Question: There were four candles burning in a room. The first one said: “I am Peace. People don’t know how to preserve me.” And it went out. The second one said: “I am Faith. I am not needed by anyone.” And it went out. The third one said: “I am Love. People do not appreciate me.” And it also went out.

A little child entered the room, frightened by the darkness, and started crying. Then the fourth candle said: “Do not cry. I am Hope. As long as I burn, it is always possible to light all the other candles.”

Can we say that as long as a person hopes, he is alive? Is there a basis for this phrase?

My Response: Yes, because hope still shows you the path to development.

Question: So is there something else?

Answer: Of course! People cross oceans on sailboats to find some land, to discover something. That is hope.

Question: This has always amazed me. Amundsen and all those explorers who reached the poles and froze there, crossed oceans in small boats. What drove them?

Answer: The dream!

Question: How can one not lose hope when everything has already burned out, all the candles have burned: love, faith, and peace—everything?

Answer: By understanding that everything is in the hands of the Creator. Because a person realizes that nothing is in his hands. And then he calmly lives out his years.

Question: Do you call this candle hope? So everything is in the hands of the Creator; is that the next step?

Answer: Yes.

Question: Why does the Creator always leave us this little step, this last candle?

Answer: To catch us at the last minute, second, and moment to continue our journey with us.
This candle is the candle of connection between a person in this world and a person in the higher world.

Question: Does this candle always burn?

Answer: It accompanies the person further.

Question: Are there any states when this candle does not burn, when there is no hope?

Answer: No. It always burns.

Question: Does this mean that the Creator is kind and does good?

Answer: Yes, otherwise, such a person would not have been born. Because the Creator knows in advance the entire life of that person, until the end.

Question: Why do we sometimes not notice this candle and lose hope?

Answer: We are not tuned into our existence in that way.

Question: So what is the right attitude?

Answer: The right attitude is that ahead of us there is always the kindness of the Creator.”
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 12/21/23

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Comment: They say man is a wolf to man. But when I look at the structure of a  wolf pack, I envy them. A leader is the one who takes responsibility for organizing the hunt and protecting everyone in his pack. The pack intuitively obeys whoever is stronger and more responsible, regardless of age.

What does a strong and responsible leader mean to man if we were to adopt this structure?

My Response: This means such a man-wolf can unite and convince everyone that unification is their law and the way to ensure survival.

Question: So if such a leader implements unification in a group, the pack will endure?

Answer: Yes, they will recognize him as the leader.

Question: And will the pack be okay?

Answer: Yes.

Comment: That was the first rule. The second rule is that the stronger and more experienced the leader, the faster he suppresses all quarrels, the less discord and aggression in the pack, the friendlier the atmosphere, and the more cohesion in the group.

Stopping quarrels could mean using harsh methods.

My Response: Well, this is the law of any clan, even an animal one, not to mention human.

Question: So he should both be firm and soft at the same time?

Answer: I do not know about soft. But he must be very clear and confident, and impose his will.

Question: So, he puts an end to all quarrels, bad relationships, and all slander?

Answer: Of course.

Comment: Firmly? He will not be loved.

My Response: They will fear him, that is the most important thing. Therefore, they will respect and obey him. If you live among wolves, you have to act like a wolf.

Question: The third rule is that the leader leads the pack, rescues them from traps, plans out and begins the hunt, and is first to rush at the enemy or prey.

What does it mean to be the first in everything?

Answer: That is, to take on all the blows and all the problems that arise in his pack.

Question: We are talking about human society? Are you talking about that now?

Answer: Yes.

Question: So, he is the first to take on the blows? That is, he cares about all this?

Answer: It is like his personal family.

Question: So, you see the leader as a father? And society is his family?

Answer: Yes.

Question: And if, as we have now, there is a mishap, he takes responsibility for it?

Answer: If he does not take responsibility, he is instantly removed. There is no other way among animals. He has to assume responsibility.

Question: The fourth rule is that wolves walk in a line. The first three are old and sick. They are followed by the five strongest wolves. Next is the part of the pack they are protecting, and five more strong wolves. Last comes the leader, who makes sure that no one falls behind.

Being a leader does not mean being ahead of the pack, but making sure that everyone makes it.

Answer: Well that is the most important thing, making sure everyone is safe.

Question: And the elderly who are upfront?

Answer: Absolutely everyone! This is exactly how he is evaluated.

