Question: What is the right approach to failure?

Answer: What must be, will be. What is meant to happen will happen. And we must be ready for everything and understand that life is like this: a white stripe, a black stripe.

Question: So after the black stripe, a white one will definitely come?

Answer: Maybe it will just lightly pass, just touch you, but it will come. And then again, a black one.

Question: Then how will I change? Will I not suffer from this, will I not beat myself up?

Answer: No, we are built in such a way that we only run away from failures. We cannot properly analyze them, understand them, correct something, and prepare for something. We cannot. We only work to escape from them. And this is a completely wrong action and philosophy in general.

If we connect these two states—failure and success—we will make ourselves sovereign over them and will not be weak-willed in times of failure or in times of success.

Question: So I kind of unite black and white?

Answer: Yes.

Question: I do not perceive it as a failure?

Answer: You rise above both states and thus go through them easily. You just need to understand what it means to rise above them.

It means to rise above your life’s striving, to stop chasing success. Understand that right now, today, you are in success already, within it.

It is like physicists say there are all sorts of black holes. So actually, we ourselves are in a black hole. In an astronomical black hole.

Question: And what is beyond it?

Answer: Nothing; and nothing is needed. Relax and understand that you are inside nature. And let it lead you. The main thing is to surrender to nature.

Question: So I throw away the oars? There is a current, I throw away the oars.

Answer: Yes.

Question: Is there a current?

Answer: Even that does not matter to me.

Question: That does not matter? To just let go of everything like that?

Answer: Yes.

Question: Is that possible?

Answer: If you believe in a wise, great, eternal, all-powerful nature, then in my opinion, it is the most reasonable decision.

Comment: Yes, this sounds very timely: nothing is in my control.

My Response: And moreover, anything you come up with to go against this on your own only emphasizes the insignificance, limitation, misunderstanding, ignorance, and disagreement with this great nature in which we exist.

Resist nothing. Invent nothing. Try simply to understand what nature itself is, agree with it, cling to it, and you will find the most optimal component of your existence.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 7/23/25

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Question: There are people who study Kabbalah who have previously tried many paths, including drugs. But when they come to study Kabbalah, most of them automatically stop using them. Does it turn out that this is a side effect of Kabbalah? In theory, does it cure drug addiction?

Answer: Yes, Kabbalah works precisely as a side effect. After all, it affects only the person who wants to study it, who finds a purpose in life, but at the same time his body pulls him toward drug-related fulfillment. And then an internal struggle arises in him as a result of which he leaves drugs. But there are those who are unable to overcome it.

I do not keep track of my students. I am completely indifferent to what a student is like, what he comes to me with. These can be people with any inclinations, with any distortions. Today, all of this is generally considered the norm. So I do not look and do not delve into it. I am not interested in it.

It is said in Kabbalah that it is a remedy for all the problems of humanity caused by our egoism. And since it cures egoism, it should cure almost everything—from common illnesses to all kinds of distortions that exist in our time and are already accepted as the norm.

I teach Kabbalah, and to the extent that people adapt to it and are able to apply it, it affects them.

I had a severe ulcer and other problems. I suffered a clinical death, with great losses of internal organs, and saw how all this gets restored; how the more a person advances in Kabbalah, the younger, more vigorous, stronger, and more resilient one becomes, because the person is supported by the fact that one is dealing with the upper force, with the light.

This is not just some kind of personal faith, but a real upper energy. I feel it in myself. It does not let you do foolish things or strive for unnecessary achievements in this life in order to become, for example, a great athlete or someone else. But this energy gives you the opportunity to function day after day for many years, to lead people toward something exalted.

That is, Kabbalah is indeed a source of great power. I think that by studying it, humanity will see how it is cured of all problems.

Baal HaSulam writes at the end of the “Introduction to the Book of Zohar” that all the problems in the world: murder, theft, drugs, terror, diseases, mutual hatred, betrayal, family discord, problems with children, basically everything that separates us from perfection by even a single gram,—all of this is born out of our egoism. Only Kabbalah is capable of correcting it and bringing us to absolute perfection, eternity, and peace.
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From KabTV’s “I Got A Call. Kabbalah and drugs” 8/27/10

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Question: How can we manage stress?

