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New Life 757 – Terminology Of Love

New Life 757 – Terminology Of Love
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Yael Leshed-Harel

The Torah tells us about the internal forces that are revealed in a person who corrects himself. Men represent the ability to draw that Light that Reforms, the force that corrects the ego into the attribute of love and bestowal. The connection between a man and a woman represents a corrected system, which means a desire to receive over which an intention to bestow has been applied. Spiritual partnership is a system in which the two forces of nature are connected, the force that receives and the force that gives.

Heroism is the ability to overcome yourself, the ego, and instead of drawing for yourself moving to love everyone. Love is the strongest egoistic desire imprinted in us resulting from the upper spiritual root. Love in our world is self-love, while in the spiritual world it is the exact opposite, love of others, love thy friend as thyself.

The term “I am love sick” refers to the great desire to fill others that is impossible to implement yet. The wisdom of Kabbalah enables us to draw the Light that Reforms that develops the desire to love and the ability to reach unconditional love.

When a person who loves others does not need to receive anything in return from the loved one since the love is whole in the two inclinations—the good and the evil—so that our whole ego works for the benefit of others. All this takes place in a group of Kabbalists who establish a connection that draws the Light that Reforms and builds the attribute of love and bestowal.

The formula for that is “love will cover all our transgressions”; the ego and the hatred grow, and above them we build love between us. A person’s soul is built of two layers, infinite hatred and above it infinite love; our evolutionary process actually leads us to hatred in order to force us to learn to love.
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From KabTV’s “New Life 757 – Terminology Of Love,” 8/9/16

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Answers To Your Questions, Part 138

laitman_543_02Question: Can you give some advice about the education of children, particularly when aggression between them is revealed?  How should we direct them correctly?

Answer: Always imagine yourself in their place.

Question from my Facebook : I am very interested in your opinion and the attitude of the wisdom of Kabbalah regarding handicapped children and their parents.

Answer: Sympathy and affection.
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New Life 761 – Love Completes Me

New Life 761 – Love Complements Me
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Yael Leshed-Harel

Naturally we only want to receive and we give only when giving brings us pleasure.  If I loved people the way I love my children, I could give to them and also enjoy my giving. When I cannot give the person I love what he needs, such love is painful.

Therefore, we are afraid of losing love since it is a source of pleasure for us, and without feeling loved a person feels that he doesn’t exist.

The human image in us is built from the sum of the impressions we have of other people, including our spouses, we are like one unit absorbing impressions from other people.

People usually cannot feel whole by themselves, meaning without a partner in life. This is the way nature made us. Our partner is supposed to complement us into an image of a whole human being, although today everything is disrupted.

In a perfect connection, a couple feels that although the world around them is in turmoil, they feel as one man in one heart. At the peak of our evolution as human beings we will feel love between us all, a perfect connection, and then we will feel the upper world.
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From KabTV’s “New Life 761 – Love Complements Me,” 8/16/16

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New Life 458 – The Roots Of The Eternal Anti-Semitism Until The End Of Correction, Part 2

New Life 458 – The Roots Of The Eternal Anti-Semitism Until The End Of Correction, Part 2
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Yael Leshed-Harel

Question: There are many legitimate claims against Israel today. Do you think that it is because of anti-Semitism, anti-Zionism, or political disagreements?

Answer: The reason is not political differences. People simply don’t want to be connected to Israel or the people of Israel. They cannot erase their identity and cease to be Jews, but they can at least make every effort to avoid being declared Zionists. They can deny Zionism, but they cannot escape their Jewish origin. Therefore, they try to shake off at least any connection to Zionism.

Comment: But they have specific complaints against Israel regarding their political stand and their policy regarding human rights.

Answer: Anti-Semites hide behind seemingly justified claims. An anti-Semite cannot admit that he hates me just because I am a Jew, so he finds a whole host of excuses that justify his hatred.

The most justified accusation that anti-Semites make is that the Jews are responsible for all the troubles in the world. This claim is justified and I agree! I am ready to agree with them because the Jews are indeed the reason for all the troubles in the world.

If the Jews fulfilled their role in the world, if they returned to mutual love and set an example for the world and all of humanity, if they fulfilled the plan of creation, they could become a positive force in the world. But now they are a negative force.

Question: What would happen to natural anti-Semitism if the Jews returned to love and bestowal?

Answer: If we returned to love and mutual bestowal and taught this to the whole world, we would become Light unto the nations of the world. Then anti-Semitism would disappear since the nations of the world would feel internally that the Jews are finally doing what they have to do.

