Question: Is the quality of bestowal a vessel or is it fulfillment?
Answer: The quality of bestowal is both a vessel and fulfillment. It is a desire that fulfills me! If I love someone, I am filled with my love toward this person. I don’t even demand love in return; what I feel in regard to him is enough; I feel good from just that.
The feeling of love is fulfillment in itself. By love I mean bestowal. The desire to bestow to the neighbor is called love toward that person.
The extent of the love is measured by how much I am able to rise above my egoism and in spite of it to love another person. If I love him in complete congruence with my egoism, this is called egoistic love. However, if I love against my ego, this is called spiritual love or bestowal. There cannot be real love without resistance from the side of egoism.
From the 1st part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 1/15/12, Writings of Rabash