Thus, one who connects with his wife should make peace with her and sweeten her with words. If he does not appease her, he will not stay the night with her because their desire must be as one, without coercion (Rashbi, Zohar for All, Beresheet – 2, “Reconciliation and Receiving Permission”).

The Book of Zohar talks about the kind of relationship a husband should have with his wife and how to earn her favor.

Question: Why does The Zohar specifically write that a man can earn his wife’s favor through his words?

Answer: How else? There is even a popular saying that a woman loves with her ears.

Comment: But on the other hand, a man proves his masculinity through actions and not words. They say that if you just talk, you are not a man.

My Response: You should act in a way that is comfortable and acceptable to her.

Question: What does The Zohar mean by “make peace with the wife”?

Answer: It means that a husband should seek to win her over, endear himself to her, lift her spirits, and then she will be favorable disposed toward him. The Book of Zohar and the Torah in general have much to say about how one should love their wife.
[332793]
From KabTV’s “Man and Women” 7/30/24

Related Material:
The State of Peace between Husband and Wife
Point of Connection Between Husband and Wife
Husband And Wife: Where Is The Creator Between Them?

Filed under: Man and Woman | Add Comment →