How To Save Love – Laitman Unplugged
Posted on January 12th, 2014
In the News (from PressTV): “The childlessness rate among women nearing the end of their childbearing years in the United States is among the highest in the world, according to the latest World Fertility Report by the United Nations, which also shows that 41 percent of all US births occurred to unmarried women.
“Among 118 places for which comparable data is available, only six have rates of childlessness higher than the US rate of 19 percent, Pew Research Center noted Friday in its analysis of the World Fertility Report 2012.
“Women between the ages of 40 and 44 in the US have, on average, about 1.9 children in their lifetimes, which is one of the lowest levels of 171 countries analyzed, with just 19 places having an equal or lower lifetime fertility levels.
“However, US women fall squarely in the middle range when it comes to the age at which they first become mothers, which according to the UN is 25 years for US women.
“In the area of non-marital births, the US ranks 49th among 91 places with comparable data. The UN report shows that 41 percent of all US births occurred to unmarried women.
“Fertility has declined worldwide to unprecedented levels since the 1970s, the report noted. ‘Total fertility fell in all but six of the 186 countries or areas for which data are available for all three periods considered in the analysis. In the most recent period covered, 80 countries or areas had a total fertility below 2.1 children per woman, the level required to ensure the replacement of generations in low mortality populations.’ The Christian Post.”
My Comment: The problem is not in this crisis, but in the loss of orientation in life; it is not clear: “What do I live for?” And hence the question, “Why give birth, grow, work, and …?” As a consequence, and with the lack of an answer to these questions, consumption of antidepressants, drugs, and alcohol is continuously growing.
Thus, the low birth rate is just one of the consequences of the general crisis—the lack of understanding of the meaning of life. This question subconsciously sits in everyone’s mind, even if we do not feel or automatically cover it with various activities.
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Concealment of the face becomes a Kli for discovering the Creator. Without this period of preparation the person would have nothing with which to feel this discovery. It is impossible to discover the Creator just because you want it now. How can you have a desire if you don’t go through the stages of search, clarification, pressure, and helplessness while attempting to discover the Creator; meaning to discover the characteristic of bestowal and love, which you want to acquire but cannot.
It is impossible without a search like this, and the main thing is that you must be in an environment that directs you toward the goal all the time. And even though you still aren’t connecting yourself to the right goal, don’t see it, and are confused, yet you are constantly, incessantly searching for it. And so the way begins to be stabilized more and more; it’s stabilized from many ways and paths and contracted more and more into one way. Ultimately the goal begins to be clearer, begins to reveal it’s imperative. Thus you reach a state where there is a goal in front of you; there is a clear mission. The higher goal becomes clearer, and so does your goal. You are already working from an agreement to approach it, to discover, and realize it.
It’s impossible to get along without this stage because specifically through this we assemble the Kli for feeling the Creator, the Kli for feeling spirituality. There are 125 steps on this way and every step includes very many ways, states, ascents and descents, infinite integrations of Sefirot within each other.
We don’t feel the changes that are taking place in us that much now even though, together with this, we are passing through a multitude of states. Like a little child who plays and runs after his parents, he doesn’t see and doesn’t feel that there is a big world around him with a multitude of activities and events where something is happening all the time. He lives in his own little world.
So we are also in some kind of Klipa that hides the true reality from us. But when we gather experience, meaning that we learn to do actions that are directed more and more towards the goal, according to the possibilities that are summoned for us from a higher supervision, then more and more we expand our horizons, meaning that we expand our absorptive Kli, and then we begin to feel a wider world with all of the systems that are in it.
This is the way maturation occurs in material life, and it is precisely the same in spiritual life as well. Only in spiritual life, the expansion depends on our ability and readiness to tolerate bestowal, Lishma, that is, the ability to act not for my own sake, but for the sake of all. And afterward, from this “for the sake of all” we pass to “for the sake of the Creator,” as it is said: “From love of the creation to love of the Creator.” Thus we pass through the stages of development.
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From the Preparation to the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 12/5/13
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Question: A regular social system always develops in the direction of differentiation, complexity, when a number of sub-systems develop in it where each becomes autonomous.
This system becomes so complex and grows so much that it eventually falls apart and something new forms, thus taking a new turn of development on a different level.
Answer: An integral system develops internally, not externally, because development does not happen in an egoistic way; it happens through a universal connection of a greater quality, though mutual guarantee, our mutual inclusion of one inside the other.
This is not the Brownian movement because it happens in a completely different way, when one submits to others. There is no disorganized, chaotic intrusion; on the contrary, we offer ourselves to everyone else, and this is why the system always grows in quality.
Question: Any development always includes a certain battle of opposites. Does this also pertain to the previous level?
Answer: It depends on the level that you are referring to. If you are referring to rising above our egoism, which has already lost its opposition, and it stands under altruism in order to help and support it, then egoism can no longer perform the function it has previously performed. The battle ends.
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From Kab TV’s “The Integral World,” 11/27/12
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Question: What difference does it make to whom one builds an intention for the sake of bestowal: the friends or people who don’t belong to the spiritual process?
Answer: The idea is that you don’t feel bestowal from strangers. They will not support you, but will begin to relate to you, to put it mildly, like a person who is insane. If you behave like a divine dandelion who only wants their good, they will not understand you.
