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We And Time

Dr. Michael LaitmanQuestion: We live in the flow of time. There are people who waste a lot of energy learning how to plan their time. Does this depend on how much a person has to do?

Answer: It depends on a person’s desire. Essentially, the internal self-organization of the person depends on his psychological setup, and everyone has their own.

There are people who are very organized internally: They consider each step from the start, they are compelled to plan their day, sometimes even long before they materialize their plan, and this is how they operate all the time. This is “in their blood.” But if there is a desire, it’s possible to learn this.

There has to be a clear task set before an individual, the obligation to carry it out, the desire to fulfill it, and the influence of the environment on him or her. All of it has to be organized in a way that it will work within a person.

On the other hand, there is a worldwide trend of evolutionary development, which changes our desires and values. And therefore, even if we obligate a person to work according to the previous values for attaining goals that are no longer important to him today, it will be very difficult for us to get a good work yield out of him.

This also depends on time. A very serious change in man and society is taking place today. Every people, every civilization (today there are six or seven civilizations in the world) has its own sense of time, and therefore we need to take this into account.

For example, the inhabitants of Africa, China, and South America comprehend time completely differently than the inhabitants of Northern Europe and North America. They have an absolutely different approach, internal sensation of time, and they ascribe different value to time. For some time is money, like an immense potential they were given and now must realize, while for others time flows calmly and they flow together with it.

Question: If the representatives of various civilizations feel time differently, does it mean that the amount of activity done by them will also differ?

Answer: Certainly! If I employ a worker from India, with his mentality and with his relationship to time, or I take a person with a Nordic character, they will have completely different requirements for themselves, for those around them, and for everything.

We need to understand that the sensation of time in various modern civilizations is different. In accord with this we have to plan our interrelationships, attitude to general connections, associations, and so on.
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From KabTV’s “Through Time” 3/17/13

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Ego And The Sensation Of Time

Dr. Michael LaitmanQuestion: Is there some kind of dependence between a personal inner sensation of the speed of the flow of time and the person’s ego?

Answer: Certainly, the sensation of time is directly connected with all kinds of trends in the development of the ego of every person and every civilization. If we say that the world is different today, then we really mean that it’s changed in comparison to yesterday, but differently in its every part. We take this into account when speaking about some kind of global change, but not more than this.

It’s possible to learn how to regulate, to plan our time, but only if we take into account our natural inclinations and those limitations where we can at least make some kind of small change in our relationship to time.
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From KabTV’s “Through Time” 3/17/13

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The Acceleration Of Time

Dr. Michael LaitmanQuestion: Today most people think that in the subjective reality, time is beginning to advance much faster. In the past it seemed to them that time was stretched and smeared, so now the weeks go by so fast that people don’t pay attention to them. Why is this happening like this?

Answer: The life expectancy of the person who lived two or three hundred years ago was not more than 36 – 40 years on average. For them time flowed slowly, evenly, even though for them a lifetime was two times less than it is for us. In contrast, for us, there isn’t enough time for anything, time “runs” and suddenly we are old and then we die.

We feel time differently because the value of time is different. The number of activities that we can include in every moment in time has changed. Therefore time is also very saturated, dense.

This is not connected to fears, tension, or some kind of expectation that a person has; this is a much more complex problem. The more we develop, the more and more we become detached from the animal world.

An animal can live calmly. It has no concept of time: If it needs to lie down, it lies down, if it needs to hunt, it hunts, and so forth. That is, for the animal everything is determined, everything is according to the seasons of the year, everything has been considered. Nature shows it exactly what to do, and it has no problem with time. The animal is never late.

But the more that we have become humans in our development, the more we have problems with time. This is essentially because we want to renounce the concept of the “sensation of time.”
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From KabTV’s “Through Time” 3/17/13

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The First Cell Of A New Life

Dr. Michael LaitmanNature has made a dog instinctively connected to its owner. It feels that its life depends on the owner, and so it annuls itself before him. We, too, should annul ourselves, not instinctively, but by our own freewill by making our own decision, by working against our ego that doesn’t exist in animals, in order to attain the same correct loyalty and self-annulment without any preconditions, just because the upper is my source of life.

We must learn from nature, but there it happens by itself while we must work hard. There are such difficult states that we simply cannot accept this, and that confuses us and erases all our efforts.

