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New Life #522 – From A New Society To A New Family

New Life #522 – From A New Society To A New Family
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Yael Leshed-Harel

In the last decades we have gone through a dramatic change. Outbreaks, fights, and family conflicts have become commonplace.

Summary

The solution to problems in the family will be found only when we know where nature is leading us, what the law of equivalence of form is, and we equalize our form with Him. All of us must become one big family. When we build a new society, families will get along, there will be love, consideration, and reciprocity; everything that we want to be in the family we must create in society by ourselves.

In the society we are building, every person will begin the day with 15 minutes of watching something about corrected interpersonal relationships. After that at work, the day will begin with a connection workshop about the right relationships between people.

At the end of the day we will move on to a workshop that will prepare us to return home and how to act calmly and to relate to the members of the family at home. Nationwide social education processes like these will bring us to the feeling of a wonderful life; we will be in the clouds. This will heal our connections with the members of the family and co-workers and will also buy security for us.

The direction is: each one must see how he transcends his egoism to a higher life. So that each one will have the forces to relate to the family at home nicely, social support is needed. This future state will be called the next world, a corrected world in which the force of bestowal and love will prevail among us.

Without a nationwide process of social education, no family will succeed in contending with the growing egoism alone. The growing ego will bring every member of the family to close himself off in his own corner without any connection to the others. It is worthwhile conducting a family workshop: Let’s talk about what a good family is, what will let us make concessions, and so on….

Only the education of the people will bring education of the family. The direction is: All of us are friends; all of us are family.
From KabTV’s “New Life #522 – In Honor Of Family Day – From A New Society To A New Family,” 2/15/15

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The Charismatic Leader And The Public Good

laitman_263Question: Who can influence others?

Answer: There are people who have a great influence over others. It comes from the root of their soul. They are born leaders with a special charisma.  And it is very important for their influence to be positive.

We must educate people so that those leaders who succeed in integral education could lead the masses even with the little charisma that they have.
But charisma alone is not enough because it can be a negative sign, as with Hitler. Therefore, we first should correct the person and only then help him become charismatic.

Charisma will appear in precisely from realizing the greatness of the goal and that one can give humanity the knowledge accumulated through those special properties.

But if a person isn’t properly educated, he may become harmful to everyone. Thus, charismatic people who want to be leaders, but do not wish to be part of the integral education system and go through correction, are a big problem!

Correction means seeing oneself working more for the benefit of society more and more. When a person understands the importance of his participation in the common system, then he begins to lead.
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From KabTV’s “Conversations with Michael Laitman” 5/13/15

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Is Neighborliness The Remedy For Civil War?

Dr. Michael LaitmanIn the News (echo.msk): “Scientists claim that you need five or more close friends in order to be happy. Friends that you are not only in close contact with but those with whom you also share your worries and your moments of joy, and with whom you share common interests and hobbies.

“Is this possible in today’s realities of the gray and aggressive metropolis? The situation where neighbors living in the same building not only don’t know one another by name, but sometimes don’t even know what the people living in their building look like is very common. Indifference leads to lack of responsibility and the irresponsibility contributes to various social ills starting from poor maintenance of the building to poor maintenance of the country.

“After all, a society in which people are not connected and where neighbors don’t keep in touch and even express hostility towards one another is doomed to both internal and external destruction. It is easy to manipulate people in such a society and to direct the mass consciousness and energy to whichever direction one desires.

“Lonely people without social support who are governed by fear and panic are inclined to inappropriate actions, which in other circumstances, would never have been considered. In such a society the value of human life drops sharply. After all, it is the life of a stranger I don’t know and who even might be hostile to me. As we all know fear and distrust breeds aggression.

“Such a society can easily find itself on the brink of civil war. At such times, people are not only physically but also emotionally and morally defenseless, disoriented, and easily manipulated. This is a very dangerous situation when a person doesn’t have a friend or a neighbor by his side that he can turn to for advice or help or simply to feel secure and that he is part of a good neighborly world.”

