Question: If I see that my husband doesn’t appreciate me, do I have to put this feeling aside?

Answer: No, you shouldn’t extinguish the feeling, but try to rise above it. You establish such an attitude regarding your husband that is as if you are receiving absolute love from him.

Question: Should I share my feelings with him?

Answer: Yes, of course. Tell him, “According to my nature, egoistically, I feel that I am not getting enough love and care from you. You don’t care about me like you used to; you don’t bring me flowers; you don’t show that you care. We don’t live the way we used to when we were young, when we were happy together and used to spend more time together. Today, it is as if each one is sitting in his corner and my demands from you have grown to such an extent that it’s as if they are filling our whole mutual relations.

But I don’t want anything from you except for one thing: Instead of complaining to one another, let’s present the complaints to ourselves. Let’s see each other’s deficiencies as our own. Let’s do this psychological exercise.

This exercise will help each one see his partner as perfect and yourself as not so perfect. Then above all our flaws, we will try to treat each other like partners, this is the actual wholeness. Eventually, despite everything that’s going on, I will treat you only with love, like a mother treats her child according to the principle “Love covers all transgressions.”

I demand the same thing from my partner, since his attitude towards me will increase my attitude towards him. I also need a good and correct model from him so he has to treat our efforts in the work above the ego seriously. The better my partner’s example is, the higher and more important he will seem to me, and the more respect I will feel towards him. This will give me the power to repay him to the same extent.

On the one hand, I have to raise my partner in my eyes and to appreciate the model he portrays. After all, he overcomes his impulses, and at the exact same time I discover a “weakness” as my ego pulls me by the legs downwards and doesn’t allow me to rise above myself. On the other hand, I should always be responsible and be a model for my partner and thereby empower him. Thus we become models for each other. Each one tries to be both the other’s teacher and student at the same time; once he raises his head and once he lowers it. This mutual support is already the right equal mutual connection. Thereby our mutual interdependence is revealed.

We have to discover the benefit that we get time after time, the new system of our mutual relations that is based on mutual concessions and on each one overcoming himself. We rise to the level of mutual love by leaving the mutual complaints below, but we don’t destroy anything and don’t “sweep under the carpet” anything, but only build something new from the same blocks, the same inner urges that constantly increase the ego.

Therefore, we constantly feel mutually dependent. I have to constantly support my partner and be a model of overcoming, and I need the same thing from him. Thus we become true partners against our common ego, against our common enemy, which we call the “serpent.” By confronting it we begin to get closer to each other and this makes us one whole.
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From a “Talk on Integral Upbringing” 7/11/12”

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Question: Why is it so important that the 99% of the population, in any case, reach integral unity? Is it possible to say that if they unite, then they will receive a form in which it will be possible to transfer the inner force from the 1%?

Answer: Absolutely correct. If people exist within the egoistic breakage, then it is impossible to transfer anything to them. Furthermore, we need to not only transfer this energy to them, this knowledge, but to draw them into the same state.

This means that 1% of the 100% of humanity does this actively, in connection with the upper force, in disclosure of the upper force within them.

And 99% of the inhabitants on the earth do this in a more passive way, by building integral relations, under the new integral conditions: “How can we, “squares,” “ triangles,” “rectangles,” transform into circles in harmony with the new world, to the new demands.

When they think about this and receive education and learning from the 1%, then gradually they turn into integral people. They begin to understand, in a natural way, what this new world is, and they discover the same upper force that the 1% discovered. The upper force operates and is revealed to them through the 1% of humanity, which constitute its “conductor.”

It isn’t some kind of artificial system, essentially, the same thing happening in our world. If we look at our world and dissect it as a pyramid, then we would see that only 1% operates it, creates, and dares. All the rest are the receivers. They participate physically, but actually they use the profits obtained from above, and only add to this their “fertilizer,” their strength.
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From a “Talk on Integral Upbringing” 5/29/12

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Question: In the process of the workshops, the practical work on integral upbringing is being implemented. While these workshops are conducted not only for the 1% of the population who are working on the correction of themselves and the world, but also for the 99%. Both of these groups hold discussions in circles of ten people. What is the difference in this work for these two groups?