Answer: We need to understand that the convergence of plus and minus at all levels in all circumstances is necessary and should take place, and we need to learn how to do this.

Question: How do we do this?

Answer: It is very simple. Build love over all manifestations of hatred. It is the same principle. There must be hatred, rejection, anything negative, and above it, undoubtedly, plus.

Question: How can you attract this plus to yourself?

Answer: This is what the science of Kabbalah teaches—how to get a plus from a minus in order to let a minus and a plus remain, for them to exist complementing each other. In Kabbalah, this is explained as the correlation of darkness and light.

Question: But how can I attract love? I do hate, and my hate strongly.

Answer: This must be achieved through education; when a person realizes there is no plus without a minus or a minus without a plus, and their correct combination creates life.

When a person realizes this, he becomes calm, reasonable, follows the middle line, and builds himself and the world.

Question: Let us say I hate. What are my actions?

Answer: You should realize that everything comes from the upper force and is given to us to balance all negative qualities, properties, and circumstances with positive ones. All this can happen only in our consciousness. When we realize this, we begin to treat everything with kindness, not denying anything, but accepting everything as an absolute necessity.

Question: Is this hatred necessary?

Answer: It is necessary for us to rise above it, and to exist above it and in it. Then we will balance these two forces of creation—plus and minus.

Comment: That is the whole difficulty: above it, somehow, somewhere it may be possible, perhaps…

My Response: No, it will only be possible egoistically, but in order to exist with it, we must rise above it and balance out all negative properties by adhering to the Creator.

Question: It is not easy. Can you give me a simple formula for overcoming hatred?

Answer: The formula is that a minus equals a plus. That is all. Where there is a minus, you should see a plus.

Question: Is what I hate now a minus?

Answer: It is a minus until you realize that it is also a plus.

Question: So is it good that I hate?

Answer: Yes, but why are you given this? So that you can turn it into a plus. You have to change your attitude to the world. But how? It is very simple. Replace egoism with altruism, hatred with love. And everything will be fine.

Question: So I hate this person, but I say to myself: “This is given to me so I can love him?”

Answer: You are simply given the opposite properties. Replace them with the opposite ones and you will get a wonderful world.

Question: Is it within my power?

Answer: It is not in your power to transform, to accomplish, but it is in your power to beg the Creator to make it so. That is, to reach a state where you really crave it.

Question: Is that why hatred comes? So that I can plead that I passionately want to replace it with love?

Answer: Yes. Then you will realize this was not the reason at all, but so that you establish contact with the Creator. That is all.

Question: I see. It is He who calls us to turn to Him.

Answer: Otherwise, we would not have turned in His direction.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman,” 7/14/25

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Question: Let’s say a person understands perfectly well that some medicine will help him, and he takes it. But at some point, he stops and says: “That is it, I do not want it anymore.” Like for example, drug addicts who know that they should be cured, and that they should endure certain suffering in order to get rid of drug addiction, but they cannot stop.

Answer: This is also a sign of insufficient suffering. At the end of this suffering, a new, lower level gradually unfolds in us where we are no longer able to use false pleasure.

Over time, withdrawal from drugs will come. People will not be able to use them because they will reach the final development of consciousness.

“I can no longer smoke, inject, or sniff. I cannot!”

“Why?”

“Because it is a lie!”

That is, just the understanding that it is a lie neutralizes the feeling of pleasure in them.

This is a natural, dialectical development of our multilayered desire, which consists of its root (zero) level and then the first, second, third, and fourth phases. When we reach the fourth phase of desire—that is it, the end! We can no longer use it.

We realize that it is opposite to some source, something we cannot violate, and that is it. We cannot use that desire anymore. We must rise above it.
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. Kabbalah and Drugs” 8/27/10

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Question: What is Kabbalah’s position regarding non-believers and religious people? I see that you seem to constantly navigate between them!

