Question: What is the best exercise to conduct for building integral education for married couples? How much can a person invest himself in this training and talk about his condition, or is it better that he should act in the framework of a rigid program? Let’s say that, for fifteen minutes, we enter into the desired state, after that, we do exercises for twenty minutes, or is it possible to vary this according to the desires of the person?
Answer: No, I would not make it possible for people to disperse. However, if you want them to speak a little about something personal, then it is possible to do this, but only in particular frameworks. In principle, we are interested in their experiencing all this within.
The long expressions of a person’s feelings don’t interest us, especially the full, long stories. One can speak beautifully and another cannot say more than two sentences, even though he has experienced no less than the others. Therefore, I would not do this. We need the people to reach a state of shared clarification on the question in that they complete each other with their answers and even without understanding the question.
First, the people in a circle must clarify the topic. Suppose that we ask them some question, and they begin to repeat it, each in his own style, and you see how this question transforms into something completely new and different.
People will understand this. They will feel and receive the same question in ten different forms. After that, we repeat the same question, and they begin to discuss it.
I always insist that the discussions to be very relevant. Even though they will begin two or three minutes later, the first respondent can digest the question and think about the answer. Give him two minutes before responding since the others will have time to think, and he doesn’t. However, this should be a short summary of the feelings, not of the thoughts, but of the feelings.
After everyone has completed each other, we can ask them to reach some kind of common opinion because in the first round, each one expresses his understanding of the question and, after that, the entire understanding of the answer, and now it is necessary to formulate one unique question and give one unique answer to it. Can we do this or not?
Question: Do you recommend doing this with every question?
Answer: No, we give this to them as an example. However, in principle, we simply ask a question, and it doesn’t even matter what people answer. The main thing is that it will be worked out.
However, we construct our next question on every previous question, and if people find the right answer for it, then they are already proceeding correctly.
From Kab TV’s “Through Time” 9/21/13