This “dog’s loyalty” is not that different from the way a person must subdue himself before the group and it is much less than the loyalty we should feel toward the Creator. All our study and all our work are meant for that, for stabilizing the necessary vessels in us through which we can contact the Creator. We need them so we will have something with which to come to Him.

This is all given to us for our preparation: a teacher, a group, the world, the study, the dissemination—everything that we can think of—and it is all in order to create the first cell by which you adhere to the Creator. It is like a cone. You perform many actions below, and you only reach one point of adhesion with the Creator above when you really enter the womb with the drop of semen.

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According to the spiritual ladder you perform a great deal of actions below, billions of actions that eventually turn into one action at the top of the ladder, and in this one action, you come in contact with the Creator. You turn a great number of actions into one small, qualitative action with regard to the Creator.

This is the only thing that allows us to reach Him. See how many actions a small child does until he can perform one rational action. See how hard he works at running around until he finally manages to do something meaningful where the mind, the feeling, and the motion become one whole.
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From the 2nd part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 5/20/13, The Zohar

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If I Get Sick I Will Turn To The Friends

Dr. Michael LaitmanRabash, “Make Yourself a Rav and Buy Yourself a Friend- 2”: It was written in the book, Matan Torah (The Giving of the Torah, p 143), that one is not impressed by the society or takes their appreciation of something, unless he regards the society as greater than himself. This is the reason why each one must feel that he is the smallest of them all, since one who is great cannot receive from one who is smaller than himself, much less be impressed by his words. Rather, it is only the smaller one who is impressed through appreciating the greater one.

This is one of the recommendations as to how a person has to organize his thoughts, his desires, and his attitudes in order to reach the goal. The ultimate goal of course is in the initial thought, but in order to reach that a person has to build from the endpoint to the to the very beginning.

The advice can be general and individual. The general advice is from the foundation for the individual’s advice, and it’s our obligation to follow the spirit of the general advice. The individual advice refers to specific thoughts that suddenly come to a person, but the foundation has to be solid and common to everyone.

This is why it is necessary to feel the importance of the group and it has to be as strong and great as possible, which means great in quantity and quality. It’s because a person is a desire to receive. Everything begins from the ego that must be corrected. So we have to think about what works most effectively on my ego, on my desire to receive, which members of the society.

Some can influence me, and someone cannot. I need to be like an objective doctor, an outsider who is taking care of this patient, of my desire to receive, which I have to cure. So I need to check which society I need for that and which people impress me, and which actions, and what bestowal I should ask from the friends. When I am sick I am allowed to ask the friends for help, since it says: “They shall help one another.”

When we gather, we have to praise the society and speak of its greatness and then speak about the necessary measures by which we reach the love of friends, and from the love of the created beings we reach the love of the Creator. So I can advise them and ask them to perform such actions that I believe will affect my desire to receive most efficiently.

We must hope, wait, expect, and check, whether our feeling towards the love of friends and towards getting closer to one another is constantly growing, and whether I feel help from above by that, meaning the bestowal of the Light that Reforms. We must constantly check ourselves: which changes occur from one day to the next, from one week to the next, and whether we feel the changes as we get closer to the friends, the growing importance, necessity, and the strengthening of our connections. I check my ascents and descents according to these criteria and not according to my mood. Thus we advance.
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From the Preparation of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 5/23/13

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Not Prediction, But Research

Dr. Michael LaitmanQuestion: What makes you arrive at conclusions regarding what this world, humanity, and relationships among people will turn into in the future? What is the basis of your prognoses?

Answer: In general, there are multiple predictions that confirm that the upcoming final state of humanity is about equality and mutual inter-dependence; we all see how much our world aspires to it. Who could believe fifty years ago that there would be an African-American president? It seemed impossible!

Nature constantly seeks balance in any form: pressure fluctuations, temperature differences; everything strives to equilibrium. The same applies to human society. To the extent that we achieve correspondence with nature’s general tendencies, to the degree of our understanding that the situation that currently reveals to us pushes us to an overall balance, we’ll arrive at this state through the “mild path,” by “shedding less blood.”

Question: Can we say that your prognoses are built on developmental stages of human egoism?

Answer: Yes, by all means! I am not a “prophet,” I am a researcher. In general, the field of my expertise is exploring egoism, meaning the basis of human nature and the environment in general.

