Question: Ariel writes:
Dear Michael Laitman,

First, about myself. I am a loser. Failures haunt my whole life no matter what I do. And I look back, I have always been like that. A gray childhood, practically without friends, married unsuccessfully, my wife left me, graduated from college, but did not work a day in my specialty.

I went to a fortune teller, and not one, they say: “It is fate.” The last one even painted a future for me such that I do not want to live. I watch you regularly, I believe you. I want to know: if there is a concept of fate, and there is, then how to change it? Is it possible or not?

Answer: Yes. But first of all it is necessary to understand how to treat it, this fate. Perhaps he just demands something that he is not supposed to.

A person must understand what he must realize in himself. He must reveal his connection with the source of life. It is not easy, but he can do it. And he is obliged. It is in his power.

Question: And if he wants to have a lot of friends as a child, to have a good job?

Answer: “If he wants to” is not taken into account at all. Absolutely! And in general, it has already passed him, as far as I understand.

Question: So, your answer to the question: “Is it possible to change fate?”, are you saying that you need to look at your life differently?

Answer: Of course.

Question: He looked at life practically like this: I want friends, I want a wife, I want, I want, I want. And you say you need to see where I came from and why?

Answer: Yes. What is given to you and why it is given. Then you will begin to dig into the purpose of your life. Why do you exist after all? And maybe you will find the answer. This is the most important thing.

Question: And when I dig into it: “What have I come for, where did I come from, and what am I?”—what do I have with these basic questions?

Answer: They will depart and will be resolved properly as they appear.

Question: So I should not pay attention to them?

Answer: Not at all.

Question: Should I pay attention to these big things?

Answer: Yes. Based on what you study, you will naturally be able to reveal the basic questions that arise in you.

Question: How can he do it? How can he suddenly change this thinking, so normal, everyday, human: I want happiness, I want fate not to play with me? How can he make a coup? Here he is, Ariel, listening to you, what should he do?

Answer: I think he should just open our website and start reading.

Question: So he needs to read more of our materials about the meaning of life? And will it work?

Answer: Maybe it will and maybe it will not. Maybe it is better to enroll in courses. There, he will be able to ask questions, he will be somehow directed. If he has such questions for a long time, then it is worth doing it.

Question: So, we can say that if he is beaten by failures by fate, then they beat him for some reason, to lead to something?

Answer: Of course. You can say that about all people.

Question: And everyone is being directed to look at their life a little from the outside?

Answer: Yes. In general, looking at your life from the outside is very useful.

Question: And what will he see when he looks at his life from the outside?

Answer: He will see the loser, and so on. And he will see how he can fix this person, that is, himself, in general.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 7/20/23

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Question: “What is unconditional love? How and why does it harm both parents and children?”

Answer: It is because absolute love does not educate children. Children must understand that there are certain conditions for the manifestation of love. And parents should also feel some kind of reciprocity from their children: right-wrong, correct-incorrect, toward themselves-away from themselves, and so on, so that there would be some kind of correct contacts, mutual contacts between them. And not just “I love you” and that is all.

There may be such an attitude toward a baby but not between adults. Even when children are growing up there should be mutual relations built on attraction and rejection, the carrot and the stick. Children must understand that they are permitted to behave in a certain way and not allowed to behave in another way, that there is reward and punishment.

Question: So when it is said that a child was brought up in love, grew up in love, what does this mean in your opinion?

Answer: In my opinion, a child grows in love when he understands what he is rewarded for and what he is punished for. That is called in love.

Question: And if it is in absolute love?

Answer: In absolute love a child will be crippled. He will not be able to live with other people, and it will be very difficult for him to exist in the world. He will be spoiled so much that he will be good for nothing. As a result, he will have no friends and no relatives. I do not know if he will be able to have a family.

Question: Can you explain why?

Answer: He does not feel that he owes something to somebody, and he will not correctly perceive people’s attitudes toward him. After all, he must live in the world in which he is connected with other people through reception and bestowal, but he is not ready for it. Because of that, he will just be an unhappy person. He will be rejected, people will not be able to interact with him, and he will not be able to interact with others. It will be very difficult for him not to feel unique.

Question: What is proper education?

Answer: Proper education is a balanced attitude toward a child from the side of his parents that is built on two lines: reward and punishment, mercy and severity.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 7/17/23

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Comment: Sometimes I look at you and get the impression that you are already tired of making constant appeals to humanity to follow the good path.

My Response: I do not see an end to it. I see that only good blows will turn us into the right people.

