Question: Psychologists believe that a person always looks back, agonizes over his past, and cannot break free of this. People dwell on their mistakes and what they should have done differently. They feel the pain of it over and over again and are unable to break free from this vicious cycle.
We have a letter from a lonely, elderly woman who writes about how frightening and lonely it is to live particularly in this pandemic. She is home alone unable to escape the thoughts of her past: her divorce and two abortions, one because of her career and the other when she decided she was too old to give birth. She writes, “And here I am alone; it is cold outside my window, cold inside, and I feel terribly cold in my heart, and the thoughts of my sins and mistakes, there’s no escaping them.”
What can we say to her, after all she is constantly looking back to the past and lives in this past? Why are we given all this suffering?
Answer: The fact that a person agonizes over the past, this too is a correction. Don’t worry, there was nothing personal about it.
Question: How can a person understand this?
Answer: It is impossible. Here you need to work on yourself. It is practically impossible for an ordinary person to agree with the Creator.
Comment: But it will make my life easier if I understand that this was not done by me, that I was led this way.
My Response: You cannot just do it, turn on some kind of switch.
Comment: True, you cannot.
My Response: This is given to her on purpose. These are not her thoughts, not her feelings. All these sensations must pass through her system, through her body. And in this is her redemption, in a way.
Question: Is this given to a person for correction? One must go through it, relive one’s life again, come back, and realize that he’s made many mistakes. Although it wasn’t him who made them.
Answer: It was not him who made them, and neither is it him who is now trying to condemn or justify all this with his consciousness. None of it is him! Never mind. But it all goes through him, so let it happen.
Question: Why is it considered prohibited to look back to the past?
Answer: Because there is no sense in it.
Question: Can people convince themselves that there is no sense in looking back to their past and stop doing it?
Answer: You will still look back until you correct yourself. Until when? Until one fully agrees with the Creator! And this is complete adhesion with the Creator, for everything: for the past, for the good and bad, for absolutely everything. When one justifies the Creator absolutely in everything, this is the final correction of a person.
Question: You mean a person must come to this truth? To fully justify?
Answer: Yes. To completely agree.
Question: With what has happened and what is happening now?
Answer: Yes. This is called the “complete correction of one’s egoism.”
A person should not look back. He should not agonize or reproach himself for something he did, and at the same time, not praise himself for anything. In other words, one should not keep account of when he did something well or of times when he did not do so well.
Question: So my life was either of a hero or of a sinner?
Answer: My life is not mine. And now, finally, I can say that what I have lived was not lived by me. It went through me. But it wasn’t me. That’s how I was led. My life, this is how I saw it in my dreams. It wasn’t me, it all passed like a dream. Therefore, we have to agree with it; nothing else is required. Only to agree.
And this too doesn’t matter either. Whatever is done to a person is done. And what he feels during it is what he feels. It is not him who feels it, but what is felt for him, in a way.
Question: Then tell me, please, in conclusion: what is our life?
Answer: Our life is a form of existence of protein matter. 🙂
Answer: We still take from this life its Reshimot — memories, impressions. And we keep going. A great number of small grains of egoism, that is, corrupted desire that the Creator created, gradually go through purification, correction, and unification.
Question: So these little egoisms, the 7 to 8 billion that are out there, they live their lives precisely in order to come to this?
Answer: Hell, purgatory, and paradise, like Dante’s.
Hell is a feeling, a recognition of one’s egoism, its insignificance. And everything else that we can add here.
Purgatory is when a person tries to correct it, to purify it. And paradise is when one turns one’s egoism to work in the service of others.
These are the three stages we have to go through.
Question: So with all our lifetimes we are approaching this last, third stage?
Answer: Yes. Therefore, if people understand what these three stages are: hell, purgatory and paradise, that is, the comprehension of egoism, its correction, and its proper usage, then everything is fine. We will keep trying.
From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 12/14/20