Answer: You are right.

Religion views the Creator similar to a human being, i.e. changing and depending on the person’s actions. Each religion presents both the Creator and His messengers as it likes. They are forced either to coexist or to try to destroy each other because their view is based on faith, meaning it is unprovable. Whoever is stronger is “right.” Or they act as if the others do not exist, each in its own flock.

But they all share one thing: they see God as treating a person based on how the person treats God and others. That is, God changes, is sometimes angry, sometimes compassionate. This is how a person interprets it from their life and fate.

So God can be bribed, you can “pay” for paradise, or appease Him so that He will treat you well. You can atone for sins or buy off punishment. You can give charity to ward off a blow of fate. It is all built on the idea that a person’s external behavior changes God’s attitude toward them.

Atheists treat God like nature, unchangeable and mechanical, and it does not have its own mind and plan, it does not depend on our attitude toward it, but only on our “mechanical” actions.

Kabbalah sees nature and the Creator as one and the same. But He has intelligence, a plan, a purpose. He has feelings. So in the process of development (evolution), He created the human being exactly as we are: with feeling and mind, with two opposing systems, like an egoist who wants to enjoy every moment of existence. He created us this way so that by using the method of Kabbalah and the forces of nature (the surrounding light), a person would change themselves and become similar to the Creator.

Through this a person gains true independence (otherwise they are completely driven by nature and egoism, and are not free), perfection, eternity, and adhesion with the Creator (the status of the Creator).

The Creator in Kabbalah is unchanging because He is absolute, absolutely good, and therefore cannot change; only something less-than-perfect can become better or worse, but not the absolute.

Therefore turning to the Creator is really turning to yourself and convincing yourself of the need to correct yourself to become like the Creator, the model of goodness.

So atheists try to remake the world, and the religious beg the Creator, while Kabbalists correct themselves and thereby correct the world.
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Comment: When a person is afraid, he is like a little rabbit trembling under a bush.

My Response: This is any person.

Comment: Now they are being driven into this fear.

My Response: Yes, big and small, anyone. You need to crawl under that bush with him, snuggle up beside him, and say: “Buddy, do you want to be saved? I have something for you. I’m not asking you to buy anything, just listen to how we can be saved.

Only through uniting above all our problems, hatreds, and whatever it is. Only through uniting. Don’t ask any questions. Look at the other person as your means to survive.” That’s all.

Comment: That’s interesting.

My Response: Yes, egoistically.

Question: My life and the lives of my closest, dearest one’s depend on this. Will I be able to rise above my hatred and “snuggle up” to another?

Answer: It depends only on that. Go outside and look for people you can unite with in this way. You have to do it with everyone. With one person more quickly, with another more slowly, but just unite! That’s it.

Question: When you say “unite,” do you mean it in a very simple sense?

Answer: Nothing else, no other meanings or goals, just to feel each other more closely.

Comment: It would be good to hear you.

My Response: “It would be good.” It will be good! We can’t avoid it! It will happen, either in our generation or in the next, depending on who’s lucky.

Comment:  Better in this one.

My Response: I’m still an optimist.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman,” 7/9/25

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Comment: When we talk in the group about loving one another, everyone clearly understands that they are working against their will, lying to each other, and deceiving. But through this, they attract the upper light.

My Response: Why do you say deceiving?! It’s not deception! I know that I’m in my egoistic desire and want to get out of it. I show others my enthusiasm for the desire to exit my egoism, in order to receive their inspiration in return. We are not deceiving each other! Knowing our nature, we act completely openly.

It’s not a game where I lie, where I’m one person inside and another on the outside. I deliberately act this way precisely in order to transition from our world into the upper world.

If you have two natures, egoistic and altruistic, then you have no other way to rise above the egoistic one except to play in the altruistic nature, like a child playing at being an adult. Gradually, under the influence of the upper light, it becomes real within you. Here we act absolutely logically, rationally, and in no way are we deceiving anyone.

Comment: It’s not exactly deception. Many people do these things through force.

