Loneliness Kills

293Some time ago, there was a suicide: a young man, an Israeli, a school teacher, committed suicide. He had a steady job, students, good health, and good looks, but was lonely.

In his farewell post on Facebook he wrote, “It’s bad when a person is alone. Loneliness kills. Day after day passes, month after month, year after year, and I am alone all the time: at lunch, at work, in the evening, on weekends, on holidays, on birthdays that no one remembers. The few friends I had disappeared over time. It’s time for me to go.”

This young man was not an exceptional case. According to statistics, even before the coronavirus, almost half of Americans felt lonely all the time or from time to time. 54% said they do not have close friends—that is about 200 million people in the US alone.

Loneliness is not only an American phenomenon. According to surveys, about one-third of Britons often feel lonely. Half of Britons over the age of 65 spend time with their TV, dog, or cat. In America and Canada, single people occupy 28% of all homes, and in European countries—34% or more. Since the beginning of the coronavirus epidemic, the problem of loneliness became even more acute.

Why do people feel more alone than ever in the most sociable era in human history? This indicates that there is no connection between us, despite the fact that we seem to be connected. We invent new communication devices: radio, television, the Internet, computers with an infinite number of different programs.

Yet, all this does not give a person fulfillment. One can find company, but it does not meet his inner demand to feel an internal connection, mutual dependence, like with the people that you are close to so that we are really interested in each other’s lives and do not just ask out of politeness.

There is no heartfelt connection between us. It turns out that I do not owe anything to anyone, and no one owes me anything. I do not need anyone, and nobody needs me, so I am not really connected to anyone.

When a person feels this way internally, it cuts them off from life. After all, what else is there in it? Sky, earth, air, houses, cars, all this fuss? The life on the screen of a TV or computer does not touch me, does not require my participation and help. In other words, our connections lack heart. This is the reason that so many people suffer from loneliness and even end up taking their own lives.

It would seem that it is good not to depend on anyone. However, we see that this is not the case. We want to be bound to each other by mutual obligations so that someone is important to me, and I am important to someone, and not just a statistical unit. I want to be a person so that someone is interested in me.

No one taught us at school how to communicate with each other. At work, too, no one is interested in the person himself, rather the worker is important. We have not built a society that binds people with friendly relations, with care for each other. The means of communication are only called that, but what do they connect us to? We have lost the correct direction of our aspirations.

Even the connection between parents and children disappeared: parents go to work early in the morning and return late at night. As soon as the children have the opportunity to leave their parents’ homes, they immediately run away. If they stay, it is only because there is nowhere to go and it is more cost-effective to stay with their parents, that is, this is an attitude of a consumer.

Mother will always feed, clothe, and give shelter. Yet, I am not going to create such a family myself. I was not brought up for family relationships. I lived in a family where my mother and father went to work for the whole day, and I did not see the family. The family once existed where a woman stayed at home with children and a man went to work. In the evening, the whole family gathered together and looked at each other because there was no TV. There were many children in the families and the grandparents were also there.

Today there is no such thing, today children lock themselves in their rooms with a computer and have their own life. We grow up to be indifferent, devoid of human sympathy, and do not need each other. At least, the way we are now—we do not need each other. Loneliness is the result of all this.

However, people suffer from loneliness, they want connection. They do not want to commit themselves, but a person is a social being, and therefore cannot live without society. A person needs to rely on the society to be associated with it and to learn from it. If you do not talk to him, do not take an interest in him, then he grows up to be an animal and not a human.

Therefore, it is not surprising that it is good people, educated people, who are drawn to society, to connection with others, who see that such life is worthless.
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From KabTV’s “Global Perspectives” 8/16/20

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Fast Transition To Change

214Question: To introduce the method of connection, one needs to implement several practical tips. First, use the media. This is the instructive and educational stage.

We see how mass media today influences and shapes public opinion. Therefore, it is possible to change public perception by constantly advertising that everything depends on the unity of people. Then this value will be more important than any personal qualities of an individual.

Second, open—and this already exists today—research centers for studying the unification of humankind.

Third, the upbringing of children in schools. Indeed, only knowledge is given in them today but not upbringing.

It is also necessary to develop specific training programs for the unemployed, inmates, people living alone, and other segments of the population.

How long do you think it would take to implement all this? And how long will it take to learn new communication skills between people?