Sometimes they are internal, sometimes external, no matter what kind, the main thing is that they have an effect. If internal blows do not help, then external ones come into play. And so gradually a person grows.

Question: No one can escape from this?

Answer: This is a natural process. But there are desirable and undesirable forms in it. There are two parallel paths: the path of light, when you call it upon yourself demanding for it to change you, and the path of suffering when you are driven forward with a “stick to happiness” like a naughty child until you become smarter and start asking to be changed yourself.

But how much time passes before these blows change a person?
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. Ruthless people” 9/17/11

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Michael Laitman, On Quora: “What are the biggest problems in the world right now and how do we solve them?“

Our main problem is when we try to egoistically fulfill ourselves at the expense of others, when we enjoy by completely disregarding other people and the system of nature we exist in.

We need to understand that we live in a unified system of nature. We are each deeply integrated with everyone and everything, including minerals, plants, fungi, the animal kingdom, and all the people of the world.

By running on autopilot and blindly following the beck and call of our egoistic desire to do whatever we feel like regardless of others, we bring a lot of harm to ourselves and to nature.

If we consider the benefit of all the people in the world, then our actions become aligned with wholeness. That is the key change we need to undergo in order to solve our every problem.

How can we make that change? It is a matter of education.

Education is not only the learning we receive in schools, colleges, universities and so on, but we become educated by every influence and example we receive from society. We thus need to upgrade the values with which we influence ourselves in our societies, by promoting, exemplifying and teaching about the need to shift from self-concern to concern about others.

When we connect positively to others in such a way, the machinery of our lives then operates in balance with nature. We will then experience the full amount of pleasure, joy, happiness and fulfillment that exists in nature, and never bring harm upon ourselves ever again.

Based on the video “Who Is Pharaoh in Our Lives Today?” with Kabbalist Dr. Michael Laitman. Written/edited by students of Kabbalist Dr. Michael Laitman.
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Time is a feeling of lack. Lack stretches time for us; it multiplies seconds like a bargaining chip. Therefore, time can be reduced.

As we unite, we increase the radiance of the surrounding light on us and thus attract the future to us. By influencing our connection, we can influence the light that will be revealed between us. It turns out that we have the ability to change and determine the general state of all reality.

After all, if we rise in our connection at all levels: inanimate, vegetative, animate, and human, then everything turns out to be in our hands and in the end depends only on our unification.

The surrounding light is the light that shines around the soul and is waiting for it to be able to clothe itself in it in proportion to the connection that has arisen between the parts of the soul. And then the future turns into the present, into the inner light.
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From the 1^st part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 8/6/23, Writings of Rabash “Three Times in the Work”

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Question: What does it mean to work for the Creator? Is it when we work on overcoming rejection and disagreement, annul ourselves, and experience a state of lowliness from this?

Answer: It is necessary to overcome rejection only in the connection between us and not individually. It will not do anything. It is only in the connection. This is called overcoming.

Question: Is it when the ten connects and asks the Creator?

Answer: At least a few people from the ten.
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From the Daily Kabbalah lesson 8/1/23, “Revealing the Glory of His Kingship”

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Microsoft co-founder Bill Gates said during a speech that he wished he had discovered the importance of work-life balance years ago. 

Speaking at a Northern Arizona University (NAU) commencement ceremony Saturday, Gates told the graduating class that during his early days at Microsoft, he didn’t believe in taking vacation days or having weekends off, noting that he used to keep track of employees who would leave early or stay late. 

“But as I got older — and especially once I became a father — I realized there is more to life than work,” Gates said during his commencement speech. “Don’t wait as long as I did to learn this lesson. Take time to nurture your relationships, to celebrate your successes, and to recover from your losses.”

“Take a break when you need to,” Gates added. “Take it easy on the people around you when they need it, too.”

Gates also encouraged the graduating class to live in the moment and “have some fun,” adding in his speech that what they are currently doing right now won’t impact their future  (The Hill).

Question: What is this message to students—take a break when you need to? How do you feel about this?

Answer: It means spending more time on creativity. Because if you bury yourself in work, you will not be able to give your brain, yourself, and your thoughts a creative direction.

A creative person should live by absorbing from the air, from the environment, from something that is not simple mechanical work with effort. He should be free, as creative intellectuals have always lived in general.

Comment: That is, the rest itself, even when you walk through the forest and it is a rest on the one hand, on the other hand, it is work.

My Response: Creativity. Of course.

Question: Do you completely agree with him?

Answer: He speaks correctly. A creative person should be free. Otherwise, he will not invent anything and will not give movement, an impetus to progress.