My Comment: It is only by the systematic integral education based on the equivalence of form with nature that we can establish a connection between people, create a feeling of togetherness and a new relationship—one desire in which people feel the upper world.
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The Young And Unemployed Will Not Sit Idle

Dr. Michael LaitmanIn the News (BBC News): “Young people out of work, education or training for six months will have to do unpaid community work to get benefits if the Conservatives win the election.

“David Cameron said about 50,000 18 to 21-year-olds would be required to do daily work experience from day one of their claim, alongside job searching.

“The welfare shake-up would make sure young people ‘don’t get sucked into a life on welfare,’ he said in a speech.

“Labour said the Tories would do nothing to get young people “real jobs.”

“The opposition has pledged a compulsory jobs guarantee for the young unemployed, paid for by a tax on bankers’ bonuses.

“The Conservatives are focusing on welfare reforms this week as they draw up battle lines before May’s general election.

“Their proposed community work programme will cost about £20 m ($31 m) to deliver, paid for by “initial savings” from the delivery of universal credit.

“Those aged between 18 and 21 who have not been in employment, education or training, known as “Neets”, for six months would no longer receive jobseeker’s allowance (JSA).

Instead, they would be paid the youth allowance, paid at the same rate as JSA – £57.35 ($88.67) a week.

“However, to receive it they would be required to carry out 30 hours a week of mandatory community work from the first day of claiming benefits.

“This could involve making meals for older people or working for local charities, alongside 10 hours of job hunting.”

My Comment: But if there is no work or no desire to work, a person cannot survive, so the majority will remain idle. The solution is only to involve everyone in mandatory integral education, not only the unemployed and the young. Only through the method of Kabbalah will it be possible to raise people to the next degree of human development.
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How Can I Control The World?

Dr. Michael LaitmanQuestion: We often observe how there is a certain state of mind among people. The desire to change, lose weight, and the feelings of happiness or depression are transmitted through those airborne droplets. How can one perceive such sensations as personal sensations or as those imposed by the environment?

Answer: The more we delve into the nature of the system, the more we see that everything depends on everyone else. This is a deep, mutual relationship, consisting of thousands of relationships between us. Of course we do not realize it, but the connection remains; it is constant and can’t be ignored.

I can be separated, hidden on a desert island or in a deep forest, but as my distance from society grows, I condemn myself to a limited, miserable life. For example, if I were in space by myself, I would soon find that all of my senses had atrophied like a cell or a small piece of flesh that was cut off from the body.

The study of a measure of our communication with each other is very important because it puts us in a position that is relative to the true environment. First of all, it concerns human society and how I am supposed to be associated with it.

How can one discover such connections and learn how to feel them? In what form should we give and receive? in principle, that is our goal, and this means that we must study the integrated system—the means to achieve a happy life.

Comment: When something in us is uncorrected and we feel the reason, then we instinctively begin to care for ourselves.

Answer: We do not have any physiological or mental illnesses, or personal, family, or common global problems. There is only the fault of the system in which we find ourselves. Therefore, we see that politics, economics, finance, and the lives of nations and peoples are mixed and depend on each other.

If I try to dominate someone, then I definitely get the opposite reaction. At one time, Europe wanted to rule Africa and Asia, but now it is at the mercy of its immigrants.

Question: So, if I have something uncorrected, should I look for the cause within myself?

Answer: The interesting thing is that I am not the reason for this! I do not blame myself for the fact that I am who I am or the entire system for the way it is. However, I can help change the system, and then it will affect me. Actually, the method of integral education gives people an understanding of how the world works and how it can be managed.

Question: Suppose that I realize my condition is caused by the general state of the system. What should I do with such an understanding?

Answer: You come into a group of people who want to improve their quality of life as you do. For example, there are ten of us, and we begin to communicate with each other through a variety of exercises and games.