Answer: The difference is that in the circle of Kabbalists, the intention is directed towards unity among each other. They long to create a common desire in this unity, which would summon the emergence of the governing force of Nature that is hidden from us.

However, when regular people gather into a circle, they focus on the emergence of a common desire among them in which they would see the solution of their earthly problems.

They have no incentive for contact with the upper force, the inner force of Nature, which moves, controls everything, and leads it forward, but they also lack such a relationship, understanding, and aspiration for this. That is, they consider nature as simply, nature, and since we have arrived in our development at such a state, then now we should simply find how to further arrange ourselves in order for everything to be normal, that’s it.

These people discuss among themselves all of their material problems: the upbringing of children, family, work, the disparity in income, social security, health insurance, and how we can settle all of that. They establish government, international, or even worldwide roundtables, where all of that is gradually being discussed and clarified: how we see the solutions of these problems, based on our unity. This is what they should lead to.

As they participate in unity events, they will begin to change. By exchanging their impressions about unity and becoming more imbued with unity, they will go further, and through the force of unity, they will gradually change all of our past egoistic structures.

But the Kabbalists will work on the attraction of the upper force and the manifestation of it in their unity. It will show and reveal the hidden levels of the world, and as a result, they will see what to do and how to solve everything in this world. However, the most important point for them is for the upper force to evidently fill them, give them their new states of bestowal, love and mind, that, which it possesses.
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From a “Talk on Integral Upbringing, 5/29/12

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First of all, we need integral education where, based on many facts, on the opinions of scientists, researchers, and political scientists, we describe and clearly show people where we really are.

A person doesn’t know anything about life outside of his work, soccer, beer, and all those things seem a matter of course. He cannot even imagine that if one day, suddenly the connection between us would break, then all of this wouldn’t exist: not what we see surrounding us, not what we have at home! That is, without international trade, political, cultural, or military exchanges, no matter at what levels, nothing would exist.

First, integral education speaks about the path we went through in evolution, and were locked into. And today we are not able to open up. On the contrary, the evolution continues; every day, nations and countries, and all kinds of civilizations are tied together tighter and tighter, and the only thing that we can do is to learn to exist in an integral way.

But it becomes evident that the countries don’t know how to do this. We see this in examples of the common market, international banks, etc. So what can be said about simple women’s and children’s organizations, and even educational institutions where everyone pulls the “blanket” to himself? It turns out that in these cultural and educational organizations it isn’t possible to come to something common. Each one pulls towards itself, and each one thinks it is greater, better, and that the others should listen to it.

And mostly important is that the system is moving forward and is closing, joining, and tightening in each of the cogwheels, even the smallest one. Thus, everyone depends on the other.

If today you approach a simple farmer from China, Russia, Europe, or American who grows rice or potatoes or produces milk or meat, etc., he would tell you that one needs to do this or that because in the world certain things take place: Argentina produces meat, China something else, and so on.

I often come across this. Not long ago I was in South and North America and spoke with people who are involved in agriculture. They have a huge awareness about what is happening in the world in this field and not only in their area, but in related fields.

Today, a farmer who grows, let’s say red peppers, knows all the scientific news that is relevant to the cultivation of red peppers and is fully aware of what is happening in the world in this field. It turns out that a person is constantly closed and completely dependent on others. He knows that if somewhere something happens or if his crop would be lost because no one needs it, then in the end, he himself will become poor.

This means that the general feeling of dependence reaches even the smallest farmsteads, and in the coming years it will reach even the ordinary people.
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From a “Talk on Integral Upbringing” 5/29/12

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Question: What exactly do you mean when you say that nature’s plan has changed? How can we explain to ordinary people what exactly has changed?

Answer: We must simply show a person some movies about the interconnection of the people in the world, so that he will have a clear picture of human connections on all levels—not on the scientific cultural levels, which are remote to ordinary people, but on the technological, industrial, and commercial levels—different forms of mutual guarantee.

First, we should show a person the need for connection on the level of basic necessities: He will not be able to take care of himself or his children if he is not well connected integrally with the world. If I depend on others, I have to be in good relations with others, if they feel good, I will feel good too. This means that we have to understand that there is no other way to exist.