Question: Is this the power of a leader?

Answer: Yes.

Question: Is this even possible?

Answer: You see, it works among wolves. It’s harder for people.

Comment: Because you want to hold on to your post, be elected, and so on.

My Response: Humanity has damaged itself in many ways over thousands of years.

Comment: Wolves work on instinct, while we have reason.

My Response: They have a clear inner understanding of necessity.

Question: There, in the pack? So, they live according to nature?

Answer: Yes, such is their nature and the nature of the surrounding wolf society; therefore, this is the only way to live and survive.

We are nobody and nothing here at all. Everyone is looking to run away, escape responsibility, and let others fend for themselves. “It is not my concern.”

Comment: We have come to the conclusion that the chief, the leader, should watch over everyone and be the last one behind them.

My Response: Yes. We must create such a “pack” so people would come to us wanting to live by our laws. Us means our group.

Question: Will they come because they realize everyone cares about each other?

Answer: Yes, there is no other way. Save ourselves, raise children, give confidence to the elderly, women, and children—we must act this way.

Question: The fifth rule is that a wolf lives with one mate his whole life and never cheats on her. Even when a wolf or his mate die hunting, the single spouse does not look for a replacement, but remains alone for the rest of his life. Can you imagine?!

Answer: We are very far from that.

Comment: Imagine choosing for life! You see, the wolves can.

My Response: We have a lot to learn.

Question: What is it like when you make such a decision?

Answer: It is their nature. For us, it is our egoistic nature that drives us crazy.

Question: But when you decide to live like this, it means you have somehow subdued it, managed to curb your selfish nature so you choose for the rest of your life.

Answer: Yes.

Comment: But you say we should choose for life.

My Response: We should.

Question: And keep at it?

Answer: And keep at it, but you see how we are managing.

Question: The sixth rule is about the she-wolf. When the wolf-husband is in danger, the female covers his neck, which may be very dangerous for her, but she does not think about it.

What about a human clan, what does it mean for a wife to shield her husband, to protect him?

Answer: I do not know what the wolf feels. About a person this means she understands that she depends on him, and he is her most important task. As long as he is alive and strong, she and the children are protected.

A wife who loves her husband feels that if anything bad happens to her husband, she is ready to share it with him without any hesitation.

Question: The seventh is that a she-wolf, when preparing to give birth, builds a cozy home. She does not consider her comfort, but thinks about the comfort of her future generation.

What does it mean for a future mother not to think about herself?

Answer: She lives for her children, grandchildren, and so on.

Question: Are we talking about our world already?

Answer: Yes.

Question: I don’t think about myself, I think about others. What does it mean?

Answer: For their sake you do what is best for them.

Question: So I completely annul myself, totally?

Answer: Yes. You do whatever may be good for them.

Question: Can you name something that may be good for them?

Answer: You may change where you live, your place of work. Everything for them.
You could leave your favorite job for them.

Question: The eighth rule is that the whole pack with the leader takes care of the mother-wolf with her cubs. They bring her food, completely take care of her and the future offspring of the whole pack.

What does the society takes care of the mothers mean? I’m now talking about people, humanity.

Answer: It means doing everything to ensure their safety, their confidence, and their future. Then they will raise their young and the clan; the society will be provided for by the next generation.

Comment: The ninth rule is that when a mother goes hunting, sitters guard the babies and play with them. The cubs are treated most gently. Any adult is always ready to share food with them, play, and teach them the rules of hunting or subordination. That is why the wolf pack is so cohesive and efficient.

My Response: I want to be with them. 🙂

Question: So, is this all a method of rearing? When everyone, the whole society participates… Not just for your children!

How do I tear myself from my child? It says here that I take care of someone else’s child, another child, the whole pack takes care of him. How is this possible?

Answer: When you realize you are all one, a common whole. These are Kabbalistic principles.

Comment: Absolutely! To realize I won’t survive otherwise. The neighbor’s child is just as important to me as my own child.

My Response: Yes.

Question: It seems quite unrealistic for a person. But this is how it should be, right?

Answer: This is how it should be, of course!

Question: The tenth principle is that a pack takes care of the disabled, crippled, and elderly. They would feed them chewed food, like for puppies, and can even pick their fleas. But there is addition, in times of famine, a pack cannot take on the responsibility of feeding elderly animals. And the elderly accept that.

Is this also a matter of survival?

