Development of Relations Between Men and Women

Question: How can Kabbalah help establish a relationship between a man and a woman?

Answer: We see that as humanity evolves it becomes more and more difficult. Once relationships between a man and a woman were regulated by society: a village, a small town, religions, established customs, and so on.

For example, men had rights, women did not, and everything was arranged in this way. Everything was very simple. A woman knew what her purpose was. A man knew what his purpose was.

In principle, they both understood what they existed for and how they should live. There was no opportunity on their part to invent a new type of family, new types of cooperation, such as “quid pro quo” or something else. Everything was calm and clear.

The girl was brought up in her family, the young man in his. From the relationship of their parents, they saw what it meant to live a family life. They grew up for this, married, and this is how they existed.

All this continued until humanity began to go beyond its framework.

There are degrees in the development of egoism: basic desires, such as food, sex, and family, and social desires of wealth, honor, power, and knowledge. As long as the development of desires does not go beyond the basic ones, everything is calm; such societies can exist normally. They do not have any lofty impulses.

Once society enters the degree where it begins to be interested in wealth, power, and knowledge problems arise because these desires in people are much stronger than desires for food, sex, and family.

Therefore, a person leaves the family to achieve more elevated goals. In general, here we have the confusion that we see in our time.
[255123]
From KabTV’s “Fundamentals of Kabbalah,” 12/31/18

Related Material:
Male And Female, Part 4
Male And Female, Part 3
Male And Female, Part 2

Filed under: Egoism, Man and Woman - No Comments →

One Solution for All Kinds of Problems

Question: What does Kabbalah say about such phenomena as jealousy and betrayal in the family? How should we relate to them?

Answer: It is natural because we are animals, and also humans to a certain extent. However, if our highest connection will determine everything else, then there will be no problems, we will always understand each other.

Now everything is based on intimidation, for both husband and wife. The threat of divorce with all the related mess of police, courts, possible violence and whatnot is always an option. However, such an unsightly outcome should optimally be avoided.

However, until we reach perfection and combine spiritual and material worlds, all such problems will continue. Also, those studying Kabbalah and correcting themselves will experience these problems no less than others, even more.

Question: Are you saying that there is one solution to all kinds of problems: the revelation of the Creator? When He is revealed does everything become clear?

Answer: We see even in our world that nothing else remains.

Question: Yes, but doesn’t it take time?

Answer: It doesn’t matter. You need to do something, to discontinue our current form of evolution, which leads us nowhere.

Question: Does Kabbalah give any solutions?

Answer: We must begin to work, to constantly educate ourselves, and understand what we are. I am an animal, and if I engage in Kabbalah, maybe for a while I will become an even bigger animal, as it is said, “increasing knowledge, increasing sorrow.”

A person’s ego constantly grows, and he might not even be able to cope with himself. He understands his problems, but cannot do anything about it. He corrects them on the spiritual level and maybe falls on the egoistic, earthly level. But this is the path, nothing can be done about it.

Question: You say: try, attempt, make efforts. Why?

Answer: This is the path of evolution. Look at how everything plays out: some individual rises, then falls, then disappears; then another, and a third, and so on, appearing and disappearing. This is the evolutionary path. We are doing nothing new on our Kabbalistic path, we are only accelerating time. Therefore, our life goes through such whirlpools.
[254183]
From Kab TV’s “Fundamentals of Kabbalah,” 1/1/19

Related Material:
Family And Marriage, Part 9
Family And Marriage, Part 8
Family And Marriage, Part 7

Filed under: Man and Woman - No Comments →

Does a Soul Have a Gender?

Question: Does a soul have a gender? For example, if a person in this life is a woman, will this soul in the next life be clothed in a female body? Or this is not so?

Answer: Let’s say it is so.

Question: What does Kabbalah say about this?

Answer: Kabbalah does not deal with these concepts at all because our world is illusory, imagined by us in our sensory organs.

Remark: But we were talking about souls, about the fact that this bundle of energy undergoes all kinds of metamorphoses and constantly clothes in some kind of body until it comes to the final correction.

My Comment: For simplicity, let’s say that a male soul clothes in a male body and a female soul in a female body.

Question: Is this bundle of energy or this set of qualities unique to people? Can it clothe into some lower forms of matter?

Answer: No, not into anything else. This is not Hinduism.
[255120]
From KabTV’s “Fundamentals of Kabbalah,” 12/31/18

Related Material:
Male And Female, Part 3
Male And Female, Part 2
Male And Female, Part 1

Filed under: Body and Soul, Man and Woman - No Comments →

Who is in charge in the family?

Question: Who in the family should be in charge?

Answer: The middle one between the husband and wife should be in charge, the one who called the Creator. Husband and wife with the Creator between them, and He is in charge.

