Question: What would you call a sincere connection?

Answer: It is when you are understood. But that isn’t necessarily a good thing either. A person is left with very little of their true self in such a situation. After all, it is true that we don’t really want to open up.

Question: Yes, we are guarded, of course. So, what is a sincere connection?

Answer: I don’t know. It is when you feel at ease with a person. But with whom can you feel at ease, and consistently feel at ease?

Comment: That is also a problem.

My Response: Of course.

Question: What is a genuine connection?

Answer: A real connection is one in which you love a person and constantly want to do good for them.

Comment: You suddenly turned everything upside down. Instead of it being good for me, you say it should be good for the other person. And that is called a connection.

My Response: Yes. When I feel that I want to do good for them.

Question: If we are speaking about the upper one, about the Creator, what is a real connection?

Answer: That involves an equivalence of form. It means that I relate to the Creator in the same way that He relates to me. For that, I must change my nature, which, incidentally, is the nature He created in me. Therefore, I must ask Him to change it. That request itself is the connection.

Question: Can such a request be sincere?

Answer: Partly. Until I ask with complete sincerity.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman,” 6/5/26

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Question: At the very end of Ecclesiastes, it is written: “The end of the matter, everything having been heard, fear God and keep His commandments, for this is the entire man.”

Could you explain these two principles? “Fear God.” What does that mean? For a person, fear is usually perceived as something negative.

Answer: “Fear God” means: do not let your egoism dominate and push you into all kinds of unnecessary actions. And “keep His commandments” means: follow His instructions.

Question: Which instructions?

Answer: Those instructions that apply in our world, what we see in our world. Build a normal path for yourself that you can proceed along calmly. There is no need to constantly stir everything up. Do not think that you are about to create something entirely new.

Question: Please explain that a little more. I understand not taking what belongs to others and following my own path. But what does it mean to follow my own path? How do I know what it is?

Answer: It means following what appears to you as common sense. Develop it, and with its help, you will walk correctly on the path of life.

Question: Does common sense mean normal, warm relationships with other people? That there should be love, not something excessive, but something sufficient and genuine?

Answer: Yes.

Question: So, creating such a warm circle around us, is that common sense?

Answer: That is common sense.

Question: If a person follows this approach, is that what is meant by “Fear God and keep His commandments”?

Answer: Yes.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman,” 5/27/26

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Comment: You say that history has nothing to do with spirituality.

My Response: I was never particularly interested in history, and I absolutely hated it in school. The only aspect that eventually interested me was when I began to understand history from the perspective of the development of the human egoism, the force that determines everything. But this is not what is taught in school.

For example, human egoism drove people to invent the plow, and this enabled a person, through his own labor, to feed not only himself but another ten to twenty people as well. As a result, farms expanded, villages grew, and cities emerged. Then came the invention of the forge, the furnace, and many other things.

Each time human egoism invents something, it turns out to have a profound impact on psychology, sociology, politics, the restructuring of society, and other aspects of life.

What interests me is the interconnection of our egoistic growth in all its manifestations in culture, science, technology, human psychology, family life, urban settlements, and so on. When all of this is viewed as one unified system—why things happen this or that way, stemming from one cause or another—then it becomes truly fascinating.

You begin to see a closed picture within which there is only one changing parameter: egoism. It gives rise to an enormous variety of expressions. Suddenly, printing appears. New musical instruments replace the old ones. Medieval songs give way to new forms of music.

People begin to live differently. To listen to music, one had to go to the theater. There were no tape recorders then, and a person knew that at a specific time he had to arrive at the theater to hear his favorite aria. Then, suddenly, everything changed. This approach to history was what interested me.

Why did geographical discoveries suddenly begin to take place? Why did some countries decline while others flourished?

When you see this dynamic unfolding on completely different levels and realize that there is only one parameter driving it—egoism—it teaches you everything.

First and foremost, it teaches you that the cause lies only in the ego. Therefore, I must get hold of it, work only with it, and pay no attention to anything else. Nothing but egoism can change. It changes everything.

