Questions about Spiritual Work—31

249.01Question: Under the open governance of the Creator does a person always feel only mercy and goodness?

Answer: Yes, of course. How could it be otherwise? He feels the Creator, that is, only positive effects on himself.

Question: Why do we say in some cases that if there is a plea, the answer is ready immediately, and in other cases we wait for years, months, or days for answers?

Answer: It does not depend on us. We should just increase our plea. If this is a true request, we should focus on it and direct it to the Creator all the time.

Question: There is a great need for the Creator in our ten. We feel that we really miss Him. What else do we need to bring contentment to the Creator?

Answer: We lack a real sense of the need for the Creator to become one and, in this unity, to feel that the Creator is in us.
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From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 11/14/23, Writings of Baal HaSulam “Two States“

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What Should One Do if Your Wife Is Lured Away from You?

565.01 Igor writes:

Dear Michael Laitman,

I never thought that this would happen to me! I had a misfortune. My closest friend lured my wife away from me! It is a primitive triangle, but I can no longer breathe and live!

You say: “We must accept the situation.” But how? I now understand what hatred is and what despair is when one gives up and tears flow uncontrollably. I am crying for the second time in my life: the first was at my mother’s grave and the second is now. How can I survive this?

Answer: I do not know what to advise a person in this case. I think that you need to think about others and not about yourself. Was she happy with you? Apparently not so much, and that is why she left.

What could happen now? Suppose you force her back or in some fantasy you make her feel bad so that she comes back to you, throws herself at your feet, cries, and all that. I do not think that would reassure you because the very action when she left for someone else is already irreparable.

The best thing, of course, is to change the environment, get married, and start a new family.

Question: That is, let it go? She was a part of me, my “I,” that is why Igor is suffering, and you say: “Let it go”?

Answer: Yes.

Comment: A part of his “I” was cut off and you say…

My Response: This is generally a huge loss and a very strong defeat, of course. Let her go!

Question: Let her go? Do you even say: “Let her be happy there”? And do you think that at that moment he will begin to feel a relief if he comes to this thought?

Answer: I think so. It is very difficult to change your hatred to some kind of love, that you love the person with whom you were maybe even happy, and everything was good. But she did not feel good, and she exchanged you for someone else.

And you make it so that despite the fact that you were happy with her, you raise yourself here and think: “But if she really did not feel good, and now she feels good, can I be happy because she is happy?” Here you have to answer this for yourself.

That is, you must rise above your egoism, above your jealousy, ambition, above all this, and say: “If she is happy, then I am happy.” Otherwise you will not fix it.

Question: You will eat yourself up as a result. Will you feel much worse?

Answer: Yes. And if you find out that she is happy, and you will feel happy because of this, then you resolved this problem.

Comment: This is beautiful! But how hard this is! How difficult!

My Response: It is very hard in feelings.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 10/16/23

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With Words We Pollute the World

564Question: What does the eruption of all our verbal information mean for the world?

Answer: We pollute the entire world.

Question: Why did the upper one need us to talk all the time so that we have TV and everything would be talking all the time? What is it for?

Answer: Have you heard kids screaming and running around at a playground? That is the same kind.

Question: But we use words differently, we humiliate, lower. If we are talking about TV, this is our way. We give such power to speech. What does it produce in the world?

Answer: It produces new corruptions over and over in the world. We cannot escape it unless, we begin to transform ourselves.

Comment: It happens that one can kill with a word, but it is unlikely with silence.

My Response: You can never make it worse with silence. It is better be silent.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 9/21/23

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Daily Kabbalah Lesson – 11/30/23

Preparation to the Lesson

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1st part of the Lesson — Writings of Rabash, “Should One Sin and Be Guilty”

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2nd part of the Lesson — Writings of Baal HaSulam, “Study of the Ten Sefirot,” Vol. 2, Part 6, Item 26

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3rd part of the Lesson — Writings of Baal HaSulam, Introduction to The Book Panim Meirot uMasbirot

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Saint-Exupery’s Prayer

627.2Comment: Antoine de Saint-Exupery, author of The Little Prince, wrote a prayer that begins

Lord, I’m not asking for miracles and visions, I’m only asking for strength to get through the day. Teach me the art of small steps.