For something to be okay, there must be mutual cooperation between you; you must develop this reciprocity, where you are to them what they are to you: You support each other, stimulate each other, discuss your problems, and so forth. It is possible to do this only in a group of like-minded people.
In a group we cooperate reciprocally between us, support each other, and yearn to attain fusion of our hearts, mutual guarantee, Arvut. With whom do you intend to do this? With those who are walking in the street and someone this doesn’t matter to at all? A person doesn’t know where they are moving him, for everything happens in a general field. People are like electrical charges that are moving in a general field of light; they reach the lowest point of balance with it and are concentrated there. So we are also gathered in a group in our world. You suddenly begin to feel where they are dragging you and with whom it is necessary to connect. This is because your charge, your “point in the heart” is moving in a field of Light and comes to this state.
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From the Moscow Virtual Convention “Unity Without Boundaries” Day Two 12/14/13, Lesson #2
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Question: You have said many times that a person studies, let’s say, for ten years, but still doesn’t succeed in adhering to the group, becoming a spiritual embryo. So what happens during this time, does the ego simply grow?
Answer: When a person truly adheres to the center of the group and becomes a spiritual embryo, he begins to feel as if he exists in the spiritual world to his full capacity. Exactly as in our world, an embryo that is found in his mother’s womb attains the same thing, for everything that is happening in her body, in fact, is designed only for him.
A spiritual embryo is a state that is not simple and is a very high state from which the entire spiritual level begins.
Suppose that ten years of studying has passed for someone and he still hasn’t become a spiritual embryo; that is, he has not succeeded in nullifying himself towards the group. And no matter how much we tell him about this, no matter how much he reads in the sources himself, he cannot do anything with this because he is not participating physically in the work of the group; he is arrogant, separated from it.
We are in a special world in which even all of our physical actions invite spiritual results; I cannot love the friends, I hate them, but in spite of it all, I still force myself to sit with them, smile at them, approach them through some kind of external action with the hope that this will change me, and this truly does change me. If a person doesn’t do this, then it is too bad, even after ten years he will remain the same.
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From the Moscow Virtual Convention “Unity Without Boundaries” Day Two 12/14/13, Lesson #2
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Question: How can we establish the same attitude towards The Book of Zohar as the attitude we are trying to establish in our workshops? The point is that in the integral education we suddenly feel that we lack a source and if we added The Book of Zohar to the workshop it could raise us to a new level…
Answer: It will happen. We should see The Book of Zohar as the adaptor between the Creator and us. The Creator inserts this book into us, the book opens and builds us, and with its help it is revealed.
The Book of Zohar is a tool. It isn’t a book in the ordinary sense, but a collection of means for discovering the Creator in the created being.
But the book can be revealed only in a group that is ready. The Zohar builds us, but there should be the right preparation for The Book of Zohar to begin to operate.
Question: There is a certain illusion when you sit in front of the book and not in a circle of friends that the study of The Zohar is an individual study. How can we overcome this in order to feel that we are in one circle around The Book of Zohar with the whole global vessel?
Answer: You should speak about it before the lesson. This is called an intention before the study and also during the study. It has to come from the inside. Both the Lights and the vessels are clarified from the inside. No external advice will help here. This is clear.
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From the 2nd part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 01/06/14, The Book of Zohar — Selected Excerpts, Parshat, “VaYikahel”
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Question: Connection is attained by the total annulment of each individual to complete zero. But what is the difference between this and ordinary psychology?
Answer: The difference is very simple: before whom do we annul ourselves? I annul myself before the others and they annul themselves before me, and what’s next? This is the condition only to reveal the force of the Light.
The self-annulment of everyone before everyone else creates a neutral spot in the center of the circle in which no egoistic forces operate. It is the spot of our mutual general desire, since there we connect and neutralize our ego. We establish the new reality in this spot, a new space in which we discover the upper force.
All our desires are focused on the center of the circle in which there is the force of the desire, connection, self-annulment, unity, and mutual guarantee. On the one hand, it is said that there is no empty space and that there is always a certain quality, a certain force. But here in the center, there is nothing.
A place is called desire. Here our collective desire is concentrated, but it is as if it is annulled, since none of us wants to use his own desire, and only wants to bestow upon others. Thus we create a special new place in a different dimension, on a different height.
We start from Malchut, and then Zeir Anpin, Bina, Hochma, until we reach Keter, the tip of Yod. This means that out of ten efforts that we made (Yod means the number 10 in Hebrew), we reach the tip of Yod, in which the Creator is revealed. This is the essence of the center of the group, in which we build a new space, a new dimension with special attributes by our efforts and our annulment. This is where the upper force can be revealed.
So only after the shattering and the correction do we receive a means, a vessel, in which the Creator is revealed. Otherwise it is impossible to reveal Him since we don’t have a sensor to detect Him, no natural sense to feel Him. He appears only when we stabilize Him this way: We are all egoists, but we want to rise above our ego and annul ourselves before everyone else. We want all that in order to resemble the Creator; we want to acquire His form and His attributes in order to resemble Him.
Thus we create a new state in the center of the group called a womb, Shechina. Only by our mutual annulment can we create the new space with the new attributes in a new dimension that didn’t exist before in Malchut of Ein Sof (Infinity). This place for the revelation of the Creator appears only now thanks to our efforts.
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From the 1st part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 01/02/14, Lesson on the Topic: “9 Steps”
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