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The Couple: Friends

Dr. Michael LaitmanQuestion: How does the world of business need to be linked to family based on laws of the integrality of nature?

Answer: We are presently in such a transition where the masses still aren’t incorporated in integral education. Thus, in the meantime, it is hard for us to talk about this subject. However, let’s imagine that tomorrow during the afternoon break, we were to hold a workshop at the factory where a few married couples would take part. They would share ideas about how to solve various problems and help each another solve problems that they face.

The issue is that there are things that, in principle, we cannot change in ourselves, but we can change our attitude toward them. We ask the participants in the discussion to change their approach, to be more tolerant, understanding, compassionate, cooperative, and so forth.

This is the first goal that we need to attain in family workshops. Through discussing all kinds of questions together, people begin to understand that these kinds of problems exist for everyone, and this calms them, reduces the heat of passion by half. When I see that the same thing happens to everyone, then I relax: “What can be done? Everyone lives like that.”

Secondly, people really give each other very interesting advice.

During the discussions, each one suddenly begins to listen to what he hadn’t listened to previously. When both of them, the husband and wife, rise and together express their opinions, then a stronger connection is created between them. They begin to feel the strength as a couple facing all the others. This unites them, gives them a very strong feeling of identification! Afterward, they become something completely different.

Thus, events like these are very helpful, especially as they rise. At the beginning in the workshops, it is possible to talk about all kinds of different things, except for problems that are of a severe nature, like drugs or adultery. In reference to these kinds of problems that are difficult to solve, one needs to approach carefully and over time. However, in the end, finding their solution is also possible through the connection in the integral way.

Integral workshops change people and bring them together.

Question: Is it worthwhile to work together with your wife in the same place of business or to be partners in a business?

Answer: If it is the couple’s personal business, then it’s worthwhile.

As to working at the same company, what happens is that, when people begin to participate in the integral connection, their personal relationships are eliminated and above that, collective relationships begin to rise because they have a space for emotions that are completely different—not flat or linear. Thus, I don’t see any problem with that.
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From KabTV’s “Professional Secrets” 2/8/13

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The Habit Of Giving Goodness

Dr. Michael LaitmanQuestion: On the whole, our mission is to change our intention from in order to receive to in order to bestow. Can we teach people to do that? Can we turn this into a habit by using pedagogical methods?

Answer: This is actually what integral education is about, about changing our intentions. On the whole, education should deal only with intentions and should leave the desires untouched. Educating means to teach the art of bestowal, which is the art of placing an intention of bestowal on top of every desire

Question: But don’t we cultivate values in the form of different desires in children?

Answer: Children learn only by examples. They perceive and copy everything, including the way they walk and gesture. So education is about setting examples. The children reflect you, so you must first pay attention to yourself.

What is more, by your external examples, you convey and “transmit” your intentions to them. There is simply no other method to convey intentions. There is a connection that is erroneous since it is a connection in words. But external actions are for the benefit of the other; even if they are false and insincere, they still summon a response and a desire to repay goodness.

It says, “The hearts are attracted by actions,” which means the desires. We can get children to become used to it: At first I didn’t know, I didn’t think, I didn’t want to, but then I was taught and educated and now I cannot be any other way. Our parents taught us different habits in the same way, and these last for life. The body doesn’t understand and doesn’t accept other methods. “A habit becomes a second nature,” both for children and for grownups.
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From the 4th part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 3/4/13,”Introduction to The Book of Zohar

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Shocking Statistics Of The Eurozone Stuck In Crisis

Dr. Michael LaitmanIn the News (from Euronews): “Only a few weeks ago, EU officials were patting each other on the back and declaring that the euro crisis is over.

“Now the European Commission’s own forecasts published on Friday say the continent’s economic woes will continue. …

“Their latest study predicts the eurozone economy will shrink by 0.3 percent this year.

“That’s revised down from November’s outlook, which saw growth of 0.1 percent.

“If politicians and bankers think the single currency crisis has been consigned to the history books, try telling that to unemployed people in heavily-indebted EU countries.

“Greece has an employment rate of 27 percent, whilst Spain is closed behind with 26.9 percent.

