An attempt to connect with other people in order to reveal the quality of bestowal and love in oneself, as in the Creator, leads a person to despair that he cannot do it. Accordingly, this state leads him to ask the Creator to connect his heart with other people.

Just sitting and justifying some states that pass through us does not give anything. Many people suffer and are in terrible conditions, but they do not see the right way out of them that would lead to the goal.

Question: As an egoist is it correct to say that my task is not just to justify the Creator for what He does to me, but to come to a “broken heart” when I actively try to acquire the quality of the Creator and despair of not being able to achieve this, and ask the Creator to help me?

Answer: Yes, this is the most correct state. That is why it is said: “There is nothing so whole as a broken heart.”

Question: But how much strength does a person have? It takes years until he turns to the Creator because he is trying to do everything himself.

Answer: Baal HaSulam writes that it may take 20-30 years.

Question: So is this some kind of cumulative process?

Answer: Yes. But do not reassure yourself that it is accumulating. We must go forward and try to achieve this every day.
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From KabTV’s “Spiritual States” 11/27/22

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Question: There is a principle in spiritual work: “Do not give up on mercy.” It turns out that the Creator is waiting until the person cries out. He is waiting for our prayers that will come out of the broken and shattered heart. Who wants to go through such states? Is this the reason that so few people study Kabbalah?

Answer: The merciful and loving Creator about whom it is said that He loves us and wishes only good to everyone. He is the one who brings a person to such states where a person is forced to turn to Him from inevitability and despair.

Why does He have to drive us to this point? It is because we exist in the state opposite to the Creator, in egoism, in the property of receiving. However, the Creator exists in the property opposite to us, in bestowal. Therefore we are polar opposites.

Thus, we can get closer to the Creator only if we change, or try, or at least want to change, our egoistic desires to receive into altruistic desires to give.
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From KabTV’s “Spiritual States” 11/27/22

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In this world, a man rules over a woman, but in the future a woman will rule over a man, as it is written: “A woman will rule over a man.” (Midrash Tehilim).

Question: This is some kind of internal statement. What is “a woman will rule over a man in the future”?

Answer: Of course, we mean human desire, which is called feminine. It will be corrected and therefore it will rule.

Question: Could you explain this phrase more simply: “Today a man rules a woman, and in the future a woman will rule a man”?

Answer: I think that is where we are heading, and we understand that. We see that the world is changing gradually. Women go through all kinds of organizations and occupy various very serious posts.

It is no secret that the woman is superior in the house, and so it is written in the Torah.

Question: And you say that according to this statement, we men will concede to this?

Answer: Men will give in to this. In general, a man inside himself is ready for this. There is a lot left in him from the boy who is raised by his mother. It is in each of us. And that is why I think that all this will come out and be realized by everyone in such a prominent, correct form.

Comment: Now when we see how wars, conflicts, and so on are developing, there is a lot tied to the male part.

My Response: That is why there are wars and conflicts. If women rule the world more, there will be fewer wars, fewer conflicts, and fewer problems in general.

I do not mean the type of women who get out into the streets and scream, but rather the real women who are aware of themselves as wives and mothers. They lead families, take care of families, children, the future, and so on. It is practically not a man’s job; it is more a woman’s job.

Question: Is taking care of the country more of a woman’s job?

Answer: Female, any care is a woman. And any fulfillment of a woman’s desire is a man.

Question: Do you connect it? A woman—the house and a woman—and the head of the country?

Answer: Of course. It is the same thing.

Question: So she suddenly feels everyone as her children? Everything is like her house?

Answer: Yes. Who else can think about it?

Question: Where do you find such women? Please tell me.

Answer: They will appear, and they exist. We just need to give them a place to advance a little. And they are already moving forward today, but the men are still pushing. But it is all a matter of time.

Question: So you are in favor of this?

Answer: Yes!

Comment: There will be a lot of resistance, I think.

My Response: And I do not see a single man who could do more good for the world than women, than women’s governance.

It is not today; it is gradually when all this hubris, pressure, shouting, and so on will come down. When men will not goad women, direct them at each other, and so on. Meaning, both sides need to grow here. But in general, there is in the female character a predisposition to peace, to the convenience of everyone, to proper upbringing, and so on.

Question: How can we educate such women? Will they themselves be brought up in accordance with what is happening? How will they advance? How will they feel what you say, that the world is home?

Answer: We have to do it. This has to be done by us. We Kabbalists, who understand how to act and who are not shy or afraid, who are not ashamed, will say what is necessary.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 11/3/22

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Question: You say that being physically in a group does not mean that a person is really in it. Does it mean that this is not a criterion?

Answer: Of course. The desire for connection is the criterion.

Question: How should one treat the friends in the group? I do not know if they want to connect or not? A person can sit silently and that is it.

Answer: Yes, it is difficult to understand. But there are various indications whether he is included in the work along with the rest.

By nature, we are all different: phlegmatic, choleric, etc. Is it possible to say that a choleric person is directed forward more than a phlegmatic person? This is just the way they express themselves externally. Internally, both can be with the same desire, but one will be speaking slowly and doing something, while the other will be rushing from corner to corner. So what? How can you evaluate this?

Question: But the evaluation itself is not to bring them under any category. Let’s say there are criteria: an internal group, a young group, and some other layers. Who generally makes decisions, and how is a person’s readiness established?

Answer: I do not know. It is none of my business because it is a group. They have a teacher, this is me, and together with them we analyze the sources, the articles of Rabash, who wrote a lot on this topic. They know these sources and have repeatedly gone through all the articles. Now let them implement them.