However, humanity develops egoism in a negative way. In the still, vegetative, and animate levels of nature, advancement of egoism brings benefits to progressing objects, whereas, at the speaking level, it expands contrary to human interests. The question is: How long will our egoism push us ahead and demonstrate to us that it is harmful? How long will it perpetrate conflict between our progress and our negation of the movement? When people approach this state, revolutions, wars, and other dramatic conflicts emerge.
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From KabTV’s “The Global Crisis” 3/19/13

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Reality Without Filters

Dr. Michael LaitmanThere are laws of nature which we learn about in the form in which we exist. We are egoists, our “material” is the desire for pleasure, and we search for opportunities to enjoy life with all our senses. This is our entire goal; all our life and effort is to feel maximum enjoyment with minimum effort at every moment.

That is how we exist. All of the still, vegetative, and animate nature, as well as humans, are instinctively attracted to pleasure. This was the tendency of our development throughout all generations; all of our science is based upon this. We examine nature with a similar intention, the search for maximal pleasure. Our view of the world and the laws which we investigate, the nature discovered through comprehension of ourselves and the environment, all this passes to our emotion and understanding through that “filter” according to an established formula, demanding the exploitation of reality for our own benefit.

Therefore, our outlook is always the most narrow and selective, devoid of any complexity. We don’t truly know what is to be found around us. We comprehend and understand things only to the degree that they fit into our basic mechanism, how much it approaches our principle to enjoy life.

This internal characteristic limits us very much. We don’t see a true picture; there are still many things that are hidden from our comprehension in this world. We are not objective.

There exists around us a multitude of phenomena of which we are unaware, and yet they are directly relevant to our life and our fate. So, the wisdom of Kabbalah comes to help us, making it possible for us to “open our eyes” and look objectively at the wide world spread beyond our five senses, which are limited by the “filter” of our selfishness.

To do this we must rise above our “filters.” Only then will we feel the world as it is. This is why we need the wisdom of Kabbalah, which is most important, and at the end of the matter, the most practical thing we can do. Besides investigating our nature, we must carry out particular actions to get used to looking at the world without inner disturbances, to rise above our ego to a comprehension of true reality.

For example, suppose that I am talking with someone and I feel that I don’t understand him because of previous opinions about him that I acquired from my education, the details that I see in him are very disturbing to me and limit my ability to understand him. Only if I rise above my habits, above my nature, above the education that I received, above my narrow view, can I truly understand him.

It happens to all of us that someone may claim that we don’t understand him, don’t want to understand; only after a number of years do we understand that due to our limitations that we truly didn’t understand him. Logically, our relationship was narrow and indifferent. If we were able to rise above our “personal views,” we would see the person as he is. Though this is very difficult, it is possible.

This touches upon our general comprehension of Nature. There is a very difficult problem here. In relationships with other people we can use psychological exercises, external influences, listen to explanations, and ultimately see our mistakes, deviations in our comprehension. But how do we build the right attitude towards the entirety of nature? How is it possible to see it without our habits? This is much more difficult.

Who will explain to me how to look at the world with different eyes as if it is not me who I am seeing but someone who has no form of his own? To do this, I must become completely independent of myself….Therefore, we use the advice of Kabbalists who already went above their nature, above the ego, which limits and distorts one’s perspective. If we do precisely what they say, ultimately we will succeed.

Sometimes we draw closer to a true picture, sometimes we fall back, and vice versa. We discover our extreme limitations, discover our very “narrow” and even bleak egoistic relationship regarding various phenomena. We call these states “ascents” and “descents.” They help us understand how much we are trapped within our ego and how difficult it is to rise above it.

The Kabbalists say that in order to go out of captivity, it’s up to us to build connection with other people, and working together we try to see them more objectively. According to the formula, “each person will help his friend,” we can inspire ourselves to ascend, to want to ascend above our nature that limits us. And if we try to do this, we awaken a unique power in nature called the “Light that Reforms.” This force helps us to develop ourselves to be freed from a limited, narrow, and egotistical perspective of the world, stripping ourselves of our limitations.

And then we see a good, perfect, and eternal world without any restrictions attributed to our bodies. So we begin to feel different special senses: not sight, hearing, taste, smell, and touching, rather, Keter, Hochma, Bina, Zeir Anpin and Malchut. Through them we comprehend reality without limitations, and then we feel our lives as independent of the body.

