Answer: First you discover that they are your desires, and that you are in them and they manage you. When you try to exit them and ascend above them, you begin to understand that they actually control you and that they are not your desires, but that it is your evil landlord, your ego, and thus you gradually exit them.
Question: Can a Kabbalist, unlike ordinary people, impact and choose which desire, which thoughts, will be revealed in him the next moment?
Answer: No, but he can choose which thought or which desire he will obey, and not just obey, but use and fulfill according to his discretion.
From KabTV’s “Fundamentals of Kabbalah,” 11/17/19