So what’s the problem? Why can’t we exist the way we should? Why can’t we lower the exorbitant prices of goods, of transport, of connection? Why can’t we stop the allocation of half our budget to security if we are so closely connected? Why is health care so expensive that we have to sell extra pills? Why have we developed so many redundant and harmful things? Perhaps we have to shake off all this and reach a normal common denominator?!

We have to study nature, to focus all our efforts on that, and accordingly accept the laws of behavior of human society. We must spread the method of the integral society worldwide and thus gradually change our environment, so that it will influence every individual in society.

Our society has to be general, integral, and not divided by borders and nationalities, which actually don’t exist any more. It’s all only symbolic in the era of modern technology, with modern transportation etc. After all, whom do these borders protect, and who needs them? Who wants to conquer whom?! Today millions of immigrants move from place to place!

We have to arrange all this gradually and sensibly. Then in several decades, we will be able to build a totally egalitarian society. We have all the options, especially if we are free of all the unnecessary expenses.

We have to present this to people and gradually let them understand the importance and the need for our connection through TV series, theater plays, songs, teaching materials in schools, courses during work hours in different companies, etc. We have to take the social and the public relations work very seriously. This must simply be the obligation of every member in the group.

This obligation will of course be completed by the importance of the goal and publicity. All the important people and celebrities will have to show how involved and supportive they are by feeling that importance of facing nature’s call. It isn’t some political party or an individual who wants to climb to the top. No one intends to rule or to achieve anything, it’s simply us, the people on this planet who are facing this need.
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From a “Talk on Integral Upbringing” 5/29/12

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Question: The Chinese wisdom talks about two forces, the Yin and the Yang, which represent the negative and positive, or the female and male beginnings. Is this somehow connected to Kabbalistic concepts? Where did these notions come from?

Answer: This is open to everyone. Our world consists of two opposite forces, manifesting in all areas and on all levels. Their balance defines the state of the matter, and the level defines its essence, expressed in the still, vegetative, animate, or human nature. Everything depends on the correlation of the opposite forces in the system and their interconnection. In the still matter, their balance is unchangeable, in the vegetative one, it obtains dynamics and begins to change, and on the animate and human levels, this dynamic increases.

What the Chinese sages discovered thousands of years ago is true. Throughout history, it has also been discovered in other parts of the world. However, this has no relationship to spirituality. This is about the phenomena of our world, accessible by experiments with the help of traditional science that is based on the intention for the sake of receiving.

On the other hand, the spiritual is the intention for the sake of bestowal. It is completely detached from our calculations, from the nature of our world. Here, the science of Kabbalah plays the role of the means, an instrument, a “device,” allowing a person to raise from the reality of receiving to the reality of bestowal. Kabbalah explains how to pass this border between receiving and bestowal, and further on, the soul of a person teaches him, since he already knows what it is about.

There is no other methodology, capable of implementing this transformation, this inversion in a person to cross him over the Rubicon. By myself, I cannot destroy my natural egoism inside of me, but Kabbalah offers me the opportunity to summon the external force, which will change me for bestowal in order for me to place my neighbor higher than myself and by that means to be giving him pleasure.

Today, the neighbor does not matter to me, to say the least, not even talking about hate or the selfish use of him. In reality, it is hate that turns into love, and the more of it, the more love it is able to splash out. However, besides Kabbalah, there is no other means in the world with the help of which we can summon that force from above, which will change our view of things.

“Let’s help each other,” the enthusiastic benefactors suggest, and we must really beware of that so that we would not be placed in the same line as them. As opposed to them, we are not utopians. On the contrary, we say that human nature is bad. At the roundtables we experience the need for unity for a moment and immediately we discover that we cannot and do not even want that.

Then we arrive at the two extremes. On the one hand, it is worth it for us to unite, but on the other hand, we are not capable of doing that. So what to do? This is the real question, and one has yet to arrive at this question.