We feel ourselves as perfected, eternal creatures existing within an eternal, perfect world, and relate to the body as we would to an animal, like a dog lying next to his master, each having his own life. There is a connection between them, but the person doesn’t depend on the dog at all. The living body could live and it could die while the person in us continues to exist in a higher world without limitations in an eternal reality. It’s there that he feels and discovers himself.

We feel this upper world as a unique system; we call it a “psychological” system. It becomes the “body” but it is no longer a physical body, rather what we would call the “soul.” And our entire goal is to discover our true selves that no longer exist within the material body, unlimited by its concerns and usefulness, rather rising above it to eternity and perfection.

And then we essentially discover that all of our life was meant only for this. Our body gradually grows old and dies, meaning that it stops existing as an animate form and returns to the still, yet we continue to live since within we have received true existence. This is the goal that we want to attain through learning the wisdom of Kabbalah.

The main thing here is not the learning itself, rather the actions that we must carry out among us so that with their help we can in fact develop a new sense without limitations.

Therefore, we gather in groups. This began with the first Kabbalists thousands of years ago. They also organized themselves into groups and already understood in accordance with a higher nature what kind of arrangement there must be within them, what kind of relationships there must be between friends.

You see, in a group there specifically must be friends who are connected, are concerned for each other, feel and support each other. The group needs to be whole, this is to say, to be a single whole where they complete each other and create something unified.

While building this unity, we acquire a system ready to comprehend, to feel, the upper world. This is because we have exited ourselves and exist outside of our ego. We build the group for this according to the advice of the Kabbalists. They are our teachers, and we act like them.

This is speaking of a practical science in which everything is done according to accumulated experience. Over thousands of years, people who broke through to the upper world tried various means on themselves to advance and they described this for us. So, today we are using tried and true prescriptions.

Beyond this, today, we ourselves are developing additional means to help us to advance. The conditions of life are different in every generation because our ego is growing all the time.

And today it not only grows, but it also “closes in on itself,” which has become an additional problem. We are no longer just egoists. Because of the increased strength of our ego, we want to get away from each other. We see this in statistics about divorces, and in general in the general trend: Everyone requires his own apartment, his own car, his own “place.” We prefer to connect through cell phones, through the Internet, in social networks, not face to face, not one to one. It seems to us that mutual connection has grown, yet the reality is the opposite: The world is becoming more and more divided, fragmented, dispersed.

Simultaneously, though we aspire to get away from each other, in spite of all this, we feel connected. Therefore, we build artificial systems for making connection possible, while preserving the independence of the ego. Everyone sits in his own cell, in his corner with his smart phone, with his computer, with his email. And we call this a “connection”; the main thing being not truly to touch each other.

These new phenomena in our world require new methods from us, making it possible for us to rise above the ego, to go out and feel the real world, with real feeling that hasn’t passed through the “filters” of our ego. And therefore besides the usual forms, we also use workshops. I see already that in the future we will have other similar means, in a few more months or years depending upon the advancement of the world and our advancement within it. But one way or another, all these means are designed solely for us to rise above ourselves, above our nature, and not remain trapped within the prison of our body.
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From the Talk About The Importance of Gathering 5/10/13

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Dr. Michael LaitmanBaal HaSulam, “The Arvut (Mutual Guarantee)”: …each member of Israel became responsible that nothing shall be missing from any other member of the nation. Only then did they become worthy of receiving the Torah, and not before.

With this collective responsibility, each member of the nation was liberated from worrying about the needs of his own body and could keep the Mitzva, “Love thy friend as thyself” in the fullest measure, and give all that he had to any needy person, since he no longer cared for the existence of his own body, as he knew for certain that he was surrounded by six hundred thousand loyal lovers, who were standing ready to provide for him.

If we can connect and through this come to mutual guarantee, no one will be able to shake it. You see, the power of Arvut influences everyone and if each feels that his ego has been neutralized, he will stop being concerned for himself and simply will not be ready to be an egoist. The power of Arvut necessarily neutralizes narcissism in everyone, and in this kind of an environment no one can remain uncorrected, this is to say, without self-nullification toward others. The environment nullifies the egoistic needs of the person supplying him with everything he needs.

