There is a funny story about a seven-year-old girl Gili giving parking tickets to cars parked near her house. But she wrote on the infringement note: “Thanks for the great parking” and drew a heart.

Why do only children think about making others feel good? Apparently, children are smarter than adults. After all, it does not occur to us to give each other such cards and smiles at random passers-by. The egoism of an adult is very big because we have to rise on top of it, above all nations and countries.

Instead, we go along with our egoism. It controls us, not that we control it. It is good that we have such children next to us. Let’s hope that when they grow up, they will be able to change something in this world.

Although most likely, it is now, while the children are small that they can do such noble deeds from the bottom of their hearts. Later their egoism will grow, and they will join the common competition with everyone. Maybe they will even join some party, and then we will see them handing out completely different flyers.

At the moment children want to be guided by their good intentions. Cute children! But then their egoism will grow, and they will start distributing other leaflets, campaigning for some party or against someone. In such a way they will join in the squabble going on between everyone. Cute children will be corrupted and join the ranks of the fighting parties.

It is necessary to go by faith above reason and think that salvation is only in connection. Otherwise, this is the end. We can win and stand up against everyone, but not against our egoism, which will bury us.

To take control over your egoism means to appreciate something more than a sense of your own rightness. That is, you strive to cover all crimes with love and desire nothing but that. The main thing is connecting with other people. This is the only thing that counts.

But as a child grows, his will to receive grows and forces him to make larger and more far-reaching calculations. There is nothing one can do about it, what is left is only to accept by faith above reason that everyone is obliged to concede. Instead of trying to win and outwit the other, we need to think about how to outwit ourselves in order to be together with others. The war should be internal, not external.
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From KabTV’s “An Inside Look” 1/15/23

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The multifaceted development of egoism has led to the fact that it simultaneously kills the feeling of the family in us, the relationship between children and parents, our nature, arts, science, and the whole culture in general.

It does not only work in the economy. It works in everything! As a result, the ego destroys our family, public, state, political, and social structure. But we still have to act. There is more than one factor at work here. Our whole life is built on egoism, and we have to change all this.

We are so egoistic that we do not care about anything, not the fact that families are falling apart or about the terrible social atmosphere; it does not matter to us. When it comes to our pocket, to the economy, then we believe the crisis has come. Yet we are used to the fact that before that “I treated everyone like a dog and everyone else treated me the same way. It is okay, everything is fine.”

This indicates how much the crisis and our development in general has led us to such a low state: I do not care, I retire at home, I do not need a wife, I do not need children, I can order everything for myself, easily serve myself and that is all; I do not give a damn for everyone.
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call, How to Make a Revolution” 2/4/12

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Comment: Nina writes: “The other day, the cat that lives with me gave birth to kittens. A few days later, it killed them. Tell me, please, is this a natural phenomenon among animals? If so, what is its root? Maybe this is a consequence of our terrible behavior?”

My Response: It is quite possible that the cat feels what is happening around, and this is how it acts with its children, with the kittens.

Question: Does it mean that this option is possible?

Answer: It is possible.

Question: So, we do not deny that there is such a natural phenomenon?

Answer: Of course there is. What is a natural phenomenon in us? People do not want to have children. In a way, it is also like a murder that I do not want to give life to another.

Question: That is, I can and I do not want to. Is this what you call practically like a murder?

Answer: How else? I do not want to give life to another.

Question: Why do we have this in us? Why do I not want to?

Answer: Because I do not see any sense in this for myself, for my egoism. Because it will obligate me. This is the first. I do not consider that I can give life and thus correct some other soul, another piece of the world. I do not think about this. I think about myself.

Comment: Going back to the cat, you say that such an option is possible, that the cat feels…

My Response: It feels the environment and thus the hatred that it feels around it transfers to its children and does not want their lives.

Question: What is the conclusion from all this?

Answer: If people correct themselves, animals will be corrected.

I am talking only about changing the attitude of man to man, which is the highest of all natural levels.