I only set general lines or inspire students to take some action. I cannot tell them how to do that exactly. They must do everything themselves.
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. How Are People Admitted to a Group of Kabbalists?” 12/12/13

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Comment: Sometimes during the lesson you are asked absurd questions that are completely unrelated to the topic, and you patiently answer.

My Response: Because I see that it will benefit the group. This is my only criterion. Nothing else.

If it were up to me, I would be sitting in my room, not going out, and not talking to anyone. Absolutely with no one in the world. I am not interested in being popular or famous. I am not interested in screaming to the whole world to look at me.

I am invited to some appearances, to some famous places, but I do not want to go, only when there is a need for it and it helps disseminate the teaching, only then. Therefore, if I start talking in class or anywhere, it is only when I am sure that it will help the correction.
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. Ask a Kabbalist a Question” 3/6/13

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Comment: Usually when moralizing a person doesn’t help, he can be greatly influenced by the example of others.

My Response: Yes, only by example. That is right. Kabbalah uses it. The whole methodology comes from Kabbalah. That is why we need a society, a group, and friends.

Comment: It is not punishment that works, but an example, as you see the selfless work of others and you feel ashamed.

My Response: Yes. Shame, envy, and jealousy are good qualities. It feels like others succeed more than you, which spurs you on to good deeds.

You do hate, but you hate yourself, your own laziness. Then everything goes through its stages of development in a completely different way. How can we make the world feel it sooner before the blows because we have a very serious rod ahead hanging over us? I pity the people.

Advancement through suffering lengthens time. Imagine if the entire Second World War could have been passed in a week of intensive world congress with good interactions, inspiration, and everything else.

Why was such tremendous suffering necessary? We simply have no idea how to fit all this within ourselves; we cannot imagine it.

Question: Are the impressions we receive from suffering useful or not at all?

Answer: They are useful, but they come in a very painful way. Very small impressions that in practice do not lead to the right conclusions. What right conclusions have we come to after the Second World War? None.

Question: And if it had been a result of a week-long congress, would we have received the same impressions without suffering?

Answer: There is no need for suffering! It is not necessary. Only advancement toward better and better. We should advance only toward goodness.
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. A Living Example” 12/3/13

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Zohar for All “Introduction to The Book of Zohar,” “Who Created These of Elijah” 

Zohar for All “Introduction to The Book of Zohar,” “Mother Lends Her Clothes to Her Daughter”

Writings of Baal HaSulam “The Freedom”

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Michael Laitman, On Quora: “Why should adults also play every day?“

Playing is a very important means for development. When we play, we develop new relationships and connections.

While it is common knowledge that children need to play in order to develop, which is why we buy them games and put a lot of effort into working out the most suitable games for each stage of their development, it is not so clear with us adults. We do not really like to play. Our relations end up quickly deteriorating into each one of us degrading the other, which ends our playing.

As a result, we miss out on a lot of what we can get out of life. We fail to examine all of our options for development as adults, and we thus put a halt to our further development.

We have turned our daily lives into a prison of sorts. That is, we need to look, behave and talk in certain kinds of ways—and only in those certain kinds of ways—otherwise, we will not fit in with others and gain their respect. Without their respect, we get treated in ways that harm us. We suffer from living in such a prison, but it has become such an integrated part of our lives that we cannot escape from it.

The essence of our playing as adults should be that we treat each other positively even if we do not feel like it, and to teach others to do the same. Playing in such a way would emulate the higher state of positive connection that nature is developing us toward, and we would thus draw positive forces of connection that dwell in nature into our relations, and start feeling happier, more confident, and that our lives are purpose-driven.

Based on the video “Why Adults Should Play” with Kabbalist Dr. Michael Laitman and Oren Levi. Written/edited by students of Kabbalist Dr. Michael Laitman.
Photo by Annie Spratt on Unsplash.
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Michael Laitman, On The Times of Israel: “How to Conquer Fear – A Kabbalist’s Advice”

Just let the fear go. Don’t think about what will happen in the next moment.

We know nothing about what is truly going on in our lives. It is thus best for us to just let go. We hold such potential within us. Letting go of our fears requires some training, but we need it.

Fear comes from our will to control situations we find ourselves in, and when we cannot control them. When we let go of fear, we then seemingly control the situations from another end. For instance, take one of the most common fears: the fear of death. Our death is inevitable. Accepting the fact that we will certainly die, we can then imagine how the world will continue developing after we are gone, agree with that picture, and let go of any current fear we have.

There are no set steps, however, for how to let go of fear. It is different for each and every person. Some people start thinking along the lines of “What will happen to the world after I’m gone?” “How will my loved ones and my relatives continue their lives?” “What will happen with my inheritance?” and “How will my legacy unfold?” Faced by these questions, we need to make another correction—of our attitude toward life and death, which is behind our every fear.

We should transform our fears into an absolute surrender to the will of nature—the will bestow that created and sustains us—which requires us to make a certain kind of effort. We might still have to go through a lot of frightening moments until we reach the end of our earthly path, so we should try to calm ourselves down.

The laws of nature that created and sustain us, and which we are ultimately being led to discover, are in a state of absolute calmness and rest. We should thus aim to emulate nature’s calmness.

We are calm when we are not worried about what will happen in the next moment. It is a difficult point to express because it is not simply about flowing with the currents of life. On the contrary, we need to rely on the laws of nature that operate on us at every moment, which control everything and everyone.

Since we live within fixed and determined laws of nature that are in total control over our lives, then we have nothing to worry about. Do we want to interfere with the laws that are driving everyone and everything through corrections? Of course we don’t. We then might as well calm down and move on with our lives.

That state of calmness indicates agreement. It means that we agree with the laws of nature, which is quite difficult, because we always want to hold back, check what is happening in nature’s plans, and argue that maybe things should play out a bit differently.
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