Answer: It is a matter of survival and necessity for the pack. That is why there are some animals who sacrifice themselves for the survival of the pack.

Question: Let’s summarize it, they care for the disabled, the elderly…

Answer: For everyone.

Question: And we, too, have to care for the elderly?

Answer: Yes. But if it is impossible to take care of the weak…

Question: This is a very difficult question indeed! How can we make this choice?

Answer: The one who benefits the future generation most is chosen.

Question: Meaning, young and strong?

Answer: Yes.

Question: So, the principle still holds—the survival of the pack, the survival of society?

Answer: Yes.

Comment: Clearly, we have a lot to learn from wolves. We need to do something to improve ourselves. We must think about the organization of our society, how to rebuild it to make it healthier and what kind of upbringing programs to take on for our children, our grandchildren, for the next generation.

This means looking several generations ahead of us. And we must change the order of society for their sake.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 11/30/23

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Shula writes:

Hello, Michael Laitman! My son is 15. It seems everything is fine. He and his friends are growing up in the society where we as parents are trying to teach them the values of love to others, mutual connection, and friendship. Despite our efforts, I suddenly see that they are full of disregard for one another, they humiliate and mock the weak ones.

My heart hurts to see all this, my hands give up. Where have all our efforts gone? It turns out that everything they absorb at school and on the Internet is stronger than the values we want to instill in them. Tell us, what can we do? How can we teach them mutual respect and friendship? How can we teach them to be kind to each other? After all, you are constantly talking about that. How?

Answer: Still tell them that the basic law of nature is connection, kindness, and unity where people are getting closer to one to another. Only in this case can we hope for a happy continuation.

And if not, nature will teach us, as we see it at all its levels, to bring us to this decision.

Question: So one way or another, we will be corrected toward this decision?

Answer: Yes

Question: Parents are teaching their kids these values; they tell them more and more, but the result is still the opposite.

Answer: Yes, obviously. It is this way in order not to take away the freedom of will from a person.

Question: Do you mean his freedom of will now is to humiliate another person, to exercise his egoism?

Answer: Yes

Question: And we have to patiently wait until they suffer enough or what?

Answer: Perhaps when they realize that their path is a dead-end.

Question: Should we still continue telling them about mutual guarantee, about love, about friendship?

Answer: Yes

Question: Even if our hands give up?

Answer: It does not matter. You have to tell them all of this.

Question: I am talking to a wall. They do not hear me. Do I keep talking?

Answer: It does not matter, you have to talk.

Question: How do I poke a hole in this wall?

Answer: Precisely by your consistency.

Question: It means you are for the parents’ persistence?

Answer: There is nothing else.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 1/11/24

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Question: A person complains about his life to God: this is not good, and that is not good, and I have problems at work, trouble with the family, debts, and  poor health. God manifests Himself and says “This is all understandable. But tell me one thing: Are we going to prolong life?”

Should we prolong this life?

Answer: I think if God is asking a person, then the person should answer “Sure, give me more.”

Question: So, it means that for all our complaints this is bad and that is bad, we still should continue?

Answer: If we live, we have to live.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 12/18/23

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Comment: These days, only an indifferent person avoids talking about American antisemitism, about what is happening at universities there, and so on. I would like to talk about it.

My Response: This was already happening 15 to 20 years ago when I was still visiting universities.

Comment: I know the foundation was laid and money was invested there. Significant sums of Arab money were invested in order to promote it. It amazes me that the script was written then for many years to come.

My Response: They understood what they were doing.

Question: They quietly invested money in universities and promoted this hatred. And now it has manifested itself very clearly.

We know Congress called for a meeting with the Presidents of three top universities: Harvard, Univeristy of Pennsylvania, and Massachusetts Institute of Technology.

They were asked the same question over and over. Their video went viral on the Internet. They were asked: “Do calls for the genocide of Jews violate the code of conduct at your university?” It was the exact question: “Do calls for the genocide of Jews violate your university’s code of conduct? Yes or no?”

And they would not answer yes or no. They tried to avoid answering. Do you think they are afraid? Or is this antisemitism already deeply ingrained in them?

Answer: I think they are not just afraid, although there is also something to be afraid of, even physically.

Question: If they were defending the Jews, then they or their relatives would be threatened physically?

Answer: Yes, but there is nothing you can do about it anyway. This is the natural development of the world.

Question: So do you think it is already a part of them? And nothing can change it?