My Response: That is exactly right, through force! So what?! In our world, we do everything through force. That’s natural.

If I’m facing a task that I don’t desire according to my natural inclinations, something I can agree with intellectually, but not emotionally, how else am I supposed to act? Come up with another method.

Comment: I’m not even talking about the method.

My Response: Kabbalah is the method, the method of rising from our world into the upper world, the way to transform one’s nature using the tools we have.

Give me the layout! I know it well, and that’s why it’s absolutely clear to me that all of this is very straightforward and it simply can’t work any other way. This is science! A method! A psychological, physiological, mental, and spiritual methodology for elevating a person to a new way of thinking and acting.
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. To Deceive Myself,” 6/7/11

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Question: Is there a kind of truth that should be told to a person?

Answer: The only truth is to give a person freewill and let them choose their own truth. That is all. This is the most important thing in raising children and in relationships between adults.

Question: How do you do that? By example? Based on what?

Answer: Teach a person the method of correctly revealing life.

Comment: That sounds good! This is the main thing.

My Response: Yes.

Question: And what if a person is one hundred percent convinced that they are right and must pass it on to someone?

Answer: Then they should shut themselves up and swallow it! So as not to choke on their own truth!

Question: Even if I feel that by doing so, I will help them?

Answer: What huge egoism he has! It is bursting out of him! He has no right even to feel it himself. The only thing he can do is just understand how much of an egoist he is if he feels obliged to fill another person with his own opinion.

It is terrible! There is a very simple saying about this: “Silence is the fence around wisdom.”

Question: That is beautiful! That is, is it better to remain silent at that moment?

Answer: Yes.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 7/8/25

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Question: What is the principle screen and reflected light? Why is the universe built specifically on it?

Answer: It is egoism that begins to oppose itself, wants to use itself only for bestowal, and by rising above itself, wants to give to others instead of using them; it wants to exploit itself for the sake of others. This is called “screen” and “reflected light.”

Question: Why is it necessary to build such a system in order to feel the Creator?

Answer: Because otherwise you will not feel the Creator. You don’t have the same qualities as He does. After all, all sensations, even in our world, are built on the similarity of qualities between the one who is being sensed and the one who senses. I can only feel what my internal organs are attuned to. They are not tuned to radio waves, I don’t feel them. They are tuned only to sound waves, I do feel those. The same applies to all sensations, visual and so on. In order to feel the Creator, to enter into resonance with Him, I need to acquire the quality of bestowal.

Question: But all the ancient texts clearly describe this system that you convey succinctly: screen and reflected light?

Answer: They are not ancient. They are timeless; they were just written about a long time ago. These texts convey an enormous amount of additional information, such subtleties that you can’t imagine!

Now if you are able to grasp only two things, screen and reflected light, then later these two words will be associated with such a magnificent infinite world, with all its colors, sounds, opposites merging into one whole, that you will need a book just to describe these two phenomena: screen and reflected light!

In fact, there is nothing else. Our egoism, above which there is a screen in order to use it in the opposite direction to bestow, is called “reflected light.” There is nothing else. But it is billions of times greater than our world!
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. Photo of the Creator,” 9/21/10

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Comment: In the process of human evolution, many concepts of design, appearance, and everything else changes.  For example, what occurred in the seventies now looks ridiculous.

My Response: I am not afraid to seem ridiculous if I create something. I create it in my time, based on the desire and the properties that are revealed in egoism at a given time. Since I am a product of my era, then naturally I create what corresponds to it.

Of course if we watch old movies, we see how naive they seem. But they were relevant for that time, for that level of egoism.

For our time, when egoism develops in its overt negative form—I would say, undisguised, impudent, and naked—when it completely exposes your naked nature to everyone without a drop of shame or embarrassment, I think that this is wonderful! I think people will finally understand who they really are.

When I see your impudence, assertiveness, and selfishness in everything, your unwillingness to openly take anyone or anything into account, I see you, and not some beautiful cosmetic picture, and therefore I am glad that such things are revealed in our time.
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. The Evolution of Ego” 9/22/10

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