Question: In Kabbalah, the most fundamental spiritual state is restriction. What is a restriction? What are we restricting?
Answer: We restrict using our ego to the point where we can begin using it in the direction of bestowal and connection rather than in the direction of rejection and reception.
Egoism is our nature. If we want to begin sensing the spiritual world, meaning, what is not clothed in inanimate, vegetative, and animate matter, but seemingly beyond it, then we need to reorient ourselves and change the direction of using our qualities from reception to bestowal.
Question: Does this apply to all kinds of desires, particularly the basic ones: food, sex, and family?
Answer: A person must reach a state where he uses all his desires, both the basic and the rest of them, not for self-enjoyment. If these desires are necessary for our existence, which is called “neither praised nor condemned, “then we can use them.
The truth is the restriction is placed on the intention. Therefore, I can use everything necessary for the functioning of my body, there are no restrictions on this. It will not hinder your entrance into the upper world.
From KabTV’s “Spiritual States” 11/16/21