Question: In order to reach the “point in the heart” of a friend, it is necessary to open the heart and in order to open it, I need to feel the person. Why does fear appear regarding opening the heart? What creates this? After all, in the past as children we knew how to trust each other and now we don’t.
Answer: We do not have to open our hearts to others not even to a friend. You simply need to be within him and this is all.
Question: And if his heart is closed?
Answer: This is not important. He cannot shut out anything from you. It makes no difference how he reacts, how he behaves, you must be within his heart, within his desires, within his longings. You must help him, wish him well, and identify with him. You want him always to be happy that things will be good for him. This is how a relationship should be in regard to the other. This is a purely spiritual movement.
From the Convention In Krasnoyarsk 6/16/13, Lesson 5