“One economist says the EU needs to rethink its economic policies.

“Hans Martens, chief executive of the European Policy Centre, stresses that Europe has taken the wrong way to recover.

“’This is a disaster not only for let’s say the European institutions but also for member states because this is a reminder that they have not done enough they have simply not done enough to stimulate growth and jobs,’ he told euronews.”

My Comment: It is necessary to agree psychologically to the new state of the world (integral, united), the new economy (only reasonable consumption and equal distribution), and new social relations (equal rational consumption). This is what awaits us, regardless of our desires. In this case, ladies and gentlemen, the statistics will not shock you every time.
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Inspiration That Never Comes

Dr. Michael LaitmanQuestion: How can a manager of an enterprise help his employees feel the common inner strength?

Answer: People will only be able to feel the collective strength as a consequence of workshops on integral unity; there is no other way. This becomes possible as a result of interacting when they work according to the integral program and discuss special topics that we propose.

They suddenly begin to see and hear one another. One speaks and the other complements instead of arguing because every person must lower themselves before the opinion of others. Together they become inspired by their collective work; they seek collective knowledge, collective sensations.

And suddenly, something light and warm begins to form between them in the middle of the roundtable, something promising that makes them want to stay. They feel a completely new energy that lifts them out of their bodies and gives them a new charge, a kind of inspiration, feeling as if you separated from your body and that your life is this community. This is what you need to give them at the seminars.

This feeling does not disappear after the seminar. People hold on to it, miss it; this feeling becomes their life.
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Unemployment In The World Of Unfinished Business!

Dr. Michael LaitmanOpinion (Gavriil Popov, President of the International University in Moscow): 
“As it is known, the model of the Soviet and Nazi state socialism ruled out unemployment. There is nothing more difficult for a person than the impossibility of finding a job, that is why unemployment during crises is the main factor of people turning to socialism, national socialism, fascism.

“The experience of Soviet socialism has shown that providing all the members of society with work creates social stability, but reduces the average wage because the output should be divided among everyone; the desire to work effectively is diminished, and society heads towards a dead end.

“Unemployment is inherent in the modern postindustrial formation. But it is intolerable in comparison to the benefits that post-industrialism gives the employed. The solution must combine rewards to those who work efficiently and provide employment to everyone who wants to work with reasonable salaries.

“Therefore, it makes economic sense to have two systems of work:

“The sphere of competitive employment, based on competition, where high earnings stimulate efficiency;

“The sphere of social employment, providing jobs and wages sufficient for life to those who cannot work in a competitive environment (the elderly, the disabled, women with children, the unemployed in the sphere of efficient economy). Social employment must be self-supporting. And there is plenty of work in the social sphere: the collection and recycling of waste, remediation of forests, road repair, remediation of wasteland.”

My Comment: There will be a need for work in the social sphere for many years ahead. In any case, it is necessary to combine work in both spheres with integral education.
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Collective Balance

Dr. Michael LaitmanQuestion: People have differing sensitivity. Is there a chance that someone will not be able to integrate into unity that emerges during the workshops?

Answer: It is almost impossible because people who are sitting in a circle together become infected by each other. And that is why the most insensitive of them gets gentleness, tenderness, and sensitivity from the others, and the most sensitive one becomes balanced by others. Everything reaches a common denominator.

They do not have anything personal because everything changes into the collective. You say that some of them feel in this way and someone else in a different way. There is no longer “someone”—each of them includes all the others into himself.
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Dr. Michael LaitmanQuestion: Suppose two conflicting personalities, a chief accountant and a marketing manager, come to their director as an arbitrator. What principles should he take into account to resolve the conflict: business interest, personal relationships, or the laws of nature?

Answer: For example, I solve these issues simply. I ask them to leave the office and resolve their issues themselves because this is not the way to solve problems.

We have already finished the stage of human development and the human where it was possible to solve problems at the level of the “king-father” who would decide for them. He will not decide because his thinking is not integral, and thus it will not work.
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One Against All Of Nature

Dr. Michael LaitmanBaal HaSulam, “Introduction to The Book of Zohar,” Item 1: When we examine ourselves, we find that we are as corrupted and as low as can be. And when we examine the operator who has made us, we are compelled to be at the highest degree, for there is none so praiseworthy as Him. For it is necessary that only perfect operations will stem from a perfect operator.

