Question: Is it harmful for a child when a parent doesn’t create the right environment for him and doesn’t explain to him what happens in the outside world, which means that he doesn’t act as a mediator between the child and this world?

Answer: If I isolate my child in very rigid frameworks and put a leash on his neck and only thus show him how he should act, I don’t allow him to develop. He will grow up to be a very narrow-minded person who does only what is required of him and is not concerned about anything else as long as everyone leaves him alone.

But if I keep him in a vacuum and don’t give him any guidelines, he becomes even more miserable because he looks for something to do. In that case he is prone to internal outbursts and strong pressures that appear in a person in the form of undesirable actions and outcomes at every age.

Therefore, both methods are totally unacceptable. There has to be a middle way according to which I give my child the right guidelines and tell him what is what and give him examples. He sees his parents as a role model of what we expect of him.

What is more, in a healthy society this example is given not only by his parents but also by others around him, like his neighbors, relatives, people at school, and friends. Thus, having no other choice, he tries to form and internally embody everything he sees around him.
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From KabTV’s “The Last Generation” 7/09/15

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Autistic children are like litmus paper for testing society and parents. But we are not ready to accept these children because we don’t have the flexibility of social consciousness. Basically we don’t have it.

In the current overall direction of schools, the teacher is directed towards working with ordinary children, and all the rest don’t interest him,; he or she doesn’t need autistic children in class.

Certainly among the teachers there are individuals who relate warmly towards children like these, but unfortunately there are very few.

But these children, as a rule, are very connected, very faithful to others, very connected to those who are near them; they are not two-faced, in their behavior there are no malicious intentions or thoughts. So they stimulate an honest attitude in those around them.
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From KabTV’s “The Last Generation” 7/9/15

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Question: In recent years, the education of children has changed very much. In the past, parents gave instructions to their children, and if a child refused to maintain their requirements, he was punished.

Today, every parent is reconsidering his attitude toward the child, trying to build another connection with him.

This results in situations that are not entirely understandable when, for example, a young father says to a three year old child, “I don’t like giving direct instructions to a child and requiring discipline. I don’t want him to grow up carrying out what they tell him to do without question. A child knows better what is good for him, so he can decide for himself.”

However, for the most part, the child doesn’t always understand what is good and what is bad for him. What do you think in connection to this? How much are parents like these on the right path?

Answer: If parents want their child to grow up, they need to create an appropriate environment for him, a social environment in which even a three-year-old child will get particular signals from the environment, awakening in him some kind of conscious, purposeful action, and then he will develop the way they want, whereas this way, just in an empty place, in a vacuum, where the father and mother don’t require anything and don’t explain anything, the child himself doesn’t know what is what. So, from where would he get the appropriate guidance?

He necessarily must communicate. In childhood, this is the most important thing. In the first two years of life, he doesn’t feel others at all, only himself, and can cooperate mutually only with the nature of the still, vegetative, and partially with the nature of the animate. After that, an aspiration for mutual cooperation with other children appears, and sometimes with adults. Then, we must think about an environment.

So, the parents should not let it go; “He should think and do things by himself.” What does “by himself” mean? They apparently suspend the child in a vacuum. What the parents first complete for him, now friends, adults and the entire, immense world must complete.
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From KabTV’s “The Last Generation” 7/9/15

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Opinion (David Servan-Schreiber): “Helping others activates areas in the brain that stimulate a feeling of pleasure in us. So specifically because of this in difficult times we must put emphasis on communication between people.

“A nation that dedicates itself to the growth of its Gross National Product, interprets all measurements in monetary units. But it is impossible to measure the health of children, happiness, singing, stable married life, the honesty of those in power, humor, education, wisdom and love with money. The Gross National Product of the nation measures everything, but just not those aspects for which it is truly worthwhile to live.

“The positive development of a nation doesn’t need to be measured by the growth in the manufacture of weapons and the building of prisons, rather through the true welfare of its citizens. People are happy when their jobs are not connected to consumption. Creating a connection with others, being active, concentrating on shared events, learning all the time, trying something new and devoting yourself to others; this is the formula for happiness!

“It will take a worldwide financial crisis for these eternal values to finally become the subject of public debate.”

My Comment: It is specifically suffering that forces us to pay attention to others, even though it seems that suffering locks a person inside himself. But basically only through suffering does a person reach compassion and mercy. So the developing crisis will force us to pay attention to those around us and in this way attain happiness. But this would be only after very great suffering! Instead, the wisdom of Kabbalah offers its own easy way to rapidly attain happiness together. So now choose! It is not by chance that the Chinese character for “crisis” is composed of two characters: “danger” and “opportunity.”
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Question: Today, one in a hundred children suffers from autism. What is this autistic world from the point of view of the wisdom of Kabbalah? How is it possible to peer into it? How is it possible to understand these people?

