Torah, Deuteronomy 24:17 – 24:18: You shall not pervert the judgment of a stranger or an orphan, and you shall not take a widow’s garment as security [for a loan]. You shall remember that you were a slave in Egypt…

The widow’s garment remains with her from her previous husband. This is what she is attached to, although it has already come off from that soul, from the Partzuf, to which she belonged as a female part to a male part. It means that the garment that was left to her is part of the screen (Masach) that once was her husband.

After all, the soul consists of male and female part. The female part is a desire and the male part is an intention to bestow. If this intention to bestow disappears or dies, then only the female part remains that is called widow.

However, since she used to belong to the male part, there is a certain residual screen in her and therefore no one has a right to take it. Only if a next husband comes, he will change her garment. This is the whole system of interactions between the old and new intention on the old and new desire. All of it is the cycle of the souls.

Comment: You said once that if a woman had several men, then the genes of the previous men will be embedded in her child.

My Response: Indeed, if a woman had several men, then the genes of all previous men are manifested in her child. Therefore, it is so important that she is a virgin.

This was valued at all times, but today its value has already diminished, not because of debauchery and big egoism, but because the entire world comes this way to its convergence and rounding.

It’s not that egoism from within forces us to be so loose, but because of the purpose of creation. One of the reasons for this is that we must become fully included into each other and unite.
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From KabTV’s “Secrets of the Eternal Book” 10/31/16

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Question: They say that Kabbalists could bring the Godly presence between a husband and a wife. How can the wisdom of Kabbalah help in building relations in the family today and resolving conflicts?

Answer: Kabbalah gives advice as to how to treat each other properly, which refers to all of mankind, including a husband and a wife. If a couple properly interact with each other, they will be able to reveal the Creator between them.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 1/22/17

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Question: Would it be good for a woman to be in a leadership role, let’s say as leader of the nation?

Answer: Any leadership position requires the right interface between the feminine and masculine parts, and only together can they successfully lead. A man sees half and a woman sees half. Therefore, leadership should be carried out in pairs.

Question: So, serving as prime minister should be two, a man and a woman?

Answer: A prime minister is a puppet who has many advisers. They report something to him and he supposedly makes a decision based upon this. But essentially, he doesn’t decide anything.

To see the world correctly, it is necessary to look at it through two close-fitting elements: the masculine part and the feminine part, because a woman looks at the world in a completely different way and sees what a man doesn’t see.

After they make a joint decision, a man can say: “I have decided,” as usually happens in a family.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 12/4/16

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Question: Can you give some advice according to the wisdom of Kabbalah as to how we can keep the family united?

Answer: My advice to a married couple is: have children and agree that divorce is not an option. The couple should try to get along with each other.

We are living in hard times where each of us experiences difficult problems. All this must be accepted since we cannot change it. No matter how much we promise ourselves and others to be good and nice, this evaporates very quickly because we have no control over ourselves.

The family should be a strong cell that can clearly be called indestructible despite everything. Children should feel that they have a mother and a father that they can turn to, that they have a family.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 12/4/16

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Comment: I wouldn’t like to be a man in any of my other lives. This would be the greatest punishment for me! We see that everything is based on women, and a man is an eternal child.

A woman is basically smarter; she is both a mother and a leader. She is responsible, serious, peaceful, and hard working, and she has many qualities that are simply not developed enough or are lacking in a man.

My Response: I believe that what you say indicates your lack of understanding because you feel flawed in your female image and form. It is as if you are condemning the Creator for having created men like that.

A self-sufficient person is filled spiritually, has a goal, and tries to move toward it correctly; in this one has no calculation with the other sex. One simply advances.

As the saying goes: “Be content with one’s lot.”
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 12/4/16

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Question: Do men and women have a different perception of the world?

Answer: Of course, it is different in many ways and cannot be compared. We may hear, see, and perceive things differently, but the difference between us cannot be compared since there is no basis for comparison.

Question: Can a homosexual study the wisdom of Kabbalah?

Answer: This is a problem. A person has to follow his sexual inclination. It is beyond one’s powers.

Question: What happens in a man if the female part dominates him?

Answer: Nothing happens. He still has to engage in the wisdom of Kabbalah, it makes no difference.

Question: How can a woman with a traditional view of life ,who expects the man to be the breadwinner, psychologically overcome the fact that she makes more money than the man?

Answer: What difference does it make? The couple must first of all feel each other and be friends.

Question: Is it easier for a man to develop spiritually in a family because his wife takes care of him and easier for a woman to develop spiritually when she is not married because then no one stands in her way?

Answer: A woman should try to get married, but if it doesn’t work out, she can attain the upper world by herself unlike an unmarried man.

Question: How does alcohol impact the relations between a man and a woman?

Answer: In a very negative way; in every case and aspect of it. I am against it.

Question: Do I have to make every effort in order to win the heart of a girl I think is cute?

Answer: You should make every effort to win the heart of a good girl, not a pretty girl.

Question: I really envy my husband, how can I overcome that?

Answer: Envy is a very hard and restricting feeling. The best thing to do is to delve more deeply into the wisdom of Kabbalah and gradually understand that a body is a body and a soul is a soul. Stay together and try to envy the Creator and so that the Creator will envy you. Your husband is your companion for the period of earthly existence.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 12/4/16

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New Life 847 – Together And Alone
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Yael Leshed-Harel

By being finely integrated we can attain the internal system of nature, together as one.

In the past we used to connect to those who were like us. Today we have to learn how to connect above any differences, above the divisiveness, in order to attain the mutual force of giving.
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From KabTV’s “New Life 847 – Together And Alone,” 4/4/17

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New Life 846 – Loneliness
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Yael Leshed-Harel

Why do we feel lonely? How can we bridge the gap between the world that is becoming interconnected and the ego that is asking to divide us?
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From KabTV’s “New Life 846 – Loneliness,” 4/4/17

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Question: According to the wisdom of Kabbalah a man is composed of two parts, masculine and feminine. What is the significance of the feminine element in a man?

Answer: The feminine element in a man is the force that drives him from within to search, to spiritual flight. Why does the feminine element give a man a lift but not to a woman? It is because she is pushing his masculine part. But in the feminine element, the desire to receive, there is no masculine element.

Question: If so, is the feminine part of a man more important?

Answer: The feminine part is more important everywhere. If Eve had not existed, we would exist as amorphous spiritual matter.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 12/4/17

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Question: How and when must a woman be seriously involved with the wisdom of Kabbalah if so many tasks are imposed upon her: work, family, a husband, and children?

Answer: We need to reorganize our world so that men will earn enough money for what the family needs to exist and women will be able to stay at home, deal with family matters, and educate the children, herself, and her husband. The man must engage with work only to support the family and to study the wisdom of Kabbalah.

Question: Do you believe that there will be a turn in this direction in the world?

Answer: Nothing will succeed otherwise. What will we do with billions of unemployed, with people who are not needed? With what will they be involved?

They must be taught and educated. Gradually, they will create normal families who will be compatible with the spiritual root. Without being compatible with the spiritual root, we will not reach the completion of correction, neither physically nor spiritually.
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