Indeed we see that nature is perfect and that everything in it is arranged much more successfully than in our lives. A person’s attitude to others comes down to a desire to rape, kill, eat, abuse, and beat others in any way possible. We see that such an approach is bad and harmful. In order to lead a normal life, it would be better if we existed nicely on the basis of the principles of mutuality, preserving nature, and watching over one another. We teach our children not to fight, to be generous, and to play together. But it appears that children can’t do this and neither can adults. It turns out that our nature is evil. This is what we discover when we look at ourselves.

On the other hand, in nature everything is built wonderfully. Numerous studies are more clearly depicting the picture of this harmonious balance and mutual cooperation. In the end nature created life which requires coordination between delicate and complex mechanisms working together. We see how versatile and complex the world is and how wisely it was created. Where does all that come from? From some tiny “atom” that was created as a result of the Big Bang?

One way or the other, the accurate, complex versatility that we see impresses us, but when we look at man who is the “crown of creation” we see one inclination: to destroy everything. This makes one to consider how that can be; that the most complex part, the “best” part, is also the worst part.

An ant or a cockroach doesn’t harm anyone, they only act according to nature’s orders and help others in the general system that is mutually connected. In it, everyone lives in order to sustain the others and each one has its own niche and sustains itself in order to be connected with thousands of other creatures. Together they all make up a perfect jigsaw puzzle, an inseparable combination of the lines of the general picture. If you take out one item, everything will immediately become distorted, and the perfection will be destroyed.

In the meantime, on the whole, this is what man does. His actions are in contrast to the perfection of nature. All the animals and plants, everything, exists in perfect agreement, and most importantly in mutual completion; everyone is connected, and everyone depends on everyone, needs one another. In nature everything is based on balance where you can’t take out one link and move it to another place; it’s one whole jigsaw puzzle. And along comes man and destroys it until the world gradually approaches disaster. Up until now we didn’t understand that other than us all of nature is perfect and things that seem to us as imperfect are an indication of the “distorted mirror” of our perception or as a result of our destructive participation.

Man can’t be incorporated into the wholeness since he is corrupt. He is the only creature that is opposite from nature and this shows that the key for the correction is actually within us.
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From the 4th part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 2/26/13, “Introduction to The Book of Zohar

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Dr. Michael LaitmanQuestion: Can we assess the balance of power in our world according to the balance of spiritual forces in the story of Purim? How are integral education and the science of Kabbalah reflected in this story?

Answer: Let’s have a look at the characters of Purim: The king, Mordecai, Haman, and Esther who ties them. All the threads are woven in her.

This is how a person’s inclinations are presented: the three lines and the Creator above, that is, knowledge and the aspiration for Keter above reason in the middle line. But in reality, all this is manifested due to the work on unification. That is why the events of Purim take place during the Babylonian exile.

Purim is the most important symbol.

The group of Abraham came from Babylon, realized a series of corrections, and then fell from its degree and descended to Babylon again to reveal the ultimate method of correction there.

With this method, the group builds a spiritual vessel again; however, it cannot stay in it because this vessel is much weaker than the previous one. It has a lot more limitations than the previous one because now the whole world needs to be corrected.

Then again, mixing takes place, but already on the basis of this vessel corrected in Babylon and adapted to the world.

And then the sons of Israel go out into the world to be together with it, and in our days they come to the same Babylon, to the same situation with Haman, Mordecai, and Ahasuerus.

Today, everything is ready, but we want to advance along a good path, above reason, and that is why we have to explain to everyone that salvation is in unity.

At the time, Haman wanted to use the state of the “sleep” of the sons of Israel: They did not maintain the correct connection between them and it provided an opportunity to destroy them, that is, to destroy spiritual aspiration and to make them work egoistically.

On the other hand, integral education tells us, no, we must begin to unite because in it lies the salvation of the world, both material and spiritual. We have no other option.