If we will connect properly, then we start to feel the connection over our egoism, personal motives, and habits. Sometimes, this feeling arises in a group of people bound by a common mission or in a family in which personal interests are inferior to the collective.

At that moment when we connect and become as one, this “one” becomes an integral feeling. Through such feelings, we begin to pick up the integral force contained in the world, just as a satellite array absorbs signals from space.

Question: How can such information help me in life?

Answer: Society is a closed system. If small parts are balanced, like the tenth we talked about, it will certainly make all of human society healthier. People will gradually see that with this approach, it will be possible to correct all human shortcomings.
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From KabTV’s “A New Life” 11/12/13

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Dr. Michael LaitmanQuestion: If a man became famous in the world thanks to his exceptional achievements, does it release him from the fear of death?

Answer: I don’t think that there is a man who is not afraid of death if he understands that death is the end. Only beasts don’t have a fear of death. They have only an instinctive fear of what can harm them, and they live according to the instinct of self-preservation.

However, people are afraid of death because they have an imagination, feelings, and they can learn from their experiences and events that occur.

After all, the man who was my friend is dead now and there was nothing left except a lifeless body; the breath of life left him. There is nothing more to do but to bury him, and I understand that this will also happen to me.

The feeling of losing life is a unique experience. On the one hand, we must, if necessary,  go to battle, and one might be killed. However, in this case, we have the opportunity to overcome the fear of death.

We fly into space and risk our lives in all kinds of dangerous situations, and it is not because we are forced to, but simply because of the internal pull. There is a special attraction to feeling yourself on the brink of life and death. This is a known psychological phenomenon.

Man is built in such a way that the opinion of society obliges him to heroism and guides him in all kinds of situations. However, in old age, death scares a man and invites a feeling of despair, uselessness, and brings out the concealed fear within him. Man tries to suppress this fear and does not let it break through; what helps is being among people in their midst of their lives.

The worst thing that we can do to an old person is to put him in a nursing home, in the company of old people like himself. We think it is good and more comfortable for him. But it is not good for anyone. An old person needs to be in a normal society among young and old that are full of life.

By gathering all the old people in one place we harm them, no matter what medical treatment they are provided.

Question: What do you think is the ideal life for an old person?

Answer: I think that as long as he has the strength, a person should work and bring benefit to society until his last days. Perhaps he cannot walk and can only sit, but if he is able to do work that matches his ability. And everyone will thank him for that; he will know that he is valued, and will continue like that almost until his last day.

Question: How can a person overcome the psychological fear of impending death?

Answer: I think that man needs to be engaged in work and be occupied in it in such a way that, until the last minute of his life, he will bring benefit to society. I’m not talking about very weak people that can’t see, hear, or perceive anything, but as long as a person has even limited power, he can bring great benefit in the dissemination of integral education. If he integrates in a group of young people, he will bring them great benefit, and they will also bring him benefit.

When we teach the method of connection, we mix people from all ages in groups and try to give each age group the opportunity to express themselves in relation to other age groups. By that, we bring benefit to the old and young. Old people can teach the young, support them, and thus provide and strengthen the spirit of life.
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From KabTV’s “A New Life” 4/22/14

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The World Is In A Crisis Of Trust

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Opinion (Yaroslav Romanchik, President of Scientific Research Mises Center): “Money cannot buy love – an irreplaceable asset for keeping families happy. Economic wellbeing is not enough for that. We need trust which cannot be purchased with money. Trust can only be formed and ‘assembled’ from tiny grains with care under cautious control of common sense and a generous heart. Trust is especially needed to overcome a crisis.

“A husband cannot replenish a lack of trust by simply writing a check to his wife. When business is in crisis, mere increase of credit line won’t resolve the problem; on the contrary, it most likely will exacerbate the situation.

“Obviously, governments cannot get rid of crises by increasing loans, selling their “family silverware” and/or reducing national revenues.

