Answer: You do understand what they want because they want the same thing that you want. They want to reach correction, to discover the force that operates in nature. This force is called general nature, and all of creation belongs to it.
So you want what your friend wants. Besides, everyone has different corporeal desires that may be known to us, everyone has his own personal worldly desires that have nothing to do with spirituality. But in terms of the sublime, spiritual desires and goals, you should be clear about what happens with the friend; so try to support him.
The support is to raise the friend’s spirits and give him hope and power and a feeling of elation in attaining the goal. Help him in every way possible. Evoke in him the feeling of how great the goal and the upper are.
Show him how you can humble yourself before the group, since it is only the small that can receive from the group, and so everyone must lower himself before the group in order to receive something from it.
There is a spiritual force in the group that resides among us. The group wasn’t founded by us. It only seems to us that we have gathered by ourselves and formed this group. Of course it isn’t true! The upper force arranges the group for us; so don’t think that we have found one another just by chance. It is all done by the action of the general force that brings us together.
Therefore, we have to understand that on the one hand, there is a hidden force that operates among us, but on the other hand, we have to act according to it in order to gradually approach it and begin to feel it. Then we can start the mutual work among us.
Thus by the changes in us, we gradually begin to approach the revelation of the upper force by taking on its attributes bit by bit. Then we discover these attributes in us and this means that we discover the upper force.
From the 1st part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 10/12/12, Writings of Rabash