The attitude of man to man, man to animal, man to plant, man to earth, and so on—all this is included in the attitude of man to man. If we correct our attitude, then all of nature that is below these levels will be corrected, and everyone will be fine.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 9/22/22

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Question: Can you briefly explain the benefits of egoism? How did it lead us, and to what stage did we reach where it already became poison for us? Has it been helpful all this time?

Answer: Since ancient Babylon, egoism had to be remade. Abraham called for this, but no one could hear him then because there was no point in the heart in people. It wasn’t that it didn’t wake up, it wasn’t in them. It manifested itself only in a certain number of people, in those 10,000 to 20,000 Abraham took away from Babylon.

I give such figures because the great 12^th century Kabbalist and philosopher Rambam, a researcher of the era of Abraham, writes in his writings that tens of thousands of people left Babylon with Abraham.

Abraham wanted to correct everyone, but it did not work out because only a few had the primordial point in the heart, the desire to rise above the corporeal level of existence.

We can say that initially it originated in only one person, Adam, and then through him it began to spread like a virus to others. For 20 generations it reached such a state where in Babylon, under Abraham, tens of thousands of people were infected with this spiritual virus. They joined Abraham and he led them away from Babylon. The rest of the Babylonians were left without this point.

As Abraham’s group was isolated from everyone, they developed it in themselves first under his leadership and then under the leadership of Isaac, Jacob, Moses, Aaron, Joseph, and David.

This continued until the destruction of the Second Temple when they completely fell into the same state as all the other Babylonians who had spread and multiplied all over the world by that time.
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. The Evolution of Humanity” 11/16/13

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“One does not die with half one’s desire in one’s hand.” “He who has one hundred wants two hundred” (Baal HaSulam, “Wholeness in Life“).

Question: How can we understand this?

Answer: “He who has one hundred wants two hundred” means that we can never be fulfilled with what we have; we will always lack something. Even if we are lucky in filling our egoism with what we desire, our egoism will immediately give us a new task so that we get twice as much.

After having received twice as much, our egoism immediately puts the desire to get four times more before us. And so on. We are like a dog chasing its tail and trying to grab it all the time, but in vain.

Comment: Suppose I look at a rich person, and it seems to me that if I had at least 10% of what he has, I would be satisfied.

My Response: But the rich man is not happy. And you, after attaining what he has, would also be dissatisfied.

The essence of this is that our gains increase our egoistic desire. And so, one who wants a hundred and gets it, wants two hundred, and when he gets two hundred, he wants four hundred. And so on.

Comment: In principle, this is not so bad; there is something to strive for.

My Response: But at the same time you never have peace. Peace is the root of the Creator. On one hand, we want to be at peace, but our desire for pleasure does not provide it for us.

Comment: And it is still not bad. After all, when a person strives for something, he lives on future pleasures.

My Response: If this is within some kind of restrictive framework that gives him the opportunity to work, earn money, travel, have a good leisure time, and so on, then this is good because it fits into the general life of a man. But still, he is in constant anxiety.

After all, if he cannot always achieve what he wants, it causes him suffering.
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From KabTV’s “The Study of the Ten Sefirot (TES)” 12/18/22

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Question: When spouses are just starting to live together, according to biological processes, hormones support their relationship for the first three years. It is believed that after three years, hormones stop working, and a cooling occurs between a man and a woman, nothing holds them further. Does it come from nature?

Answer: Probably. In past centuries, it may have been different, but nowadays they say that it is, especially on the part of a man.

Maybe from the woman’s side, I do not know. Usually a woman gets used to a man. I don’t think she wants to change everything so much. Today, it is also a little different for women, but still not in the same way as for men.

Question: It’s not a fact that someone wants to change something, it’s just a question that there is no longer a physical factor that holds them back. How can spouses overcome this and continue to live normally?

Answer: Now is a special time—the time of correcting selfishness. And if the spouses are not engaged in its correction, they will not be able to coexist together.