“We are in need of lots of trust: between investors and banks, financial institutions and borrowers, businesses and authorities, citizens and governments, consumers and manufacturers, common people and political leaders, general public and businesses, media, community organizations, etc. In order to exit the crisis, we need powerful moral authorities. The list of the most influential people does not coincide with the rating of the richest people published in Forbes -500.”

Comment: People won’t trust each other if they are governed by egoism; each of us wishes good only to himself. Only the fear that we will harm ourselves even more keeps us from mutual destruction. We can trust only those who love us, like infants in their mothers’ arms.

If under the influence of an integral upbringing we can manage to change our inexplicable (natural) hatred toward each other into love, then this will eventually descend to our world. Nature has prepared a method of this process for us. The question is whether it will happen before or after we admit our mutual groundless hatred.
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Will We Vanish In The Next Twenty Years?

laitman_269Opinion (Ashok Gadgil, Professor of Civil and Environmental Engineering, Deputy Director, Berkeley Lab’s Environmental Energy Technologies Division):

“Modern civilization is facing a serious risk of vanishing in the next 20 years. The reason is that the speed at which we’re consuming natural resources exceeds their rate of self-replenishment.

“Climate changes are the first signs of this process. Our duty is to exercise a compound approach in addressing global risks that we currently face.  New economics should be based on our deep understanding that resources of the Earth are almost gone.

“Causes: increases in global population together with an ongoing escalation of consumption. Previously, the population used to be small and stable. People’s longevity was relatively short and there was a high rate of infant mortality.  Technical innovations brought to life new resources, thus allowing the number of people to grow. World population increased significantly after chlorination of water began. The discovery of antibiotics increased population growth even more.

“When women don’t participate in social life, there are always more children in the family. The best way to control the growth of population is to educate women.

“Literacy is the first and greatest method of preventing excessive population growth.

“Education is the second major element that helps to restrain climate fluctuation. If we don’t feel the boundaries within which we should continue to expand, we will have to endure natural catastrophes until they eradicate us.

“Exhaustion of resources is the third danger that we will face until we change the course of our development. This also depends on education: we have to realize that our planet has limited resources and we have to use them sparingly.

“Many people think that technical innovations will resolve these problems, but their implementation also depends on social morality and education.

“Each species tends to grow and thrive; all of them live in harmony and are interdependent. Only a human being strives to seize the whole territory for his own sake; such behavior cannot last for long. We have no other way, but to find balance between Nature and ourselves. However, not many people think of generations to come; everybody is preoccupied with the present moment. Once again, this problem is associated with our upbringing and education!”

Comment: The assumption is right. The question is how to implement this into practice: we have to create a methodology of integral education and upbringing. Only those people who have attained all layers of nature (Kabbalists) can come up with such a system. That’s why our main task is to complete the course on integral studies and upbringing and offer it to the widest circles of humanity.
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A Good Place For Developing The Soul

Dr. Michael LaitmanThe reincarnation of the souls is like the recycling of water in our world. This is a constant exchange that takes place between different energy levels in which are found our energetic characteristics called the soul.

A soul is something ephemeral, an energy state of a person that is constantly rising and falling. Cycles like these are necessary to realize the constant blending, adhering, and division of all the souls with each other. They constantly create mutual correction, mutual integration, and bring all the individual souls into a single, generally shared state of one single soul.

This state is called the completion of correction, and we must attain it soon. Therefore, both the wisdom of Kabbalah and the crisis have appeared in this world. Not much time is left for us to reach this state, either through the blows of nature, through huge problems, or through learning and proper use of the method of  the wisdom of connection (Integral Education).

Question: In our world are there any energetic places that can fulfill the soul?

Answer: No, there are no places in the world with such unique characteristics. They influence our mental, physiological, and even our emotional attributes, but not the soul, not spirituality, meaning not the ascent of a person to the characteristic of bestowal and love.

Only in a strong group that is created correctly and in which people mutually cooperate in the right way is the focus of a state like this to be found where a person can enter this society and develop very rapidly.

