Question: After we have split up into groups of ten, we seem to be starting a new process. After many years of working together with the friends I have already built up quite a few inner “charges” both positive and negative….
Answer: All this has nothing to do with the real concept of a group. In a real group there is a mutual commitment since it is one. We are all in the same boat, and you have to work out the relations between you. It isn’t just an obligation, but it’s simply impossible to manage without it.
Today, you are just friends. You choose those you feel more comfortable with, but you have an obligation with regard to the real group framework. If you don’t, then it’s not a group or a group of ten yet.
We feel the group by our commitment; it’s as if I worry about a baby who needs endless caretaking. It isn’t about feeling pleasant but about the commitment that I have since I am committed to my friends. We have to develop these two aspects since otherwise everything is lost; there is no other way.
It’s a real wonder; we were shattered and each of us was given a spark that allows him to connect to other people, to connect artificially, to try to connect on the corporeal level. Without the corporeal reality all our sparks would be scattered infinitely distant from one another and we would never be able to get close to one another. But we live in corporeal bodies that enable us to be in mutual bestowal and receiving between us. The protein corporeal bodies help us establish ties and connect, although the sparks are still infinitely far from one another.
Our current ego belongs to the bodies and not to the sparks, since it isn’t the real evil inclination yet. But if we start getting closer to one another even a little despite the rejection that our bodies feel, we begin to evoke the Light that brings our sparks together.
So you should understand what a relief, what great help it is along our spiritual path. With the help of such a lowly, coarse system we can begin to connect the sparks. The Light that Reforms influences them, and in the meantime we go through the current phase which is the longest and the most difficult of all the phases. We will get through the other levels much faster, but this level is the coarsest, since here everything is done with the help of the bodies. It’s the preparation for the direct work with the Light and the desires, a wonderful stage, the Creator’s greatest benevolence. Although I hate the friend, I still connect to him; it’s an opportunity that is in contrast to nature. Nature operates according to honesty and the truth, while here there is a mechanism that is based on a lie.
So you have to yearn and to expect the moment that you will be pleased to see your friends like your own children and even more than that. Yes, yes, you will feel that the friend is more precious to you than your own baby.
From the 3rd part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 5/20/13, Writings of Baal HaSulam “The Mutual Guarantee”