But who can change it? Who created it in the first place? Where did it come from?

There is a parameter called the light that created egoism. It sustains, raises, lowers, and develops egoism. Therefore, I somehow need to influence the light. When it shines more strongly, egoism grows; when it shines less, egoism subsides and fades.

How can I reach the light? I cannot reach it directly at all; it is a substance completely detached from me.

However, it is possible to influence it. There is a kind of diaphragm that opens and closes regulating how much light shines upon my egoism. And what is this diaphragm? It is a connection with others like me, bestowal, and love.

It does not matter whether you truly love them or genuinely bestow upon them. If you want to draw the influence of the light upon yourself, then try in some way—even artificially, even just a little—to come closer to such a connection with others. That is why we gather in a group where all of us ask the same question: How can we draw the influence of the light upon ourselves?

It is very simple. Let’s start coming together, talking to one another, inspiring one another, encouraging and spurring each other on toward this, and the light will begin to shine upon us more strongly. The egoism within us will start to stir. It will bring about ever greater changes, and we will begin to run, to roll forward. That is all there is to it.

If we could explain everything in this simple and beautiful way to other people, to our children, and to ourselves, then… . You see, it takes five minutes to tell the whole story.

After that, there is no problem either. Just continue attracting the upper light through ever greater unity among friends who share the same goal of drawing the influence of the light upon themselves.

For what purpose? We want to develop. We want to rise higher. We want to accelerate our process. We do not want to remain in this dreadful, slow process that simply frays our nerves. Another day passes and another while we remain in a terrible depression, in a kind of unending sleep.

That is all. Gather together, make the effort, draw upon yourselves the influence of the upper light, and move forward.

Question: And where does it all end?

Answer: Draw enough upper light, not merely to further develop your egoism further, but to transform it and make it like the light itself. Then you will cross the potential barrier and ascend to the next level, just like an electron, under the influence of a photon, jumps to a higher orbit.
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From KabTV’s “I Got A Call. Kabbalah for 5 minutes” 10/11/10

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Question: How can we determine what is “truth” and what is “falsehood” if we ourselves create both?

Answer: Today we take various values, such as “truth” and “falsehood,” as standards or benchmarks. Yet all these things are relative. What appears to us as false today may seem to be truth tomorrow, and what seems to be truth today may appear as a falsehood tomorrow.

Everything depends on our egoistic development. The further we advance, the deeper we look into the surrounding nature and into ourselves. Therefore, there is no absolute standard either in nature as we perceive it or within ourselves; everything depends on the degree of our development. In that case, it is impossible to determine what is good and what is bad, what is true and what is false. All of it is highly relative.

However, if we were to discover the general law of nature—an absolute law that exists independently of man, not relative to him, not conditioned by the egoistic human being who undergoes development, but existing objectively in the surrounding reality—then, in accordance with that law, we would also come to know what truth is and what absolute falsehood is.

Then, through this, we would no longer be mistaken. On the contrary, we would be able to develop our attitude and our approach according to these standards. As a result, our development would truly become beneficial, desirable, and directed toward the good of the entire world.

Thus, the knowledge of the general law of nature and its implementation—not from the ego of man, but from the desire to come into balance and harmony with that universal law—is, in essence, the source of everything good. Through this we will come to a good life and truly discover what truth is and what falsehood is.
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From the Round Table of Independent Opinions, Berlin, 2006

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Question: You say: “Love your neighbor as yourself.” But I do not hear you, for example. How do I come to the conclusion that these are exactly the gates that I must enter?

Answer: You will bump your nose against these gates and understand that there cannot be any other gates! And besides these gates there is nothing, just emptiness.

Question: Is this what is written by the great Kabbalists, that you walk along the wall and there are no gates? And suddenly at some point, when you are already walking exhausted, you suddenly see—gates. And it turns out they were always there.

Answer: Yes.

Question: And I did not see them?

Answer: No.

Question: And what did I need to see them? They were always there, they were!

Answer: You lack disappointment.

Question: So I must be disappointed in everything?