This is not a geographic location; rather, it is simply an energy that is accumulated by many people yearning to discover the central force of the world. Only a Kabbalistic group is a good place for developing the soul.
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From the International Summer Camp In Bulgaria “Day Two” 7/12/14, Lesson #4

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The Science That Reveals The Secret Of Creation

Dr. Michael LaitmanWe are living in a very interesting times that are very unclear. Humanity has always been accustomed to making plans for 10 and even for 50 years ahead. People knew why they were alive and in what direction their nation was developing. But around 30-40 years ago, we lost our direction in life and and we now no longer know why we are living and developing.

Every person, family, and nation is in a situation like this. It dominates us so much that we no longer want to learn since we don’t see any results from it. Children are not connected to their parents and don’t want to marry, create a family, or give birth to children.

They don’t have any particular, clear purpose in life, such as building a home, raising a child, and so on. Pople have lost the taste for life. Many people in the world are depressed, and to forget, use drugs. The percentage of divorces is rising at a dizzying rate.

This strange time shows our distancing from each other, our loosing connection with our nation, with our family, and with friends  There was a time when there were very strong ties between relatives. Today this is not so, people can travel to another land and live in a society with a different culture.

The sensation of meaninglessness in life has spread everywhere in the world in different forms. We don’t set any unique goals for ourselves and don’t think about what will be in another 30, 40, 50, or 100 years. In the past this was interesting, if not for the individual person, then at least the nation, but now this doesn’t interest anyone. Everyone lives only for today since that is easier and simpler.

Never has the world been in such a state, which is a sign of a period of transition. We must pass from this state to a new state, meaning that we must begin to search for new values that make life worth living. Today there are no such values for people.

This meaninglessness is appalling. Even if person has a desire, he or she cannot realize their hopes and goals. Everything is falling apart on all levels: materially, spiritually, culturally, physically, in families, and in society.

It is precisely at this time that the wisdom of Kabbalah has been revealed to us. It originated 3,800 years ago in ancient Babylon. It says that once we were in the same state of mutual rejection that we feel today. Our ego reached such dimensions that we lost the connection with each other and were scattered throughout the world and distant from those strong societal connections in Babylon where we had lived and worked. Much cultural evidence has remained for us that reminds us of the separation that we experienced in Babylon.

Today we are beginning to enter into a similar situation, except on a new level. Today our planet is becoming smaller, as in ancient Babylon, and like the Babylonians, we don’t know what to do. Again, it is not clear to us how it is possible to get along with each other. We also don’t want to get along, so we divorce, separate, and disconnect. Each one feels himself an individualist.

Kabbalah speaks about this, and that today we must rise above our ego and understand that the same problem that is being discovered today in us, in our children, the family, society, the nation, and  the world has been awakened so that we will rise above ourselves and begin to develop connections between us.

This connection raises us to the next level of existence. Through the system of connection between us that humanity is creating, we are beginning to feel a new world, an absolutely new state. After all, today we perceive creation through our five corporeal senses, but we are ready to feel it via an additional, integral sense that we can develop if we connect to a system of communication and cooperation between us.

That is, instead of perceiving my egoistic, private world, I will feel the world as integral and connected. I will then begin to feel the entire system, the whole of  creation, and the interaction between its parts to such a degree that I will feel the world and myself in an absolutely different way.

Today we feel that we exist in the world for the number of years in a web of interactions between us. But if we begin to connect with one another, in spite of what our ego dictates to us, we will acquire a new system of communication and discover ourselves existing on another level, in an integral dimension in which there is no beginning or end. After all, the connection between us will make it possible for us to see the world through others, a multidimensional world and not linearly the way we see it today.

It is not easy to explain this to a person and for them to reach a perception of this world. But as a result of unique exercises, according to the method of the wisdom of Kabbalah, we can reach this and see an absolutely different creation.