Question: What if we translate this to education, to children? A school that is based on homework, on coming to the blackboard and giving answers: “Tell me what you did at home.” And so on, and so on. If that is all, do you think, it does not prepare creativity?

Answer: It trains technicians who can work, calculate, and do something, but they will not have creative spurts.

Question: So, you are for the formula of creativity. Is it possible to bring everyone to this formula?

Answer: I think that it is possible. Especially since from our time and onward, the period of humanity’s development in the direction of creativity begins. We will see less and less production and more and more of those who work at a level above production.

Question: Are you saying that creativity is inherent to almost every person?

Answer: Yes.

Question: Why? How did they place this point of creativity into us from above?

Answer: So that we express more what is characteristic of a person, not a machine, not a beast, and so on.

Question: So, if we see that a person has resigned himself to mechanical work, does it mean that he has not found this point in himself?

Answer: Yes.

Question: Does it exist in him?

Answer: It is there. Maybe he is looking for it, but it has not been revealed yet. Therefore, he has to do or chooses to do mechanical work. Maybe it helps him, it organizes his thoughts somehow.

Question: Do you think every person should look for this point in themselves?

Answer: I think that if a person has the right inner attitude, he will come to this.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 6/8/23

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Sometimes I imagine the following scene: we come to heaven, and God comes to everyone and asks, “what did you think?”, and I answer: “What do I think about what? I am a sinner Lord, please have mercy on me.”

But He will interrupt me and say: “Yes I already know that. How do you like the Earth?” “What are you talking about, Lord?” l ask. And He says: “I created the Earth. What do you think about it? Did you like it? Did you see what kind of fish I invented? What about my volcanoes? And the jungle? I spent so much time on waterfalls! And whales are so beautiful! Well, tell me, what did you like the most?”

I am very afraid that I will stand and blink my eyes and say, “Well I just did not have time. I worked a lot. Then the family, the kids, the annual report, and the car loan. But I wanted to, God; I wanted to. I am a sinner, Lord, please have mercy on me.” Then he says, “You are not a sinner, but stupid. There will not be a second chance” (Source Unknown).

Question: will there be a second chance?

My Response: We always think there will be.

Question: This is why we live life as if we have a second chance. Is that right?

Answer: Partly, yes. Partly, but why? Maybe this time we were already living in a second chance, or in a third one, or in some other one.

Comment: Yes, we do not know this.

My Response: What can we do? Therefore, it is best to rely on God and think about how to correct what we can now.

Comment: This scenario shows that we do not see that everything is created by Him and how beautiful it all is. We do not see this due to our running around, the annual reports, and all this other fuss.

My Response: Yes, naturally.

Question: To see this, what do we need?

Answer: Wow! To do this you need to see the world. To see the world before you, the entire world, its interconnections, and its harmony. The most important thing is how the upper force of the Creator is clothed into it.

Comment: If only it were revealed!

My Response: If it were, there would be no freewill. I would just be tied up by this, bound hand and foot, and I would have nothing left.

Comment: But you keep saying that we have to come to this harmony one way or another.

My Response: We must come to this harmony because we choose it ourselves, we search for it ourselves, and we ourselves want to somehow mold it from our various impressions.

Question: Does it mean that, in any case, we have to rise from this bottom, from running around, and the annual reports?

Answer: Absolutely! In principle, we are given a chance to reach this state all the time. But we have to go through the bottom.

Question: What do we have to accomplish in this world? Basically the question is: what do we live for?

Answer: In this world we must succeed in order to feel His entire system, the upper mind, and the will of the Creator, which controls all this.

Question: But do we start with the fact that we absolutely do not feel it?

Answer: We do not feel anything. Then we begin to feel that we are completely confused. There is a period when a person simply does not know why, what for, or how. Then this purpose gradually begins to manifest itself within him, the reason everything is arranged in this way. Based on this purpose, he is as if unwinding his life back to his birth and begins to understand how it all happened.

Question: But this point that arises, the purpose that suddenly appears in all this confusion, has it already been in us or is it being introduced into us in response to our efforts?

Answer: We have everything within us. Absolutely everything! But we need to sort all this out, hold on to the beginning and the end of life, and feel that we have passed it with the help of the Creator, in accordance with His intention.

Question: That is, during our lives, we essentially rake all this garbage inside us? We are raking and raking, until we find this point? Is this a person’s life?

Answer: Yes.

Question: Is this garbage all of the other desires and thoughts?

Answer: It is something that was specifically confusing us, so that we would dig in even more and figure it out.

Question: Was it deliberately confusing us and specially given to us?

Answer: Of course.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 7/17/23

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