Answer: It will only change if the Jews change! So it is said in the Torah, so it is said everywhere, and so say the antisemites.

Comment: We see heroes always find an indirect path. And you say we need to sort things out within ourselves.

My Response: Why should we hate them? It all comes from above.

Comment: Well, they want us to disappear.

My Response: Then disappear in a spiritual sense in your attitude toward the world, toward yourself, and others. Rise to the level of giving, bestowing, and loving. And you will see how the world will change.

Question: Is this your call to the Jews now?

Answer: Yes.

Question: Specifically to the Jews? Will it continue until there is a revolution within the Jews themselves?

Answer: Yes.

Question: It seems we are now approaching this revolution after all?

Answer: I hope our people will be able to realize it, come to their senses, and turn around.
This is our task.

Question: At the same time, all three presidents of the three universities stated the need to protect free speech. Here is the phrase they used to hide behind—”freedom of speech.” What do you personally understand by this phrase? Is there a place for it?

Answer: We need to educate generations to the point where free speech in itself intentionally remains only in calls for rapprochement.

Question: Are these calls free speech? To be free to call for rapprochement?

Answer: Yes and everything else will just disappear.

Question: Well of course, for now it means something else—saying what you want, whatever comes into your head, and calling it free speech. You do not call this free speech?

Answer: No.

Question: What do you think it is? Saying whatever they think?

Answer: Considering the nature of man, this is just propaganda of hatred, mutual rejection, and calls for mutual destruction.

Question: Is that because we are in such a state today? Is this what comes out of us? What then is freedom of speech?

Answer: Free speech can only be called as such when it promotes mutual dependence and rapprochement.
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He that has once done you a kindness will be more ready to do you another than he whom you yourself have obliged (Bnejamin Franklin).

Answer: That is good, it is true.

Question: Is that another way of saying, “Do not expect good from someone to whom you have done good”?

Answer: Yes.

Comment: But I secretly expect good things.

My Response: Yes, as if you paid and now want it back.

Question: Yes, I did good to you, so you also do good to me. Is it wrong?

Answer: It is not that it is wrong, it is ignoble.

Question: So, it is in our nature, right? We have a sordid nature.

Answer: Certainly.

Question: So if I do good to someone, does it turn out, according to Franklin, that it is contagious, and I can do it again and again and again?

Answer: Yes, it generally happens as a habit. And a person already develops a need to do good.

Question: So, you can develop it like a muscle? Simply exercise it?

Answer: Yes.

Question: Do you advise a person to do this?

Answer: Of course, why not?

Question: When you say “good,” what does it mean? To do good to another, what is good for him?

Answer: I don’t know what is good for him! What is good for him, that is what I should do.

Question: But before I do it, do I need to find out what is good for him? Or am I deciding based on my perception?

Answer: You still need to find out. You need to know the other person and put yourself in his shoes. And you need to do such a good thing, such a good action that would fit in precisely.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 12/28/23

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Question: One mother asked an old sage when it is best to start raising her daughter. “How old is she?” the teacher asked. “Five,” the woman replied. “Five years old?! Hurry home, you’re already five years late.”

At what age should you start raising a child?

Answer: In general, the feeling should be there from the first day of birth, and even before that. This is mentioned in many places, it is not that I am so smart. So parents should understand that a child is like an adult. They just react a bit differently. Basically, you’re talking to an adult, even an old person.

Question: So, you’re instilling wisdom in the child?

Answer: Absolutely!

Question: What do you invest in the word “upbringing”?

Answer: Upbringing is primarily your personal example.

Question: You said, “From the first day of birth.” What does the child see? What does the child feel? What example can there be?

Answer: It is not about that. It is about how you react to the child; the Creator reacts to them.

Question: So, the Creator reacts to the child through you? If I live with this thought, is it called “upbringing”?

Answer: Yes. You are opening channels of communication between the child and the Creator.

Question: Through me, the Creator connects with the child, and I should introduce the Creator to the child?

Answer: Yes. You are introducing them to each other so to speak.

Question: When you said, “Upbringing even before birth,” should this thought come to parents before birth?

Answer: In general, yes. We have talked about this many times.

Question: We’ve talked about it, but we have a million questions after that. It is not just interesting to people, it is vitally important to them.

After such upbringing, as an example of warmth and kindness, how does the child go out into this cold world, after being brought up like this?

