Torah, Deuteronomy 24:1 – 24:4: When a man takes a wife and is intimate with her, and it happens that she does not find favor in his eyes because he discovers in her an unseemly (moral) matter, and he writes for her a bill of divorce and places it into her hand, and sends her away from his house. And she leaves his house and goes and marries another man, and if the latter husband hates her and writes her a bill of divorce, and places it into her hand and sends her away from his house, or if the latter husband who took her as a wife, dies her first husband, who had sent her away, may not take her again to be his wife, since she was defiled to him, for that is an abomination before the Lord, and you shall not bring sin to the land the Lord, your God, gives you for an inheritance
If we consider what has been said from the point of view of human society, then it can be treated as you like. And if considered from the point of view of the correction of the soul, then this desire cannot be corrected, because the first husband, who was trying to create the right intention with this woman (with this desire), saw that he could not do it.
So, he will not be able to fix it even after her second husband. But the second did not succeed in this either. After three husbands who gave her a divorce, she has no right to marry anymore, i.e., this desire is uncorrectable. It must be put aside until the next cycle.
The soul does not disappear anywhere. There will come the next cycle, and there will be another state in the common soul, and this private soul, this private desire, will be able to receive correction.
Question: But was there an attempt to correct it, if she still got married?
Answer: Of course.
Speaking of our world, never in the Jewish communities would a girl remain unmarried. She was sought by a husband all over the world! This is a major commandment. For any girl: curve, oblique, lame—no matter what—a groom had to be found. Such a dowry was collected for her that an average man was ready to marry her.
To marry was always considered a very great Mitzva—a charitable cause. A person who could do it at least once in his life had a feeling that he had something to come to above.
From KabTV’s “Secrets of the Eternal Book” 10/26/16