Please share your comments about it.

My Response: It is very good. That is, do not make for yourself any grandiose plans or any big upheavals in life. There is no need! On the contrary, do precisely small steps, but so that you know exactly what they are, and that this is your real skill.

Question: Practically, does a person take a step and then need to check whether this step is the one he was thinking about, and how to finish it?

Answer: Yes, absolutely.

Question: What is next? How does the thought about the next step come?

Answer: According to what he has done, he can already continue to work.

Present me with the sense to be able to judge whether something is important or not.

My Response: This is very important when it seems to a person that there are many kinds of tasks, problems, solutions, and so on, and he makes a certain order in them.

Question: How do I understand whether something is important or not?

Answer: Because it includes everything else, and nothing else can be solved without my solving it first. That is, this is the key to solving everything else.

Question: What is important for a person?

Answer: To understand what he wants from life in general. We can say in another way, to understand what the Creator wants from him.

Save me from the naive belief that everything in life has to go smoothly.

My Response: In fact we cannot plan steep, difficult turns; we still want it all to be smooth.

Question: But he writes, Save me from the naive belief. Why should I be saved from it?

Answer: This will stop a person if he imagines such obstacles on the way.

Question: Are you saying that a person should think that it would be better if everything were smooth?

Answer: Yes.

Question: What if steep turns start?

Answer: If they start, I want to run away.

Question: What should I do if all these ups and downs start?

Answer: We need to increase the importance of these steep turns within ourselves. Then it will be possible to overcome them with pleasure. The steeper the turn, the more significant it is.

Question: Is there a law “the steeper the turn, the steeper the ascent”?

Answer: Yes, of course.

Send me the right person at the right moment, who will have enough courage and love to utter the truth!

My Response: Of course, everyone would like to have such a person. Some do succeed.

Question: So is this combination—enough love to utter the truth—the right combination?

Answer: It helps a lot.

Comment: Usually, during our conversations, you have said: “Why are you spilling your truth on a person? It is your truth. It is like you are spilling your ego out on him. Here, however, you say that this combination, when you say it with love, is a different deal.

My Response: This is a great help!

I know that many problems solve themselves, so please teach me patience.

Comment: This moment is always very difficult for me to understand.

My Response: Although it does not look heroic or correct, the wisest thing, in fact, is to go with the flow.

Question: That is, not to take fortresses by storm, but to go with the flow?

Answer: Yes. It will come to you anyway. Everything is in the hands of the upper, and we need to agree with this.

Question: Is this the most difficult moment, this agreement?

Answer: Yes.

You know how much we need friendship. Make me worthy of this nicest, hardest, riskiest, and most fragile gift of life.

My Response: It is really very difficult. The fact is that being worthy of friendship means giving everyone around such a state.

Comment: In my opinion, this is impossible.

My Response: This is practically impossible and can be interpreted as your weakness. But this is the real strength.

Spare me the fear of missing out on life.

My Response: Yes, a person is afraid of missing out.

Question: How can one not be afraid?

Answer: It can be either absolute relaxation, it is what it is—or it is a pursuit of what should be, but it still will not be.

Question: How can one get rid of this regret that I missed something?

Answer: I think that this passes too. If I missed something, so be it.

Comment: This is what you say, but a person beats himself up all the time, thinking: “I missed out.”

My Response: Well, how long can he do it?

Comment: “I had to do it.” How does he know? Thoughts come, and one cannot escape from them. “This is what I had to do and I did not do it. Why did I not do it?! It was so easy; I could have done it all easily.” And so on. All these thoughts bother a person so much! I know it for myself.

My Response: Dreary.

Question: Dreary, yes. And a person thinks: “Why am I sitting on this thought?!” Can you advise how to cut it off?

Answer: My advice is to relax. Because you do not really determine anything.

Do not give me the things I desire, but the things I need.

My Response: This is right and good. But these are such requests… You will be given what you really need.

Question: Do you proceed from this line?

Answer: I proceed from the direct line of a person’s coexistence with the Creator.

If a person wants to somehow awaken this coexistence between himself and the Creator, to somehow change it for himself and his philosophy—I believe that this is not necessary. By this you tell the Creator that you are not worthy to take from Him what He gives, and nothing else.