Answer: If they perceive the world correctly, they won’t have any problems. He will feel the world is multifaceted. So, at least, he, his parents, home, and others, he will properly link all of this together.

Question: Does this mean that parents have managed to bring the Creator to the child?

Answer: Yes
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 12/28/23

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Roman writes:

I regularly watch your shows. They help me live, especially in these difficult times. But sometimes I am puzzled. I watched your video today about the four candles when all the candles go out, and only one remains: hope. And suddenly I hear in your response that one just needs to live through this day. What does it mean to live through? Right now, you know, it is not easy with work, money, life in general, and the age is not the same anymore, and illnesses. So, what lies behind this phrase that you keep repeating: “You just need to live through it”?

Answer: You need to go with the flow of life as if you are in a boat, in a river, and it is carrying you somewhere, not onto rocks, not onto waterfalls, just the current carries you. That is how we should still look at life. And what else can I advise people who live in our time? You just need to keep going.

Question: And at the same time, I know there is the current and there is the boat?

Answer: There is the current, there is the boat, and there is me in the boat. And I have to agree that I am floating with the current. I cannot swim against the current. I cannot get out of this river anywhere. The only thing I can do is accept where the current takes me.

Question: Who is this answer directed to?

Answer: To myself first and foremost. That is how a person should understand.

Question: Are my friends also in this boat?

Answer: If you put it that way, then yes. We are all floating in the boat with the current of life, in the river of life. And it is best to understand that this is how it is. We survived through the day, we survived. Another day, once again. And so on and so forth.

Question: So you are not in favor of making any plans?

Answer: No! Those plans never come to fruition anyway, and we only worry about them.

Question: So, are you concerned that we are heading toward disappointment?

Answer: It depends on what goals we set for ourselves in life.

Question: And still, what goals should we set? I am floating in this boat; do I want to reach somewhere or not?

Answer: If you have such a goal.

Question: If the goal is to reach somewhere, then…?

Answer: Then yes. You should check it: is it worth it? Can you achieve that goal? If you can, then yes. And if not, then slowly row a little closer to it, but still calmly. Do not rush.

Comment: This complicates things a bit.

My Response: Why does it complicate things? Should we be striving?

Comment: We are used to striving for a goal, we are used to pursuing a goal.

My Response: I do not think it is wise in our time. There are periods that carry you, and that is it.

Question: So, in our words: “There is none else beside Him”?

Answer: Yes.

Question: And is that how I should live?

Answer: The Creator still creates new conditions for us, and whether we wish it or not, we will still implement them—what He desires.

Question: What does it mean to surrender to this? On one hand, it means giving up?

Answer: No, agreeing with where the river of life is carrying us does not mean giving up. It means truly perceiving the flow of the river of life and moving along with it, understanding that you cannot go against it. There are no heroes who could go against the current. And yet, we might still wish to change something, but that something can only be very, very small in our lives.

Question: Where is the joy in this? We still want to be joyful.

Answer: Joy is not in creating something like throwing myself into the water and starting to block the river, and so on. Joy is in finding special points of movement in my ordinary, simple life path and trying to move along them.

Question: What do you mean? Special points, are they joyful points? Is that what you are saying?

Answer: They can be joyful or sorrowful; nevertheless, we must go through them. Therefore, we need to accept life more as a flow.

Question: Still to nullify oneself, surrender to it. Like that?

Answer: If you do not nullify yourself, it still does not mean anything.

Question: But what about the fact that we get used to and found joy in it: to swim against the current, for example, to go against nature?

Answer: That is your inner feeling. In reality, no one can go against it anyway.

Question: We repeat with you more than once that a human nature is egoistic. And a person must somehow rise above his nature. Can you relate to this?

Answer: Yes. Rising above one’s nature is precisely realizing that you are still floating with the current of the river. And still, you perhaps might want to get out of it, but you do not even know where or how, and who is waiting for you on the shore if you suddenly emerge from under the water with your boat, and so on. So, I do not know if that is wise.

Question: Do we need to know or at least have a premonition of what awaits us in the end? After all, rivers flow into the sea.

Answer: You have to choose a goal that seems realistic to you and that aligns with your abilities, and try to achieve it somehow. So, we must somehow understand that we are leaving the river of life, getting out of it, and then somehow continuing to sail on.

Question: So, these milestones of stops should be along the way?

Answer: Yes, but frankly, in the end everyone, even if during their life they aspire to become a revolutionary in something and so on, ultimately agrees that this is life and it ends with death, and then, what will be will be.