Answer: Absolutely. In everything! So that only one thing remains: Dvekut (spiritual adhesion) and brotherhood! We do not know what that is. We keep using substitutes and surrogates. But then we will feel it.

Question: Can you at least give a hint? It is clear that if we do not feel, then we might not be able to hear you. But what do you mean by “brotherhood”?

Answer: Brotherhood is when we all find ourselves in one desire, one intention, in complete fusion, in the connection of everyone with everyone. And we return again to the system that is called “Adam,” like a single person in one body, in one heart. This is the correct future.

This must stand before us! This is how this future must stand before me as an obvious, achievable, necessary state.

Question: You just painted what we must come to after all our wanderings and disappointments?

Answer: Precisely why they are needed—to arrive at this state.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman,” 4/15/26

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Question: How do I find out what nature has in store for me and where it is leading me?

Answer: Nature is leading you to realize the possibilities you have to change the future, and reach it. This depends on each person’s participation in that future.

Question: What possibilities do I have? I don’t think I have any special ones. But tell me, what are they?

Answer: You do!

Question: What?

Answer: Of course, I do not have such a site where you would go in, pay, and get a guarantee.

Question: Yes, but in principle, what must I do?

Answer: You need to want to find out about your influence on your future. You must build it, create it. It is what you make of it. They tell you the laws of nature, and from them, as from some construction set, you must assemble your future.

Question: What is the main law of nature?

Answer: The main law of nature is the correspondence of a person with the law of nature. I am not over complicating things. The law of nature is the law of universal bestowal and love, universal unification, universal mutual complementation until the ideal picture of the system of the world is revealed before us.

Question: Is it only toward this that I as a person must go?

Answer: Yes. And nothing more.

Question: That is, I should not struggle with anything?

Answer: Struggle only with the aim of fulfilling this law.

Question: With whom does this struggle take place?

Answer: The struggle is with oneself, of course. Only that. So do not blame the mirror. This is how we must work, and then what we make is what we will receive.

Question: That is, if everyone directs himself toward himself—everyone, but toward himself, not toward another—then will we turn this picture of the future upside down?

Answer: As much as we wish. As much as we want, so much we will do.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman,” 4/23/26

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Question: Can we say that the new generation is further distancing from studying of The Study of the Ten Sefirot, The Book of Zohar, and authentic Kabbalistic sources?

Answer: No, it is not distancing further. People simply cannot exist on the same spiritual heights as exceptional individuals such as Baal HaSulam or the ARI.

We see the same thing happening in our world. A person uses an enormous number of scientific and technological achievements without understanding anything about them. He simply knows how to plug something into a socket and press a button for the device to work. What does he actually know besides two buttons on an air conditioner, twenty buttons on a computer, and so on? He has no idea what is really happening inside!

When using a mobile phone, he may be familiar with only two or three functions, while having no idea whatsoever of the other two hundred functions it contains.

The same applies in spirituality: there are people who engage with it slightly and solely for their own benefit, in some limited personal way, while others want to attain the inner connections between objects, dimensions, and forces—to know everything. This depends on the nature of the soul, its inner qualities, and its root. If a person has such a need, then he will fulfill it.

Question: So the fact that we are moving away from the original sources does not necessarily mean that we are getting worse?

Answer: We are not moving away from the sources. We are simply studying them not to the depth that exceptional Kabbalist scholars do, but rather, to the extent appropriate for the masses, the ordinary people who make up 99% of the world’s population.

Question: But wouldn’t that require a completely different method of interacting with the light?

Answer: No, because we study Kabbalah only in order to receive forces from it. And after receiving those forces, we must perceive the spiritual world. And we will perceive it to the extent intended for our soul.
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From KabTV’s “I Got A Call. Properties of our generation” 9/30/10

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The Book of Zohar and The Study of the Ten Sefirot (TES) are two truly monumental sources of spiritual power. The Book of Zohar with the Sulam (“Ladder”) commentary, and TES, which is a commentary on all the writings of the ARI, are two foundational works.

It should be said that these are not merely books, but sources that present the spiritual system itself. Therefore, when I study them, I draw the light from there and its influence upon myself.

