Answer: Everything depends on you. Demanding more from your friends is the same thing as to demanding more from the Creator, the Upper Light, which influences the Kli. It may happen that their response will seem opposite to your expectations.
We need to understand that we live in a world that is constantly approaching the end of correction. By properly “reading” the data about it, we will feel closer to the Lights and will change according to them. But instead of changing “linearly,” we will change cyclically, as we pass through the five degrees of HaVaYaH over and over.
However, I do not know exactly how I need to change. But I always remember that the Creator gives me more every time. “The Good who does good,” “There is none else beside Him,” He keeps growing greater before me.
And what I feel does not matter. I am heading in the right direction when I want to know where He is every moment and I keep Him in sight.
As a result, I see that the purpose of all the stages and states is to reveal the Creator’s bestowal before me so that He would really become great in my eyes. This is what will happen if I am able to change.
This is why Baal HaSulam begins Shamati with the article “There Is None Else Beside Him.” We must direct and orient ourselves this way: The Light is being revealed more and more, and we must find a middle ground.
On one hand, “There is none else beside Him,” “The Good who does good,” on the other hand, my desire, which is opposite to him, and in the middle, I build my attitude towards the Creator, in order to strengthen this formula within me.
In this case I constantly change.
How? I cannot change my desire and sensations. They come naturally, and I do not mislead myself when it comes to them. The principles of “The Good who does good,” and “There is none else beside Him” also cannot change.
But I can build my intention in the middle, change it, and correct it each time in order to harmonize my desire with the Creator’s greatness.
This “buffer,” “adapter,” the peacemaker between the two opposites, is called faith above reason; I advance because of it.
From 1st part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson, 12/3/10, Writings of Rabash