Question: And before He appears, who should be in charge?

Answer: How can you determine who is in charge? Why should there be someone in charge at all? There should be a focus on connection, cooperation, unification, and mutual inclusion.

We must reach a state where we understand everything without words, support each other and communicate mentally. We don’t have to talk at all, as the wife usually reproaches her husband: “You don’t talk to me.” The man is used to being more silent, and the woman generally talks more.

But in fact, the best condition is when they do not need any communication, even tactile. They just feel each other as one organism.

And so I feel my partner, my children, and my family. Therefore, it is said: “The wife of a man, as his body.” You can feel each other to that extent.

Question: Therefore, in order to truly reveal the Creator, you need to feel a stranger as the closest person?

Answer: Yes. After all, only with the help of the family is it impossible to achieve connection with the Creator.

Question: So it is possible, but this connection will be minimal?

Answer: I can’t even imagine it. It is very difficult. A person needs a healthy egoism that leads him “out of himself.”
He needs the same internal egoism when he imagines his family or some other people as close ones so that there will be a difference between those and these, external and internal. And then he can orientate, build in himself all kinds of models of communication with others and thus, advance.
[254148]
From KabTV’s “Fundamentals of Kabbalah,” 1/1/19

Related Material:
Family And Marriage, Part 8
Family And Marriage, Part 7
Family And Marriage, Part 6

Filed under: Man and Woman - No Comments →

Where Did Male and Female Parts Come From?

Question: All of creation is a desire to enjoy. The desire to enjoy for my own sake is called female part and for the sake of the Creator the male part. What does this mean?

Answer: The female and male parts were not initially manifested in the created being because the created being had to develop.

This is similar to how our universe was created from the smallest particle of energy but energy of the highest class, the highest level. There was enough of it to create everything there is in our space, which we still do not know about yet. It is billions of times bigger than what we might imagine today, with everything that fills it.

It was all born from a small particle of energy that broke through the upper degree to our degree.

This particle included everything in itself: all kinds of positive and negative qualities that later expanded, developed, and become opposite to each other. Yet, all of them came from one point in which these qualities were in a potential state with no difference between them.

Therefore, if we are talking about a man and a woman, then their prototype is such a point, such an image called Adam in whom there were practically neither male nor female parts. They existed in potential and gradually developed from this object.

In our world, this was manifested as a gradual development of the matter of creation: inanimate, vegetative, and animate nature and man.

As it is described in Kabbalah, this occurred through intermediary stages from inanimate to vegetative, from vegetative to animate, and from animate to human, who developed from an ape.
[255116]
From KabTV’s “Fundamentals of Kabbalah,” 12/31/18

Related Material:
Male And Female, Part 2
Male And Female, Part 1
Man And Woman — A Magnet Between Them, Part 1

Filed under: Adam-The Common Soul, Man and Woman, Spiritual Work - No Comments →

Feel Everyone Close to Yourself

Question: Can we say that the family is needed only so that we learn to give correctly? This is selfish giving, but at least I get some models of correct behavior.

Answer: Yes, there is something like that. At least, the family demonstrates the condition that if a person feels them as close, then I am ready to treat him as myself.

So, the whole problem is to feel everyone close. This is the method of Kabbalah. The upper light creates such an ability in us.

Remark: You said that there are five kinds of desires in us. So it turns out that I see part of my desires outside myself and feel them as strangers, and I see part of my desires as mine and so I naturally care about their fulfillment.

My Comment: The whole world—all I can see are my desires. I see myself inside myself.

Question: But I see part outside myself and part inside?

Answer: Yes. Only those desires that are outside of me are like strangers, but they are the most important for me.

Question: Where is the family in this?

Answer: The family is in the middle, on the border between the “I” and the outside world. It is a transitional link from the awareness of the external world as yourself.
[254129]
From KabTV’s “Fundamentals of Kabbalah,” 1/1/19

Related Material:
Family And Marriage, Part 7
Family And Marriage, Part 6
Family And Marriage, Part 5

Filed under: Man and Woman, Marriage - No Comments →

Who Is Adam?

Question: In the beginning, the Creator created a single created being. This created being or program is called “a single desire—Adam HaRishon.” Does it also consist of female and male parts?

Answer: Yes, both parts simultaneously complete each other and are interconnected.

Question: Allegorically, they say that first only the male part was created, Adam, and that the woman was later created from his rib. How do you explain this?

Answer: It is very simple. The Creator is the quality of bestowal. We cannot determine what in fact it really is because it is outside of us. When it is already within us, it is defined as a combination of male and female properties.

Question: What is this created being “Adam“?