Question: Do you mean that our brain and our thinking stand between us and the Creator? If we cut off this part, would we cancel the brains?

Answer: Then we would become animals. This is what makes us humans, but such humans who are always looking for ways out.

Question: What is your advice after all these prayers?

Answer: My advice is to continue searching, rushing, screaming, asking, and advising the Creator on what to do.

Admit to Him that I do not like His governance, then eventually, try to reach a state where I agree with His governance and do not try to do anything, not because my strength has run out, but just because I understand that I cannot think of anything new, and everything that I have experienced and felt was all given to me by the Creator in order to help me completely relax and leave my control of the world. And that’s the end of it.

Comment: I expected you to say, “To agree with the Creator.” But you said: “Go through all the disagreements, go through all your jumps and hops, and come to an agreement.”

Answer: Yes, our entire life is in this.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 8/3/23

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From a Single Source

610.2Question: In The Study of the Ten Sefirot, it is often repeated that the Creator’s thoughts are not our thoughts. How can this verse be turned into an area of work?

Answer: The fact is with the Creator everything comes from the desire to give, and with us everything is from the desire to receive. Therefore it is written that our thoughts are not His thoughts, and our actions are not His actions.

Man has nothing of his own except the primordial small egoistic desire. Even if you try to grasp the Creator’s thought, this thought is also from Him, despite you considering it your own.

Everything comes from the Creator. Our thoughts, desires, and actions are determined only by Him who we are trying to reveal.

Question: Once we reveal this, what will happen next?

Answer: We will completely agree with it, even though it seemingly destroys our egoism. Where are we then? We are nowhere. We are only the Creator’s thoughts.

Comment: It is hard to accept that I am practically not here.

Answer: Once we attain this, we will begin to feel our connection with the Creator.
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From the 2nd part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 11/10/23, Writings of Baal HaSulam “Study of the Ten Sefirot(TES)

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934Question: What does the correct covenant between us include, that even the Creator takes care of it?

Answer: The correct covenant is when we are concerned and cherish the connection between us and all the time take care that our connection is strengthened more and more.

Question: How can we come to the covenant in feelings if we have not yet come to the correct spiritual connection?

Answer: It does not matter; keep trying. You can do it. Just help each other and try to reach a state where you are all together in one Kli.

Question: Is it possible to build the covenant of salt with the teacher?

Answer: It is better to do this with the Creator.

Question: Does our covenant depend on the measure of the desire that the Creator will receive pleasure from it?

Answer: Yes, in the end all our actions should be with the intention to bring contentment to the Creator.
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From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson) 11/15/23, Writings of Baal HaSulam “On All Your Offerings You Shall Offer Salt“

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Everything Depends on the Purity of the Heart

627.1Question: If the covenant of salt is the covenant of our hearts, do we need to describe some points of this covenant or will they play no role?

Answer: They will not play any role. Here everything depends on the purity of the heart and thoughts. This is the most important thing.

People who study in our groups, if they are also spouses, have a lot of help from above from the Creator. They can really achieve a lot if they mutually help each other in spiritual matters.
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From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 11/15/23, Writings of Baal HaSulam “On All Your Offerings You Shall Offer Salt“

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What Is the Difference between Knesset Israel and Holy Shechina?

934Question: Rabash’s article “The Life of Sarah” talks about the inner work of a person when he conquers the nations of the world within himself and wants to be Israel.

It seems that all this is said about the unity of all the people because we are talking about the Knesset Israel. Does the correction go from one to all?

Answer: Ten is the minimum necessary to reveal the Creator and the spiritual world. Next comes an even larger assembly called the Knesset Israel. “Knesset” comes from the word “Kinus“—assembly, to gather. Israel is all those striving toward the Creator. Therefore, there is a group, a ten, or many people.

Question: How is Knesset Israel different from the Holy Shechina?

Answer: Israel is every person regardless of what society, state, people, or nationality he belongs to. If he strives to reveal the Creator, he is called Israel (Yashar El—straight to the Creator).

The Holy Shechina is the community of all people striving to unite with each other to create a place for the Creator where He can be revealed.
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From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 11/11/23, Writings of Rabash “The Life of Sarah“

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