In the current conditions, we seemingly stand against the entire world, calling for reasonable consumption according to basic needs, for equality, for fair distribution, etc. We explain that the inflated banking sector and excessive production have no place in the world. Gradually understanding how we have to live in new conditions, humanity will get rid of all those invented activities, leaving only what is really necessary for normal existence.

This does not mean that we move back or reverse history. Of course, we can continue to develop various technologies but in a way so they are not frills, but real necessities for life.

For example, if production is automated, people will not have to work for even an hour a day. Well, let them be engaged in the main activity of their life—spiritual development. Let them do internal work on themselves.

We do not understand yet that the cutting-edge technologies create a new “virtual” world in which the desire to receive will exist quietly on the “animal” level because, after having risen to the human degree, you will cease to feel the “flavor” of previous desires. Similarly, we do not feel how our hair and nails grow, and how we trim them.

The feeling of this world will start to “fade,” and all our actions, all the connections, all the existence will be felt only in the relations between people. Only these relations will be based, not on the principle of “give and take,” not only in the physical interaction and not through exchange of goods, this level will recede to the background and disappear from perception, instead of it, we will increasingly feel the inner essence of what is happening, our true, deep relationships.

So, in our perception, we will move on to the next level, which does not exist in our world because it consists of the still, vegetative, and animate levels, and the human degree does not belong to it. If you attain it, all the other degrees are included in it and disappear as such. Then, our perception is suddenly transported in the world of forces, not the world of matter. It turns out that “matter” is the desire to receive, and not material images, like shadows, projected on the mirror of our consciousness.

Modern technologies provide good support to this perception. In the coming years we will see how people lose their usual activities and as if are left with nothing. Then, why are we needed at all?

We are needed, but not in the form of bodies. After all, the “I” is something eternal, immutable, and we rise to this degree by means of integral education, which allows us to move forward smoothly and comfortably and not under the barrage of blows that leave no other choice.

We cannot despair on this path. After all, our small spiritual effort many times exceeds all the material efforts. If we think a little bit more, “push” a little more in spiritual development, no bombs and missiles will be able to resist this, millions of haters will be powerless before this.

We have to be aware of the difference of potentials between the spiritual force and the material force. As Baal HaSulam writes that all the representatives of the “animate” level are equal one representative of the human degree. In essence, there is nothing to compare because the power between the degrees differs so much. We only need to go deeper inside, and you will see how we come to Purim…
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From the 4th part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 2/25/13, Writings of Rabash

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German President Asks Britain To Stay In The EU

Dr. Michael LaitmanIn the News (from The Financial Times): “Germany’s president appealed on Friday to the people of the United Kingdom to remain members of the EU, in a speech intended to counter euroscepticism across the continent.

“’Dear people of England, Scotland, Wales and Northern Ireland, dear new British citizens!’ declared Joachim Gauck. ‘We would like you to stay with us!’

“His appeal to British pride and patriotism – ‘During the second world war, your efforts helped to save our Europe, and it is also your Europe,’ he said – underlined a deep concern in Berlin that a referendum in the UK, promised by David Cameron, the prime minister, could see a British vote to leave the EU.

“We will only be able to master future challenges if we work together. More Europe cannot mean a Europe without you!” …

“He dismissed accusations that Germany was seeking to intimidate its EU partners, or force its ideas on them, in laying down the rules to recover from the eurozone crisis. …

“’This is not just a struggle for our currency,’ he said. Europe was facing more than an economic crisis. ‘It is also a crisis of confidence in Europe as a political project.’…

“’We stand together . . . for peace and freedom, for democracy and the rule of law, for equality, human rights and solidarity.’”

My Comment: Isn’t it too late to appeal for solidarity, and not even complete solidarity at that, just financial? The root of the problem is a gradual shift in the program controlling humanity. The program is gradually changing from egoistic to altruistic and requires humanity to become similar to it and to participate in it actively. Inconsistency with the program is manifested as a multi-faceted crisis.

Humanity has a method of retraining itself to become similar to a new program. The method is called integral education. As long as humanity is stubborn, the program is being introduced more and more in our world, in all its forms, and that is why the crisis is felt stronger from day to day. Let’s wait when the words about equality, rights, and so on will become significant and desirable, instead of empty.
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