We explain it little by little, to the extent that people are able to receive it and to bear it. We are not saying that it is impossible to unite by our own means until they see it themselves. We will later have to bring in some changes into our practice, into the joint events, seminars, roundtables, the education system, and integral education and upbringing. Gradually, we will develop the methodology.

In any case, there is no other path for the world, and there cannot be any. However deeply Yin and Yang may be known, it will not give us the solution. However, they can entirely be used as a starting point for our dissemination in China.
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From the 3^rd part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 7/15/12, The Study of the Ten Sefirot

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Light is an impression within the desire, a special phenomenon within the vessel, and so I feel and identify it. It says that every Light that ever appeared on a certain level remains there. This means that all the states that were within the matter of creation, which we call “Light” or the opposite “darkness,” all the individual impressions, always remain within the desire and exist in it simultaneously, without interrupting each other.

It’s like the air that is filled with millions of radio waves that don’t interrupt one another since they are on different frequencies. They don’t collide with each other. The same thing happens in the vessel that includes even more components. Everything that ever took place in it remains within the vessel and the vessels are incorporated in each other from the first to the last.

This means that in every vessel there are all the other vessels and also all their states. But the point here is not the quantity. The quality is not a result of the quantity, but it comes above it when I rise above this immense quantity of impressions to the one operator who summons them. Thus, I draw the Light that turns all this quantity into one.

No additional quantity will generate a new quality. You can even count to Ein Sof (Infinity). There is no limit to the rational numbers. There are physical numbers that are expressed by irrational numbers and so can’t be expressed accurately, since they include an infinite number of digits after the decimal point, like the number pi, for example. It’s these fixed and irrational numbers that show us the elements of nature. But by attaining the limits of the numerical approach, a person demands the new qualitative approach.
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From the 3^rd part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 7/10/12, The Study of the Ten Sefirot

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Opinion (Nikita N. Moiseyev, prominent Soviet and Russian mathematician, full member of the Soviet and Russian Academies of Sciences): “Setting the task: We need to explain that people are also part of Nature, and we follow its laws, its logic. And a violation of this logic is destructive to society. Already at the first lecture, we should explain that a person has free will that may open the future for him, and at the same time, it can be deadly for him. And we need to learn to just talk about this duality, this contradiction, which is the essence of the science about man and his behavior in nature, the ambiguity of its reactions, the essence of intelligence.

“There should be different views: The difference between people, their living conditions, produces a difference of interpretation. And these differences should not be feared. They help to see the subject from different angles.

“The human being belongs to the system: The Universe is a system, that is, a collection of interconnected elements. The solar system, Earth, and the Human Being are part of this system. This human being, belonging to the system, can study its properties only from the inside, just what is available around him.

“That’s why people are able to comprehend only some of the properties of the Universe. And it will always be so: No matter how science advances, only the smallest facts about it will be available to us. We will always know only a fraction of what the Universe means, only the finite part of an infinite set.

“Periods of calm replace inevitable catastrophes: To understand the present, let alone look beyond the horizon, is possible only by knowing the process of formation of human species, as a biological type, its culture and civilization in general. We need to know the origins and characteristics of self-organization processes of the biosphere, which have created a man. And we already know a lot. We know, for example, that the periods of calm replaced inevitable disasters that direct development to new channels.

“Mowgli would not become a man: The phenomenon of the spiritual world is the effect of evolutionary development, not biological, but social. I would specifically analyze an example like Mowgli and explain why he could never become a man. Did Freud understand this?

“The multiplicity of society: It is important to explain the phenomenon of multiculturalism as a guarantee of the stability of society, as an analogue of biological diversity. For this purpose, it is convenient to use the example of Rousseau’s argument and show where he was right and where he was wrong.”
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Question: How important is for everyone who arrives at the Kharkov Convention to participate in the workshops?

Answer: Everyone without exception must participate! Workshops are more important than lectures! The workshops are the spiritual practice through which a person enters with the help of the group, within it, like in a means of transportation into the spiritual world. He will not arrive anywhere without the workshops. Nowhere! It’s a pity to come to the convention and not participate in the workshop; it just will not work.
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From a Virtual Lesson on Fundamentals of Kabbalah: “Harkov 2012″ 7/8/12

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