Nine Tips for Avoiding Trouble in Life
Comment: I read about an expert’s advice who proclaims there are vital lessons that a person should learn as early as possible. By mastering them, it is purported that you can prevent some troubles in your life.
Tip 1: “Follow your own path.”
People love to judge others. Peer pressure can force you to stray from the path that you started paving for your future. It is advised to ignore the aspirations of others and never let someone else’s goals and dreams influence your life’s direction. This is your path, and only you can decide where you need to go.
My Response: Absolutely correct. A person takes his own path in life. He must feel what he wants, what attracts him internally, and pursue this goal. Along the way he can use all sorts of tips, advice, and methods.
Comment: Tip 2: “Do not hesitate when you act.”
An old Roman saying goes: Carpe diem—seize the moment. Most often we fail to act due to uncertainty or lack of courage. This hesitation hinders progress and traps us in a cycle of questioning: “What could have been if I had acted…?”
My Response: I do not think this is correct. In reality, every person has his own purpose, and he will have to achieve it eventually. Even if someone avoids an issue they face and does not impulsively rush to resolve it as you suggest, the issue will resurface and compel them to deal with it.
Question: So just move forward?
Answer: Yes, nothing terrible will happen. Relax, take a break, wait—it will wait for you too.
Comment: Tip 3: “Test in practice what you have learned.”
My Response: There is no wisdom greater than that of someone walking the path themselves and drawing conclusions from it. Only when a person has gone through specific experiences, understands them, and can offer one’s opinion about them, only then can that opinion be taken seriously.
Comment: Tip 4: “Good things do not come easily.”
Luck can take you far, but everything else depends on you. Do not think that someone else will fight your battles with the same energy and dedication as you.
My Response: No one will fight for you. You must clearly understand the challenges before you, assess the desirability and necessity of reaching your goal, and then you can fight for it, primarily with yourself.
Question: Why with yourself?
Answer: Because we are inherently lazy, cautious, and so on. You will need to convince yourself that the goal is more important than your own comfort.
There is a higher goal, and a person must define it (if we are talking about someone who wants to uncover the meaning of our world and their place in it).
Once the goal is clear, he moves toward it to the best of his ability, measures his strength, does not become discouraged, and understands that even if he does not fully achieve it, he will still have made progress. A person will try to realize as much as is destined for him.
Comment: Tip 5: “Never miss a chance to try more.”
Even when we feel most prepared, it is quite possible that we will not achieve our goal. The main thing is not to despair.
My Response: Of course, we need to try to achieve the goal. If this goal is important, if I check it, and see that this is really what I need to achieve, then I should include myself in it completely.
Comment: Tip 6: “Value every moment.”
Live your life to the fullest because it is short, and we never know what tomorrow will bring.
My Response: I would not follow such advice because life has its purpose. If I believe today that I already know what is most important and only need to achieve it today and I disregard tomorrow, this is incorrect. It is like being reborn and dying every day, an inaccurate attitude toward life.
I must see myself walking a long road, constantly moving forward until I reach the ultimate goal. Every day I must reevaluate, redefine, and align myself with this goal, and strive toward it. And so what if tomorrow I am no longer here? I am still heading toward it today.
Question: And what on this path allows you personally, as a great person with great experience, a Kabbalist, not to give up?
Answer: The importance of the goal. One must constantly work on it. For me, there is nothing more important in life. I have dedicated my life to this, starting from the age of 20 and even earlier. I wanted this, and I have been walking toward it all my life, certainly for the last 50 to 60 years.
Comment: Tip 7: “Do not impose your ideas on others.”
They say you should not impose your ideas on others. Let those who seek your help and guidance come to you.
My Response: I do not think I am intrusive. I calmly accept those who come to my lessons, just as I calmly observe those who leave. My principle is entirely Kabbalistic: there is no coercion on the paths of life. Everyone must choose and realize their own way. Advice, however, is always available to those who seek it.
Comment: Tip 8: “Be flexible in your goals.”
It is important to analyze your current position and how your actions might affect the future. Sometimes it is better to pause a goal, adjust it temporarily, and return to it later.
My Response: In what I do, there is a constant reassessment of the path, goal, efforts, and implementation. So this is not an issue. Kabbalah provides a person with an almost continuous, constant rechecking of the goal, the path, and oneself, far beyond a daily or hourly basis.
Question: Will people find it just as easy to work with this constant data flow to adjust their goals continuously?
Answer: People will have more and more demand for a purpose in life. They will try to draw it before themselves, to define it. They will see that they can define it together, in connection with each other, and in this way they will move forward.
Comment: Tip 9: “For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.”
Here many people are faced with the following situation: people seem to agree and want the same thing, but they have different opinions; they want to express them, to defend them, and then nothing good comes out of it. Where does the understanding of the consequences come from?
My Response: In Kabbalah this is not an issue because achieving the goal depends on the correct integration of people with one another.
The key is not to insist on your own perspective or any single viewpoint. Neither I nor others should cling to our opinions. Instead we must combine all opinions into a unified whole that produces the correct result. If each person relinquishes his own self for the sake of the collective, the right outcome is achieved.
Question: Even if someone believes that their opinion is one hundred percent correct?
Answer: Especially then. This is a Kabbalistic principle. We must rise above our egoism, and there is no other solution to this issue. Only when each person relinquishes his or her perspective for the sake of collective unity can the outcome be both harmonious and correct.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 12/16/19
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