Answer: Instead of eliminating the bad qualities, you should turn them into their opposite. But you need the Light to do that; “here, you cannot get by with gifts instead of a fight.” I must change internally in such a way so my bad quality is turned into its exact antithesis.
Question: Suppose, I have a “short fuse” and I’m already itching for a fight, when I fly into a rage at someone, I get angry at myself for being angry. What would be my correction in this case? Will I stop getting angry?
Answer: No, you will be angry, but for different reasons because anger itself is not necessarily bad. All people are different, and the Light gives everyone his own line. You cannot correct what seems bad to you now to what seems good to you now because you are guided by egoistic criteria. While egoism sits in the judgment-seat, you cannot see the truth.
Only the Light will show you what is good and what is bad, and then it will give you an opportunity to decide what you prefer. It leaves the middle third of Tifferet, the middle line, with the scales set in the middle. It is said that a person always should see himself half-guilty and half-righteous. This is what you will feel with the help of the Light.
But now you are in the “bubble” of egoism, and if you decide yourself, you will be like the “world reformers,” all those smart people who from morning till night utter proclamations and warnings, building a system of education on the fear of punishment. They have nothing, but this. They are egoists, and so is their following.
Unlike them, we do nothing without the Reforming Light. The desire to receive has no mind, feeling, and strength for the correct decision, only fear remains, and it runs away from the truth. As a consequence, conflicts are exacerbated, and people grow apart.
From the 4th part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 2/8/12, “Introduction to the Study of the Ten Sefirot”