There will be more and more divorces until there are no families left at all. People will converge for a day or two, for a year or two, and disperse. Children will be born not clear from whom and where. The world will come to this because a person will not be able to cope with selfishness if he does not begin to correct it.

And for the sake of correction, you will live with one woman because you will feel that you are kindred spirits with her and it is with her that you can correct yourself. And then all physical problems or cooling will be invisible because in your physical union with her you will feel spiritual unity, and then there will be no problems.

The world is coming to this. And now we are living in a transitional period when there is no such marriage as before, but there is also no new state of marriage as it should be.

But a person will be like that. He will live only in order to improve spiritually, to rise, to feel a higher state, but in no case to remain in this world and this life. Otherwise, there is no point. Otherwise, people will commit suicide, use drugs, and terrible things will happen in the world.

Comment: In principle, such a connection should ideally be.

My Response: No, not at all ideally. A person will feel spiritual needs above the base, earthly ones because in his eyes it will not be worth spending his life on them. We will survive this state.
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. How to Preserve Love” 12/19/13

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The four types of exile that the Jewish people went through are identical to the basic formula of nature “Yod-Hey-Vav-Hey.“ According to this formula of the gradual development of desire, the development of any phenomenon in nature takes place.

Moreover, the first exile was not felt as an exile at all, just as people at the dawn of the existence of mankind did not feel slavery in the slave-owning order. Then the desire was so small that if a person somehow satisfied it, this was already good. And people agreed with that.

Then the desire developed more and more, more freedom was needed, and more of our own incorporation in life, development, and communication, to the point that nature made us completely integrally interconnected with each other, but we have not yet come to this.

We are late regarding this formula, this condition of nature, to develop us to the necessary degree. Like a newborn baby—what is he, who is he? He does not communicate with anyone; he has no group or social motives. And then he gradually begins to feel that he needs society, family, and everything else.

All our progress is based on the fact that we gradually begin to feel ourselves in our natural egoism in exile from the upper state, from the next degree.

There are degrees of inanimate, vegetative, and animate matter and “man” in nature. Kabbalah talks about how we gradually move from the degree of animals to the degree of man. This is the next degree, but we have not reached it yet. All of humanity is at the animate level of development because it cares only about how to live, feed itself, and raise children.
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. History of the Jewish People” 5/4/14

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Comment: A well-known parable explains our nature in the most colorful way. Once upon a time there was a poor man, he had a rich neighbor. And the poor man prayed to the Creator: “I want to be as rich as he is.”

The Creator told him: “Please. I’ll give you everything. I’ll give it to you, and I’ll give him twice as much. You will be rich; he will be twice as rich. You’ll have a house;  he’ll have two houses.”

Then the poor man said: “Then pull out one of my eyes so that the neighbor will lose two.” And there is another ending: “Then beat me half to death.” There are a lot of different options here.

My Response: Yes. We see this today too in skirmishes, in wars.

Question: Is there still such a thing: “It’s not as scary that my cow died as it is that my neighbor’s one is alive.” Humanity has come up with a lot of such beautiful quotes.

Tell me, why can’t we focus on our happiness?

Answer: You can’t experience happiness in isolation from others. Only in comparison.

Comment: But I was given a house, I have a warm home, I have all the wealth. Why do I have to always notice that he has two houses and suffer from it?

My Response: For this, it is necessary to correct the nature of man. There is no other way!

Question: I will always suffer if he has better and more than I do?

Answer: Yes. This is egoism. I can’t look at what I have, I look at what the other has. And I may have several times more than him, but he also has. And as long as he exists and he has something, that’s what I want.

Look at children as they take toys from each other. You convince them: “You don’t need it, look, you have this,” no, it doesn’t matter. He hides his toy behind his back and demands what the other has. That’s what nature is.

Comment: But I, as a parent, instruct him and tell him the right things. I say, “Give the other…”

My Response: But he doesn’t want to listen.

