Answer: Controlling your destiny is very simple. You must draw the Ohr Makif (Surrounding Light), the Light that Reforms, in order to resemble the Creator. When we know the right method for drawing the Light, we become the masters of our own destiny and fulfill it.
We awaken and draw the Upper Light, and it actually performs the necessary change, not we ourselves. After all, we cannot pull ourselves out of the swamp by our own hair, which is our egoism, by ourselves.
What is more, we don’t know what the next right state is, so we can only attract the Light. How can we draw the Light from the upper level? To do this, we are given a group. If we are incorporated in collective unity with each other, we artificially create our next state on the level of this world, and then the Upper Light fulfills it.
From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 6/9/16