Comment: It does not sound very optimistic, of course.

My Response: Why doesn’t it sound very optimistic?

Comment: Still, we want to set goals not that necessarily we defeat death, but at least internally, within ourselves, you know.

My Response: On the contrary! When you agree with this, you acquire a special tranquility and a special perception of life, and you perceive it realistically. I am not talking about death. I am talking about really perceiving this flow.

Question: But I will ask again. If those engaged in our science are in this boat, and let’s say it has been many years, should their behavior be the same; what do you think?

Answer: Their behavior should be as they, like any person, strive toward their goal.

Comment: So if the goal is to rise above one’s nature.

My Response: If the goal is to rise above one’s nature, then it is with you in the boat. You should not jump anywhere and swim to the shore, you should not shout: “Hey, who is there on the shore?”—there might be someone. You do not have to call anything to yourself. It all depends on your mood, your attitude toward what you are sailing through. And in the end, you enter into another dimension.

Question: How does this happen? How am I pulled out of my nature? I am just sailing in the boat, with our idea.

Answer: You are not pulled out, you are not going anywhere. Simply, the illusion in which you existed is gradually replaced by another, a third, and so on.

Comment: And I no longer pay attention, like Roman writes here that life is hard, age, illnesses.

My Response: No, no, no. I am no longer interested in that. I am already thinking about how I will calmly live through this and then enter into a new life.

Question: How can you deal with this? With this life which overwhelms, with illnesses, sufferings?

Answer: The best thing is to surrender to it and not resist. Because resistance will not give anything, and we know that. Everything around us goes through such stages and ends similarly. Treat both life and death kindly.

Question: And is this called “also treating the Creator the same way”?

Answer: Yes, agree with Him, with what He has done, with what He has done to us, placed us within certain boundaries, and given us such a vector of development.

Question: When it is said that everyone has their own path, what does it mean? Their own path to the Creator?

Answer: Yes, nothing else. And there is nothing particularly new here except relative to the individual.

Question: So, each person has their own path to the Creator?

Answer: Yes, if a person understands this, then it is called that they have gained wisdom.
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The main goal of a person is to find himself. Only a few succeed. Everyone else is too lazy or cowardly to follow this path over the abyss. But the one who walked along it receives real life as a reward, and not a drab existence (Erich Maria Remarque).

Question: Why does it take courage to find oneself? And he also says that it is like crossing over an abyss. Why is finding oneself such a drama?

Answer: Because you must constantly build yourself, truly stabilize yourself like a tightrope walker over the abyss.

Question: So you are balancing, then what does “falling into the abyss” mean?

Answer: Disagreeing with the Creator.

Question: So is this whole passage about agreeing with the Creator in everything? Is that the little rope?

Answer: Yes.

Question: Where does it lead?

Answer: To nowhere. Are you looking for a reward now?

Comment: We keep bumping into that all the time.

My Response: No, there is nothing to bump into here. All of this should have been broken a long time ago and thrown into that abyss.

Question: I see. So, I am walking over the abyss to nowhere? And this is called “finding oneself”?

Answer: Yes. Finding oneself means to truly reveal one’s nature in full and smile at it.

Question: Is this called “crossing over the abyss”? And this is how I find myself?

Answer: I do not know if I should say “I find myself.” I am not for the idea that a person should feel like he is winning something. He does not win anything.

Question: Then what are we living for? I always want to get something.

Answer: How do you consider yourself better than an animal? You do not question their lives. So do not question yours either.

Question: So should I abandon all hope and live like this? What is “I”?

Answer: “I” is that in me that constantly seeks the meaning of life. And that is our life.

Question: The search for the meaning of life?

Answer: Yes.

Question: Will we ever find it?

Answer: I think it will reveal itself to us all, to absolutely everyone! But not in this world, not in this existence. It is absolutely impossible to realize, grasp, or reveal the meaning of life in our world.

Question: But we still have to cross over the abyss?

Answer: Yes.

Question: So, I am walking over the abyss and I know that it is not now, it is not here, and it is unknown what I will get, but I keep walking and walking?

Answer: Yes.

Question: Will I ever get something? You said, “It will reveal itself.”

Answer: You will, definitely.

Comment: It is not easy.