Question: But you study them as a Kabbalist who has already attained spiritual perception?

Answer: Not necessarily. It does not matter.

Even people who understand nothing of what they are reading, by reading these sources, studying the inner system in which they exist, draw upon themselves an illumination of the light that brings them closer to spiritual degrees.

To what extent must they pass through these degrees and understand them? To the extent of their soul’s capacity, until they attain the world of infinity and take their place there, the place from which they descended to the level of our world.
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From KabTV’s “I Got A Call. Properties of our generation” 9/30/10

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Comment: An ordinary person, even when suffering, cannot rise to a spiritual level until they are “hit over the head.”

My Response: Even when a person is suffering, they still do not hear us. If you take a stick and hit an animal, it runs away. It does not understand what you want from it. Likewise, when troubles fall upon a simple person, they do not understand what is being asked of them. “Just tell me what to do, and I will do it!”

And you tell them: “No, you need to think about the meaning of life.” They are completely bewildered. They do not understand what you want from them. Some instinct immediately kicks in to prevent them from going crazy, and they stop hearing you because your language sounds like that of an alien to them.

I understand this very well, and I do not address them directly. I have no complaints about them. That is why I always say to explain to the whole world in very simple language that such a method exists. “If you ever need it, here is the address. You do not have to run anywhere, or search for anything.”

And those in whom something has been ignited are welcome. For them there is real contact, help, and communication with us. There is no other way.

There is also a third approach that I very much want to bring to life: children’s education. Through this, I can show the world that it has no future. If there is no future for your children in the form that you are giving them, then there is no future for you either, not for your civilization, your family, or your marriage.

That is, you—mothers, fathers, grandparents—are unhappy because when you look at the younger generation, you see how it is “heading to the ground.” Seeing this happening to your own children makes life not seem worth living at all. It is incredibly hard for any person to watch children using drugs, engaging in prostitution, doing all kinds of things, the blurring of genders—all just to survive, and all of it empty.

When we see that the younger generation pays no attention to us, and we begin to feel almost the same toward them, something like rejection or aversion arises, and the question appears: “What should we do?”

And then you show them: “Look, it can be completely different” because it is in our hands. When a child is born, they lie in our arms; they are entirely ours. And while they are with us, we can shape them so that they will not drift away; they will remain connected to us, and no one will be able to take them away.

Therefore we will continue to develop together—children, parents, and grandparents—as one family. Children will not distance themselves from their parents, not because of insecurity or difficulty in exploring life, but because they will see entirely different possibilities that come from mutual connection with us.

Can you imagine what happiness is? Simple, earthly happiness for an ordinary person—this is what we need to show them. All the intellectualizing and endless proofs, none of that is needed. No one is interested in it.

We offer what no one else has or will have because only the light that you give a child during their upbringing shapes them into a human being somewhat similar to the Creator. The child does not even understand it, yet it is already within them and developing.

These children will become the light of humanity.
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. Kabbalah for Children” 10/12/10

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Question: Please tell me, what is our life?

Answer: Our life is a form of existence of protein-based matter.

Question: But still…?

Answer: Still, from this life, we take its Reshimot (spiritual records), memories, and impressions and continue. A huge number of tiny grains of egoism, meaning corrupted desires created by the Creator, gradually go through purification, correction, and connection.

Comment: So, these small egoisms (7 to 8 billion of them) live their lives precisely in order to come to this, as you say.

My Response: Hell, purgatory, and paradise. Like in Dante’s works.

Hell is the feeling and realization of one’s egoism, of one’s lowly nature, and everything that can be said about it. Purgatory is when a person tries to correct it, to cleanse it. And paradise is when a person puts this egoism at the service of other people.

These are the three stages we must go through.

Question: So a person throughout his lives moves toward this final third stage?

Answer: Yes, and therefore, if people understand what these three stages are—hell, purgatory, and paradise—meaning, attainment of awareness of one’s egoism, its correction, and its proper use, then everything is fine. We must try.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman,” 4/20/26

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