Answer: It is because you do not feel them as parts of your spiritual body.
I am very sorry for you, but I also understand your state. If you could see that you exist with them in one common vessel and that the light, that is, spiritual life in this vessel cannot exist precisely because of your attitude toward them, then of course, you would change.
We will get to this, and you will see that it is possible.
From KabTV’s “Fundamentals of Kabbalah,” 7/28/19