Answer: The human soul is a diverse and multileveled phenomenon.

Probably there is a classification of children as autistic according to some external and internal signs, according to tests and so forth. However, in my perception of humanity and reality in general, I would not consider these people as separate from others, for after all, we all are autistic to some degree.

In some way, we are normal, in some way geniuses, and in some way completely stupid, peasants, workers, freemen, masters and servants. This is to say, in every person, everything is found in different combinations.

Everything depends on the integration of the autistic people in the surrounding environment because the environment is the main thing that differentiates us most from other people. So, I think that we simply have not yet found the right method with whose help it would be possible to connect autistic people with regular people.

Autism is a social problem of the relationship with the environment. If the right environment is created around the child—a group or friends to organize successful interactions with older children who know how to behave—then I am sure that it is possible to bring the child out of any state because the influence of the environment, especially on the autistic person, provides an immense effect.

I don’t know what medications specialists use, but in my perception and understanding, the right purposeful influence, not only on a child but on any person, is able to move him into any state. It can make any normal person autistic, and vice versa.
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From KabTV’s “The Last Generation” 7/9/15

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Comment: In our times, parents don’t want to be involved with their children. They sit the child in front of the television and then the home is quiet.

Answer: This is happening because today adults have changed; they have become different. They don’t want to devote much attention to a child. It is easier for them to buy him a computer so that he will sit in his room, and they won’t think at all about what he is involved with there. Besides that, they don’t know how to approach the child, even if they wanted to.

Therefor a lot of work must be done in teaching them the right system of behavior with a child. And the fact that they always complain is because basically they themselves education and the children are confused; suddenly they discover that there is a creature growing in their family that doesn’t understand them. This is not a problem of the family, but of the nation, of the schools.

Question: But in the meantime special courses for parents have not been developed. How can those parents, who have problems with their children, overcome this?

Answer: There is no way if they are not included in some kind of educational and informational system, especially educational. They need to educate themselves. And the nation and the society are to blame for this.

Today we have many possibilities for learning, like television and the Internet. Young parents don’t necessarily have to go to night school or visit special courses in the evening; they can learn at home, on the Internet or on open television channels, ask questions, get answers, participate in discussions and communicate.

Society should oblige them to learn, because otherwise we cannot give the proper upbringing for the next generation, and this is our future. In another 20 years the children of today will become the commanders of orders, the creators, and founders, and what will be with them?

Today, a father and mother do everything that a child demands, closing their eyes to all of his mischief. For a society like this there is no future; we see what has grown from our children: depression, despair, drug addictions, and even violence.

So everything depends on the question: What do we want to have in another 20 years? Now we are laying down the foundations for all the children for their future lives. So how can we be indifferent to this? If we don’t aspire to the right education of the younger generation, creating a new person for a new world, nothing will come of it.
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From KabTV’s “The Last Generation” 7/9/15

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Question:  In schools that integrate autistic children, there are often conflicts between parents of the autistic children and parents of ordinary children who don’t want their kids to study in the same classroom with the autistic children. How can we explain to parents that they should accept this correctly?

Answer: The point is that it isn’t the parents’ problem but the problem of the whole education system that actually lacks the element of education. Unfortunately we don’t educate people but engage in teaching a small human machine to later grow up to be a robot, a screw in some bigger system.

When schools teach a child it doesn’t mean that they educate him to be a human being: a person who can connect to others and mutually cooperate with them, to build himself, a family, a society, a world. Schools have no ability, powers, or trained staff to do so.

This is the reason that we cannot expect parents to see things open-mindedly and to understand that the presence of an autistic child in the classroom allows the other kids to see the world and society differently, and to learn to mutually cooperate with others.

They don’t understand that all the kids in the classroom benefit from having such a child among them, since he needs the mutual cooperation of others and they have to help him. From a social perspective it is the trump card in a group of students.

But modern schools are built according to totally different principles, and therefore, anything that might be considered an interruption in the “creative” process that pushes a small creature to acquire maximum information is undesirable. Nothing is required of him but to be a good egoist, compete against everyone else and the hell with others; you have to be first.

Who can we turn to here? To the parents? The parents were brought up in exactly the same way as their children are; they live in the same world, so what is needed here is a serious profound change of the system.
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From KabTV’s “The Last Generation” 7/9/15

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Comment: Today many parents sheepishly say: “My child speaks to me disrespectfully, argues about every little thing, complains about everything, and is reluctant to do even the very basic things.”

They are terribly worried about their children’s behavior, but at the same time don’t understand what they are doing wrong.

There is no distance between grownups and children anymore and no respect for adults. Children turn into absolutely mad creatures and it is very hard to communicate with them. Parents really don’t know what to do with their children.

Answer: The point is that we don’t set normal standards of behavior for children. It says: “educate the child according to his own needs.” This is the reason that parents need to undergo a special training program.