With sufficient thoughtful support from the environment, my concerns for myself disappear. That is how the network that connects us works and it is impossible to get rid of it. I am linked with them all through thousands of bonds and innumerable threads. The environment activates me. It makes no difference if I want this or not. The mechanisms of the network are a fact, and therefore, since the group supplies my needs, it eliminates my egoistic desire. So, I am free.

Therefore, if the person is connected with the group, he must receive all the strength that he needs from it in order to relax himself. He no longer has concerns about himself. He simply is not prepared to “make” them because the group extinguishes them immediately.

Even today I am in a collective network, but I feel that I am not receiving anything from it like this or anything else that I need. All of my apprehensions are derived from this. We are totally linked. Within the network of threads that link us if I feel that I lack something, then I become apprehensive. I fear for myself, thinking, “What will happen to me?”

However, in the right group, after I arrange connections between us, I find that I am absolutely secure. This neutralizes all my fears and I will be free beyond the limitations of our world.

After all, “our world” is the reality where we feel linked, more or less, dependent on each other and influencing each other negatively. Seemingly, everyone here is not found in his place. This mutual negative connection in this shared spider web is our egoistic world.

To the contrary, when I enter a group of Kabbalists, I build the right connection with the closest components of the system. It is not by chance that I am brought to a group, rather, because I am truly linked to the friends I am not just spending time with a society of people who are like me. Now that I am attracted to the Source, this directs me to connect with someone close to me in the spiritual network, and even if they live thousands of kilometers away from me in the physical network, in spite of all this, I find them.

So, according to the degree of closeness, a system of relationships is developed between us until this supplies me with a state where I feel free of worries about myself. This is the first stage of self-nullification. In the second stage, the friends raise the upper One in my eyes: the group, the Creator, the Giver.

Therefore, the influence of the group is divided into two parts: The first is that it neutralizes the egoistic desire within me. The friends give me a feeling that they are concerned for me all the time no matter what may happen. In the past, my concerns for myself formed a terrifying future for me. Now, the friends give me a secure future. Only a group is ready to do this. It supplies me with Surrounding Light that matches my desires directed at the future. Only the friends can extinguish that and then the sensation of tomorrow disappears so much so I feel beyond time. This is the first condition. The group neutralizes the egoistic concern about the present and the future in me.

Second, I also need a force that will attract me toward the upper. In the name of this, with all their strength, the friends raise the importance of the goal, the Creator, the teacher, the group in my eyes, in other words, the importance of all the means to which I must hold.

In this way, through the collective network that we develop in the group, I reach self-nullification.
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From the 4th part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 4/30/13, Writings of Baal HaSulam “The Mutual Guarantee”

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What Evades Our Consciousness?

Dr. Michael LaitmanQuestion: Why is it that when we talk about the integral network, about integral cooperation, it fades somehow, evades our human consciousness?

Answer: The concept of “integral network” isn’t grasped by a person because it’s opposed to his ego. It’s very difficult for him to invest personal efforts in integral work. How can he exit his ego and begin to think about others? Actually, it’s impossible.

It’s only when problems come to him that are above his egoism: fears, worries, and threats, and then he thinks about the benefits of society. For example, this is what happens at the time of war since the benefit and good of the society and of man become one thing. And even more than that; the benefit of the society is the determining factor, and it’s as if a person is a secondary part included in society itself.

How is it possible that a person will be included within the society as one complete whole without any threats or shocks? For this, public pressure is needed, opinion, a social orientation. But if we leave a person alone without any social pressure, then he won’t be able to do it, since this is his nature.

And that is the level of a real united integral society. This is the same level that is found above the present society.
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From KabTV’s “The Wisdom of the Crowd” 5/14/13

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About Angels, Satan, And Others…

Dr. Michael LaitmanQuestion: Where did angels, Satan, and the rest of the pure and impure forces appear, and what is their status?  When did they appear, on which day of creation?

Answer: In nature no strange forces appear, just the one and only force called the “Creator.”  You can call this force whatever you want.  It always reveals itself in a way that is identical to your ego, which is constantly changing.  So hold onto its identical behavior in regard to yourself as something that is absolutely good, as the discovery of all kinds of both positive and negative influences that you discover both inside you and outside of you.
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