Answer: Adam is the ten Sefirot of the desire to receive, with a natural, instinctive intention to bestow. In such a form, he can be called an angel. That is, he is an absolutely ideal quality: very small, in a zero state, which has neither reception nor bestowal.

It is very difficult to decipher this whole story but it is possible. In The Book of Zohar and other Kabbalistic books, it is explained that this is about mutually complementing each other in the receiving and bestowing part when they are practically reduced to zero.

Therefore, Adam, as we call this system, is not a person, not a created being, but a quality which, relatively speaking, includes in himself the positive and negative forces that are interconnected and mutually complement each other. They exist in potential. This power device is called Adam.

Question: We were studying the four phases of direct light. At which phase was Adam created? Does this have something to do with the four phases?

Answer: No. First came the development of the four phases of direct light (Dalet Behinot de Ohr Yashar), then the creation of the worlds: Adam Kadmon, Atzilut, Beria, Yetzira, and Assiya. And only then did the conditions arise for creating the system called Adam.
[255112]
From KabTV’s “Fundamentals of Kabbalah,” 12/31/18

Related Material:
Male And Female, Part 1
Adam And Eve
And God Created Woman

Filed under: Adam-The Common Soul, Man and Woman, Structure of the Universe - No Comments →

Go Beyond Your Ego

Remark: You said that a person instinctively experiences first love at the age of 12 or even earlier. Then for the first time one feels love for one’s children. All this in order to feel the model on yourself, how to correctly relate to our neighbor, to all of humanity.

My Comment: Yes. And then to the Creator.

Question: Are these relationships similar?

Answer: Each time they emerge at a different level.

If we are talking about children’s love, or love for children, or love for the family, then this is the natural love that exists in everyone as a bud, one needs to develop it.

If we talk about love for strangers, this goes beyond the framework of our egoism. Our egoism includes some kind of field: “This is mine, and this, and this.” Whatever is mine, I love, attract, and cherish it. I do not cherish anything that goes beyond the scope of my egoism. On the contrary, maybe I don’t need it and I don’t want to see it near me.

So, work on yourself is necessary here. Here I must see what is beyond my egoism. And practically outside of it is the Creator. As I begin to relate to what is beyond my egoism, so I relate to the Creator. Therefore, I must determine my attitude to the Creator and, based on this, relate to everything that is outside of my egoism.

Question: It turns out that if a person has a big ego, then one’s framework is narrowed? He doesn’t even feel family as his own?

Answer: Yes. But this does not mean that one cannot go beyond one’s ego. Maybe, on the contrary, in this way a person is pushed forward, given the recognition of evil.

Our movement forward is based on contraction and expansion: inhalation – exhalation, exhalation – inhalation. Therefore, if a person has great egoism and he does not feel anyone but himself, although, perhaps, he does not realize it, this moves him to deeper attainment of the Creator.

The greatest Kabbalists, before their correction, were very big egoists.
[254105]
From KabTV’s “Fundamentals of Kabbalah,” 1/1/19

Related Material:
Family And Marriage, Part 6
Family And Marriage, Part 5
Family And Marriage, Part 4

Filed under: Egoism, Man and Woman, Marriage - No Comments →

Time and Love for Children

Question: Do I understand correctly that nature instinctively instilled love for children in us only so that we would learn to treat other people the same way?

Answer: Yes and no. Over time, love for children will change. It is already changing. Today, people relate to children differently than before.

Throughout all generations there has been a draw, caring, and love for children, but all this is changing.

Since our desire, understanding of the world, and method of communicating with the outside world are changing, naturally, the attitude toward children as a part of the world is changing too.
[254064]
From KabTV’s “Fundamentals of Kabbalah,” 1/1/19

Related Material:
Family And Marriage, Part 5
Family And Marriage, Part 4
Family And Marriage, Part 3

Filed under: Children, Education, Man and Woman - No Comments →

Two Forces in the Universe

Question: Kabbalists write that the relationship between genders is the foundation of the entire universe. Are people divided into men and women because there is the Creator and the created beings?

Answer: Yes. Two forces of the universe—the force of bestowal and the force of reception—are manifested in matter in the form of man and woman.

Question: So the force of bestowal is the male essence and the female essence is the force of reception?

Answer: Yes, but purely conditionally. In principle, from the aspect of forces, this is true: the male force gives and the female one receives. However, when it comes to receiving and bestowing, it does not mean that the female force is attuned to the egoistic quality to receive and the male one to the altruistic quality to bestow.

In each person there are both forces: both male and female.
[255109]
From KabTV’s “Fundamentals of Kabbalah,” 12/31/18

Related Material:
“Man” And “Woman” In Kabbalistic Terms
Men And Women Studying Kabbalah
Female Desire And Male Intention

Filed under: Man and Woman, Structure of the Universe - No Comments →