Love is characterized by giving. I love – means I give; I enjoy from pleasing the other. How could it be that I please the other? What do I please him with? With my attitude toward him. How can he receive pleasure from me? Only if he loves me. In this case, if I relate to him with love, he receives pleasure from it. However, if I don’t love him, I will perceive his good attitude toward me as hatred, and this will push me away from him even more.
The Creator relates to us with love from the very beginning, and that is why we express our love only toward Him and in relation to Him – to fulfill Him, to please Him – because He loves us from the very beginning.
This cannot exist between people. Only if we uncover the connections between me and the Creator, if we desire to be connected, so that the feeling of love for Him would be revealed in us, only then can love and unity emerge between us. That’s because it feeds on His love, meaning there must be three forces together, “I – another – Creator,” otherwise there are no grounds for love. There needs to be someone who initially supplies love to all who desire it! Therefore, we will attain love only if we incorporate the Creator in the connection between us.
Love cannot be one-sided. To love – means to please another with my attitude towards him, and this is possible only if he loves me from the beginning and receives pleasure from my attitude toward him. Thus, love can only exist between man and the Creator, because the Creator loves man from the beginning. Moreover, love is possible between people if the Creator is present between them. Therefore, love for one’s “beloved,” animals, children – isn’t love, but an expression of our attitude toward them. It is because I fulfill another’s desire for “something,” but I do not fulfill one’s love for me, because it doesn’t exist. This is why love can only exist if the Creator is present within us as the source of love.
Therefore, the condition of the mutual guarantee (Arvut) creates in everyone the certainty that the Creator’s love will be revealed and serves as collateral for the success of mutual love, which will unite everyone. It is precisely when man no longer needs anything that he can be fulfilled with love, and have the opportunity to express his love, like the Creator. It is precisely when every person receives the feeling of independence and security (Arvut) for the future, that the opportunity appears in the person to develop the love for his friend, to express love for another.