Answer: The thing is that we are very confused in our world, so it is hard to tell how exactly we unite: in likeliness or not. It depends on which qualities keep us connected with each other.
When I aim to reach the highest spiritual goal, our animal qualities lose their importance to me.
I do not pay attention to the qualities that are opposite of mine in my friend, but treat them as necessary for my internal work, for overcoming various antagonisms and problems between us. I care about the intent toward the main goal.
From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 11/26/17