My Response: Do not say it is not easy or easy! It depends on how you relate to all of this. If you see the Creator, life, and so on in front of you, then you just walk, and you still want to understand what is given to you: why, what for, and how.

Question: So, all the time you seem to be saying this: do not wish for anything, do not have a desire to get something, but just go. That is how you live—just go! Can you live like that?

Answer: Yes, you can live like that.

Question: You keep walking and walking. Is this what life is?

Answer: Yes. It is easier if you do not ask, harder if you ask.
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Question: One day a lot of starfish came in with the tide. When the tide was low they were left to die on the sand. A boy began to throw the stars into the sea so that they would survive.

A man came up to him and said: “This is stupid. There are a million starfish here, and your attempts will not change anything.” The boy picked up the next starfish and said: “No, my attempts will change a lot for this very star.”

Today, many people are suffering, as we know. Is trying to eliminate or reduce this suffering for one person the right thing to do?

Answer: In general, yes. It depends on what calculation you make. You are dealing either with the Creator, or with the suffering of this person, or with yourself, and so on.

Question: If I am dealing with the Creator, then where is the suffering coming from?

Answer: From the Creator.

Question: And they are given to this person so that he could go through it?

Answer: Yes.

Question: And, by and large, do I not even have the right to interfere?

Answer: This is also taken into account by the Creator, so it does not matter, you can do it. You want to save others from suffering so that you can feel better. Egoism has not gone anywhere.

Question: Do you still admit the possibility that I want to save a person from suffering?

Answer: No, you cannot be in his shoes.

Question: So what is empathy for another person?

Answer: This is because you empathize; that is, you imagine that this is all happening to you, and therefore you must make him feel better.

Question: And are you still thinking about yourself?

Answer: And nothing else!

Question: How do we get out of this impasse?

Answer: There is no way out. No way!

Comment: That is, all the people who do charity work…

My Response: Of course, they are doing it only for themselves!

Question: Is the only way out to turn to the source of all suffering?

Answer: Turn to the Creator, and if the Creator puts you in a very special state where He eliminates your egoism, your desires to enjoy, then you will be able to do something for the sake of others, and not for yourself. But these are all exceptional cases.

Question: Let ‘s take such an ideal case. What does it mean to do something for the sake of another person? The Creator gave this opportunity. What does it mean?

Answer: Imagine that you have to cut yourself off from all connection with another person. Disconnect yourself from him and do good to him.

Question: Without thinking about yourself at all?

Answer: In any way! This is called that I disconnect myself from another person.

Question: Is this the help of the Creator if He gives such an opportunity to a person?

Answer: Yes.

Question: So is a person not capable of this in any other way?

Answer: No, he is not. It is not our nature.

Question: How is all this veiled and covered up so that we have the feeling that we are really doing good?

Answer: This is what we do in this life. Nothing can be done to us, we are so unusual

Question: Then the key question is, should you still do good to others or not? Should I try to do this or not?

Answer: I would tell you, do it just in case. 🙂 What an egoistic answer, isn’t it?

Question: You will get credit for that, right?

Answer: Yes. You would say that I once did something, here and there…

Comment: That is, one way or another, you claim that I gain these points for myself.

My Response: You do not gain them.

Question: So I do not gain them as a result. And yet, should I try to do to others what I consider good or not?

Answer: Do it, but at the same time, think that by doing this you are not doing anything for yourself. Then it will actually be more or less clean.

Question: That is, do I not gain anything from this, as it were?

Answer: No. I do not gain, I will not gain, and I do not want to gain.

Question: What if it hurts me so much that there is no way for me to get out of this nature?

Answer: Then you are a good egoist. A good egoist means that I would like to rise above my egoism, but I cannot. And that is why I suffer.

Question: Is this a good state by and large?

Answer: No, this is a wretched state. 🙂

Question: Can this state be called a prayer or not?

Answer: Any state can be called a prayer.

Question: Which prayer is correct, in your opinion?

Answer: A correct prayer is when I am looking at a wallet lying on the ground and I imagine that there is a bank note for a million dollars in it. 🙂

Question: And I ask that it be so? That is, after all, one way or another, it is for myself?

Answer: Yes.

Question: And if it makes me feel bad, and I want to get rid of it?

Answer: No, when you understand that this is your nature, then you will not feel bad.

Question: Coming to the conclusion that this is my nature, precisely understanding this in my heart and mind, is this practically the starting point?

Answer: Yes, from this you can start moving.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 12/18/23

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