two children actually don’t understand that they should be considerate of other people around them. We can give a child examples of how we are considerate of others, but not expect him to behave that way.

We should combine the middle line and the measure of judgment, which means our expectations of the child and the measure of mercy, which is our love for him. When we don’t give a child something, he screams. We have to show him that it doesn’t affect us because the reason for our behavior is above us, as a law.

We have to act according to the approach of “teach a boy according to his way,”because one kid is slow and another is quick etc. Instead of requirements we should give more examples. “Teach a boy according to his way” means letting a child choose what he wants to be in life according to his inclinations.

We shouldn’t try to develop a child’s confidence by challenging him and forcefully putting him in stressful situations. The feeling of confidence is built by a balanced attitude to life, when a child decides what he can or what he cannot do by himself.

The most important thing is to let a child develop the right relationships with others. This is the precondition for success in everything in life. When a child succeeds you should compliment him on having thought and planned his actions in advance, which has led to his success.

You shouldn’t call a child a prince or princess because it makes him or her feel superior to others and this will hinder the child through life.
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From KabTV’s “New Life #811 – The Right Attitude To Parenting,” 1/12/17

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