Answer: The fact of the matter is that connection occurs at the point of the Creator’s goodness toward us. We begin to understand that everything He does is absolutely right, reasonable, and good.
It is at this point of our impression of Him that we unite and become like Him. Therefore, this point of goodness becomes common to us.
Afterward, we again scatter in different directions, with new egoism, we hate each other again, and begin to gather again, but on the next, higher level.
From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 2/24/19