The wisdom of Kabbalah tells us that whether we want it or not, we must reach this. So we are found in a state of crisis in all of nature, which shows us that nature itself is integral and all of its parts are found in complete harmony with each other, and a person is not ready to exist in such a harmonious picture because the ego takes him out of it.

Since we are the opposite of nature, we constantly damage it and don’t want to be a part of the integral picture. And so we feel the confrontation with nature in the form of a crisis.

The present crisis will continue until we reach the same direct integral cooperation in a good connection with nature like all of its other components.

The still, vegetative, and animate nature are in harmony, homeostasis, equilibrium. Man, using his egoism and devouring with this egoistic nature more than is necessary for his existence, violates this harmony and eventually leads to the crisis itself.

Therefore, the confrontation with nature will continue and will lead us to such a shock that we still have to find a way to continuing existence. Indeed, despite the technological advances, we can not live a normal life without the proper interaction and harmony with the environment.

Harmony can be found only if we pass through a certain period of re-education, through efforts to remake ourselves, rising above our selfish nature and arriving at the correct interaction between us.

This is the main subject of the wisdom of Kabbalah, which tells the history of man’s appearance on the planet and about reaching the end of his egoistic development, when he is compelled to change himself. The wisdom of Kabbalah explains how we can change ourselves to emerge from the crisis, which will be felt on a more and more brutal scale by the individual, the family, society, the nation and the world.

So we are obliged to learn how to interact between us. For this there is the method of integral education that allows an easy way to implement this: gradual, correct interaction between us with the help of special exercises.

Very rapidly, other forces of nature will be revealed before us that are opposite to the negative, egoistic forces that cause conflicts between us. A person will feel that he can balance them with the altruistic forces to the extent that he will begin to feel the world as good and not cruel.

He will begin to understand the forces of nature, why nature behaves like this with him, and in what form he can use the forces of nature for his own good and truly benefit from his very existence on the planet.

When a person begins to interact correctly with other people, meaning that he begins to connect with them correctly, he will begin to feel himself in the unique network of communication that connects everyone.

He will feel that he is exiting the framework of time, space, and motion and existing in an absolutely different dimension in which the main thing is not our individual bodies, but our one collective body and collective existence where we begin to pass to another state, another dimension.

Together with this, the world will dissolve from our feelings, and in its place we will begin to feel what is called the higher world, meaning a shared existence in which all concepts of time, space, motion, birth, aging, and death will disappear.

We will stop feeling the world as it is now and will enter into its inner comprehension. After all, we now feel it only through our five corporeal senses, and so we only feel the world as long as our physical body exists. And if in its place we create another body, which is the connection between us, then through it we will begin to feel our entire environment in its true form that is not distorted and limited by the body.

A person who is involved with correction of himself, according to the method of integral education, will gradually pass from feeling our world to feeling a double world: both our world and the inner, higher world. And when his body dies, he will continue to exist only with the feeling of the higher world, the world that he discovered and acquired while in his physical life.

This is the goal of the wisdom of Kabbalah: to bring a person to the perception of the integral world. After all, the crisis through which we are passing is created by nature specifically to bring us from a perception of the limited world through our bodies, to the integral perception by way of a general connection between us.

Today many people in the world are engaged in the wisdom of Kabbalah. In its time, Kabbalah predicted that humanity would reach a state where it could not fulfill itself with anything, that people would feel emptiness and lose the goal and the meaning of life. All of this would bring a person to the question, “What is the meaning of life?”

People would gradually discover the secret of the meaning of life. It is not latent within our bodies and not limited by its framework; rather, it is much higher above this. The entire universe and the whole of creation is a completely different system and not as we perceive it today. The sciences of this world already speak about this.

In the framework of our organization, we are making all efforts to give to everyone who wants it, an opportunity to be engaged with the wisdom of Kabbalah, and to gradually acquire the sensation of the higher world.
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From the International Summer Camp In Bulgaria “Day Two” 7/12/14, Lesson #4

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