My Answer: Basically, we all are opposite to each other. Our connection is built on the fact that, although we are completely different, we still want to connect and hold on to each other despite our differences, oppositeness, and even rejection toward each other.
After all, the spiritual vessel in which the Creator is revealed consists of ten absolutely opposite qualities. And although none of us sees any possibility of uniting with the other, yet when we push off ourselves, we connect above ourselves, against our properties. At first, it is a very unpleasant feeling.
For example, you are disgusted by something, you cannot even touch it, but you overcome yourself and touch what is so unpleasant to you. This is the feeling that the sensation of the Creator and the upper world is built on. Because these categories are absolutely opposite, reversed to us, we instinctively reject them.
We all want only to receive for ourselves and now we suddenly have to bestow. This is a feeling I cannot touch. It is like kissing a frog. And then, everything opens up, and it becomes a beautiful princess.
From KabTV’s “Fundamentals of Kabbalah,” 1/12/20