Answer: By working on yourself and outer dissemination. Inner work is unity between us. And in dissemination we need to make our message more and more comprehensive—for ourselves and for others.
If a person doesn’t know what he is talking about himself, it is better if he keeps quiet. He certainly will not benefit others. In that case, it’s true that our words will go in one ear and out the other. The fact is that they are not connected to the heart. We are still “yackety-yacking”—we haven’t immersed ourselves in them with our desires and feelings. We simply say what we’ve heard or read.
If you place yourself, your sacred desire, into your words…if they flow out of your desire in order to then clothe into formulations and reach the ears of another being, then this chain stretches out from your desire to another. After all, the desire is the foundation of the creature. However, if your words are initiated higher and if their roots do not reach the most important thing, then on the other side they also will not reach the goal and will vanish without leaving a trace in the person. This is why our dissemination is so weak.
Question: So what can we do for our words to flow directly from the desire, from the heart?
Answer: You just answered yourself: They need to come from the heart, from heart to heart.
If you don’t feel what you are about to say, don’t say anything. And if you feel, even gibberish will work. This is because there is feeling and inspiration in this gibberish and your companion will feel this warmth. “This person doesn’t know how to express himself,” he’ll think, “but I can tell that his whole life is in this.” Real feelings are valued and empty words leave people indifferent regardless of the strain in the voice.
From the 1st part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 12/19/11, Writings of Baal HaSulam, “The Freedom”