Answer: If people see this as an urgent, collective necessity for humanity, which is practically facing the threat of destruction, then this will be realized very quickly and accepted in the shortest period of time. It can be hours, days, or weeks. It all depends on how clear it becomes to people that a terrible fate is hanging over them.

Question: Will suffering be the catalyst for this process?

Answer: Undoubtedly! Only that! Man is an egoist. If he feels good, he will not lift a finger. And it takes energy to lift a finger.

Remark: But he wants to get better.

My Reply: Depending on where it is better: “Do I understand what is better? Am I sure of this? No, I will look at others for now.”

Unfortunately, this will not work in a positive way. We see that a person is used to lying on the sofa. And only if he is approached by someone with a stick does he jump up.

Question: Is it still possible to positively come to changes in human psychology regarding relations with other people?

Answer: I hope so. At least such an example should be given to humanity. I work in this direction as much as possible. True, I am not engaged in the dissemination of Kabbalah among the broad masses, but I teach Kabbalah as a method of correcting certain special individuals who have an internal predisposition for this. I hope that in this way it will be possible to educate true teachers of the generation. And that generation is already taking shape.

Question: I know that Kabbalists are not engaged in predicting the future. Still, could you specify a time frame for when will the people of Israel be able to become a conduit? How long can it take?

Answer: I think that this will happen within the next few years. This will require some pressure from above, but in principle, people can grasp this very quickly. All the conditions for it exist today.

Therefore, visit our website and try to master our materials. This science will definitely come in handy for you anywhere any time, and you will not get away from it. Correcting the world is the goal of all humanity. And first of all, our goal.
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From KabTV’s “Systematic Analysis of the Development of the People of Israel” 12/9/19

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My Body And I

742.03Question: I find it hard to stop identifying myself with my five corporeal senses. How should I expand myself?

Answer: You have to look at your body from aside, like a beast. Your self is something that is not in the body at all. The body dies, whereas the self remains.

But I want to connect with myself before the body dies, to be inside it, and then I will not care what happens to my body.
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From KabTV’s “Fundamentals of Kabbalah” 10/7/18

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Who Is More Prone To Order?

571.01Question: Who, in your opinion, is more inclined to order—a man or a woman?

Answer: It depends on what level. On an everyday level, a woman, while a man does not feel or understand it at all. But he is more inclined to order at the level of comprehension, implementation, and management.

Question: Does the attitude to order change with age?

Answer: Slightly, but changing. Perhaps it even depends not on age, but on the profession, the nature of the occupation.
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From KabTV’s “Management Skills” 7/2/20

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Children And Questions About Death

570Question: How do you advise answering children’s questions about death? At what age can you talk to children about such topics? Should I take my child to a funeral?

Answer: I would not advise talking with children about death and taking them to a cemetery until they are 15 years old.

Question: And if they themselves ask such questions? They say that at the age of 10 or 11 they already begin to take interest in this.

Answer: Naturally. But I would not recommend it. Better to distract them from it. The child should not overload his psyche with such things. Let him study.
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From KabTV’s “The Post-Coronavirus Era” 5/14/20

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New Life 1274 – From Despair To Hope

New Life 1274 – From Despair To Hope
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Nitzah Mazoz

Despair comes from nature’s plan, purpose, and goal for human evolution toward the next stage of our development, which we do not yet understand. We are like children who want to feel good and cry out in demanding protest for mom to satisfy our desires. We do not yet recognize the evil of our approach to life and one another, that we wish to build our good fortune on the ruins of others.

We must reach the dead end of our egoistic development, the wall inside of our hearts that works against others. Once we are rid of all of our imaginary engagements, are left only with basic provisions, realize that our leaders are powerless, and are despaired of all of our forces, we will be able to cry out to the heavens and new options will unfold that we are currently unable to see. We will build a new, tranquil, peaceful society based on good relations between everyone. We will think about how to benefit others and no one will lack anything. We will have the best possible life that mother nature has prepared for us in advance.
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From KabTV’s “New Life 1274 – From Despair To Hope,” 8/5/20

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Daily Kabbalah Lesson – 9/8/20

Preparation to the Lesson

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Lesson on the Topic of “Work With Faith Above Reason” 

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Lesson on the Topic of “The Law of the Arvut (Mutual Guarantee)” 

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Writings of Baal HaSulam, “A Speech for the Completion of The Zohar” 

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 Selected Highlights 

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