Comment: He doesn’t want to listen, but I want him to do it.

My Response: It doesn’t matter, the Creator wants it.

Question: Through me?

Answer: Yes, sort off. You’re acting like a Creator here. And it doesn’t help.

Question: So I pick up this formula when I’m a parent, nevertheless?

Answer: Yes, of course.

Comment: I like this formula.

Answer: Because you are no longer a child.

Comment: Yes, but I tell him: “Share with him, give it to him.”

My Response: No, he will hold and cuddle it.

Comment: That’s for sure. But I lead to the fact that I myself continue to be the same as a child. I look: it’s better there, and I’m already nervous.

My Response: That is absolutely right.

Question: This is how we eat ourselves. We just devour everything inside ourselves. Is that what we’re dying from?

Answer: Apparently.

Question: And what should we do with all this?

Answer: Continue.

Question: Until when?

Answer: While we are living. 🙂

We still have to spread our idea, the Creator’s plan, and it will work.

Question: What is the Creator’s plan?

Answer: It is for us to rise above our egoistic nature. And it will work.

Question: And then how will I look at my neighbor if I rise above nature?

Answer: As a partner in the implementation of a common plan.

Question: That he, too, is moving toward rising above egoism?

Answer: Yes. We just need to educate everyone!
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 10/13/22

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For the last two thousand years, the mixing of people has taken place on Earth. This does not mean that everyone lived together and produced offspring from each other. The fact is that the mixing was in views, feelings, rapprochement, and the transfer of all kinds of states. It ended in the time of the Ari, and starting from the 16^th century it was possible to begin the correction.

This happened under the leadership of the Baal Shem Tov. In fact, we are guided by his method because Abraham did not have a method of extracting a point in the heart from egoism. He worked on it and all his followers continued to develop it above egoism, but there was no such state to extract a point in the heart in the conditions that developed after the expulsion from the spiritual world.

People existed in attainment of the spiritual world before the destruction of the Second Temple, and then there was a complete expulsion from the spiritual world, and now we are starting to rise again.

Baal HaSulam created the practical method of ascent, formed it, and Rabash supplemented it with group work. We are now implementing this method in action, in practice, and giving it a finished practical form.
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. The Evolution of Mankind” 11/16/13

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Comment: When a person with an inclination for spiritual growth encounters Kabbalah for the first time, one simply feels this is what one needs. Then he gradually accumulates analysis of what is right and what is wrong.

My Response: What kind of analysis can there be, correct or not, for one who evaluates everything from his stomach or pocket? How can we objectively define something if we are completely inside our desires? All inanimate, vegetative, animate, and human matter is the desire to enjoy. Moreover, it is also selfish and wishes to constantly consume over and above itself and keep growing this way.

Inanimate, vegetative and animal matter are not self–developing as, for example, computers that do not develop independently, they just work. But there are such artificial programs that keep developing, improving themselves, and growing.

That is how we are as people, while the rest of the world, including animals, is not like that, it doesn’t need anything. The monkey lived in a tree five or fifty thousand years ago, and so it does now, and everything is fine. But the human generation differs from the prior generation so drastically that you can’t even put them next to each other.

This is a desire that is aimed not only at an independent evolution, but at development and, as it were, self-development. In fact, this is an inner program, but the desire is still looking for the best ways to grow: “Which directions should I develop in?” Thus, how can we, bugs living inside a pie, even think of anything other than the pie?! We don’t know anything else.

Comment: Precisely based on sensations. This truth is felt from the beginning.

My Response: Yes, you feel what you sense in your qualities, in your mind, which was formed out of your qualities. But where are the other qualities? Where are the other forms of sensation that are not yours? Where, naturally, is another reasoning, not the one you have today? You don’t know that.

You exist inside this pie like an insect or worm inside an apple. This is your world, in accordance to which you have been organized and developed, and this is what you feel. Your mind is created precisely this way.
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. The Evolution of Creation” 10/5/13

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