If a young couple wants to have a child, they should take courses of self-education and child education even before they get married. Because all the changes they undergo will be conveyed to the embryo since we are in a closed system that is mutually and totally connected.

Our society isn’t ready to bring up children and parents don’t want to take any responsibility that parents have to take.

This is the reason that we have to oblige parents to be ready for the birth of their child and to know how to bring him up. They have to be in a learning environment like a school all the time; let us call it a school for young parents. This should be a state law.
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From KabTV’s “The Last Generation” 7/9/15

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Question: Why has the number of autistic children, living in their closed world, increased by 50 times in the past 30 years?

Answer: I think that this trend will be maintained and grow.

Autistic people are those who already are required to have the perception of the next reality. They can feel a few realities simultaneously, a few levels of humanity.

We are now in a qualitatively new stage of human development. We see that we have lost connection with this world. We cannot be found within it. It frightens us. It is shaken up all the time, and we have lost our previously precise forms of mutual cooperation with it. I consider autistic people to have more of an inclination to perceive the next picture of the world than others.

They are more developed. If we were to take a modern person and compare him with uncivilized people who lived several thousand years ago, he would seem strange also, washing his hands, brushing his teeth, saying hello and goodbye to everyone and so forth.

So, the appearance of such a number of autistic children is a clear sign of a transitional period. We must simply understand from where all this is derived.

It is connected to the general ecological system, but there is no need to search for a cause since the entire system of the world—all of its levels, still, vegetative, animate and human—are moving in parallel, and the fact that the number of autistic children has grown in the past 30 years by 50 times shows that we are going with giant steps toward the next stage of humanity.

I think that we simply need to accept this view, at least as an addition, and from there begin to discern these changes as practical, as imperative for humanity.

In other words, it is necessary to consider autism not as a disease that must be healed and not suppress autistic people with the help of drugs and make them into supposedly normal people. On the contrary, we must study them, use their characteristics to understand that in them the coming state of humanity is revealed somewhat.
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From KabTV’s “The Last Generation” 7/9/15

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Europe: United and Separated

There are two wide-scale conflicts that lead to animosity and hatred:

• among locals and immigrants;
• among different countries of the European Union because its stronger members tend to benefit from its weaker members.

Both types of conflicts are triggered by the economic crisis and lack of integral education which should have been chosen as a basis for European unity. It’s not feasible to reach unity only by promising vague potential benefits in the future. People are different; they are either hostile and hateful or totally indifferent to each other.

Unity is not about the absence of entry visa regulations among European countries. It’s not an issue at all, nor was it ever a hard procedure. Unity requires much more.

Question: What awaits Europe as a result of its internal conflicts? What will happen in the future?

Answer: One of the two:

• either Europe will realize the evil that it faces and will find out how to correct the situation, or
• it will go through devastating disasters, wars and other afflictions. In this case, the European population will come to realization of the evil later, thus postponing its correction.

Question: What is evil? What exactly do Europeans have to understand?

Answer: They have to comprehend what the common global problem of Europe and the world as a whole really is. Why have they reached such a state? What’s going on? Once again, we approach another world war; yet again, we hate each other. Currently, we are close to a new war. People must comprehend the essence of the processes that take place in the world and find out what can be done to stop them.

Europeans should admit that mixing various nations who lacked genuine interconnectedness and were not close spiritually, culturally or religiously was a huge mistake. Any union has to meet certain criteria. Random decisions of European politicians and economists are very far from reality and have nothing to do with authentic unity.

Question: Does it mean we will come to recognition of the evil the hard way?

Answer: Yes. The crisis and potential collapse of the world are on the way. Europe is not an exception. Governments are incapable and incompetent to accept the idea of correction.

There is a chance this message will go through the general public. It will happen if common people will create a movement that will later transform into a party that will put forward correct requirements to their governments and will eventually become a part of governmental cabinets. Yes, politics is dirty and messy, but it is the only way to reach the decision-making level and attract voters who will give their ballots to those who can launch qualitative changes in culture and education. New balanced economic is possible only under this condition.

At this time, nobody can cope with it, as with the economy, because it’s a derivative of social relationships. It means that before anything else, we must correct the relationships between us.

As an example, a mini-economics of a normal, friendly family is about every family member having everything they need: children must have enough special baby-food; the elderly should have necessary medications. Do you agree that contemporary governments take good care of their citizens? Not at all! Modern economics is based on the advantage of the strong, on how much one can “grab and run away with.” People don’t care about others. Family economics would collapse if it were built on such an attitude, whereas so far, modern economics somehow has survived even though we clearly see their distorted structures.

So, first of all people have to reach a state when every member of the society feels that “we all are one big family.” Then, based on this new type of relationships and mutual positive attitude, it will be possible to build a new type of economy with the help of integral education.
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From KabTV’s “A New Life” 9/9/14

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