The nations of the world do not know what the role of the Jews is, but they would see that the Jews have to teach them how to use the second force of nature, the force of altruistic love that corrects and calm the whole world and raises it to a different level, to the spiritual dimension, to the whole and eternal world.

Question: What would happen to the natural hatred in the heart of anti-Semites?

Answer: They wouldn’t feel any hatred. On the contrary, they would feel love and would thank the Jews for existing and for teaching them. The nations of the world want to learn from us.

Their complaints that the Jews are responsible for all their problems actually mean that they cannot do anything against the Jews. The Jews are only 0.2% of the world population, but see all the troubles they cause everyone. No one knows what to do with this nation.

It is scattered all over the world, but it is the cause of problems everywhere. No one in the world doesn’t worry about the Jews. They don’t talk about the Chinese or the South Americans, although there are billions of them. But a few million are always at the center of the global dispute.

This situation can change, however, by 180 degrees to the good side. After all, the peoples of the world will feel that we are teachers who teach them how to live well, and this is exactly what they expect of the Jews.

Listen to what they tell us and declare clearly: all the evil in the world stems from the Jews. This can actually be translated to different words “we are weak and the Jews are strong. Look at what they are doing to us. We are small and they are big because they can destroy the life of all the people in the world. They are merely 15 million and see what they are doing to the other seven billion people. Can it be? But this is exactly what is happening and we don’t know what to do with them!”

The nations of the world tell us that they are weak and that they depend on us. If we show them what we have, if we wish to convey it to them by setting an example, their attitude will change immediately.

If we wish to pass it on to them just like that, it will not work. They will think that we want to cheat them again. This is the reason that we first have to arrange a good life among us as a model for the other nations. This is called being Light unto the nations of the world. The nations of the world will want to learn this from us. We have to be a kingdom of priests, which means being the global ministry of education.

Comment: Unfortunately we are running out of time…

Answer: That’s very true! And this is the reason that we have to urgently decide what we are going to do!
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From KabTV’s “New Life 458 – The Roots Of The Eternal Anti-Semitism Until The End Of Correction, Part 2,” 11/25/14

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New Life 457 – The Roots Of The Eternal Anti-Semitism Until The End Of Correction, Part 1

New Life 457 – The Roots Of The Eternal Anti-Semitism Until The End Of Correction, Part 1
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Yael Leshed-Harel

The news reports the number of attacks on Jews throughout the world is growing. Anti-Semitism is on the rise.

Recently an outrageous incident happened in Auckland, when on the way from kindergarten, a child wearing a yarmulke was struck on his head by a jeering youth.

More and more French Jews are immigrating to Israel. The British newspaper The Guardian reports that the situation today is the worst since the second world war. All surveys and studies testify to the worsening situation.

Question: It is difficult for us to accept the fact that this is not the primitive outcome of desperate people on the periphery of society, but ordinary people in Western society. All of this, to our great surprise, is again raising fears that seem to be forgotten with the Holocaust.

It is very difficult to get used to this, we don’t understand how this could be. Still, we need to understand what is happening. What are the roots of this phenomenon, the next wave of which we are experiencing?

Answer: First of all, it must be said that the Jews who were born in Israel are not able of understanding what anti-Semitism is.

A few weeks ago in an Israeli-American convention in Washington, I had a discussion with a very famous Israeli who often appears on television. He sat next to me and wanted to prove to everyone that there was no anti-Semitism in the world, that for Jews it only seems to exist. In other words, he himself doesn’t feel the phenomenon that is apparently so very clear.

This is a very typical example of Israelis who have lived their lives as “first class” citizens of their country. They are simply incapable of understanding the anti-Semitism that exists outside of Israel.

On the other hand, I lived abroad for almost thirty years. It is were I was born, went to kindergarten, school, and university, I worked there. In other words, I went through all these stages and constantly felt this phenomenon myself. My entire life there passed on a background of anti-Semitism on a personal and social level where you realize you are a “second class citizen.” Everyone is above you and you must internalize that this is your place. All possibilities of advanced professional studies are impossible for you; your potential is low from the start. And everywhere you need to build a special system of relationships with others.

All of this was very clear, and this is what shaped the person through general social pressure, so the question whether anti-Semitism exists doesn’t even arise in you. You simply live within it and know how to behave in accordance with reality.

These were the years that passed in the “shadow” of the Second World War, meaning, a period that was good enough for Jews in the world.

But in recent years, anti-Semitism has returned, and everyone is justifying and supporting it again. Anti-Semitism has become international and global; it is coming to be expressed in the accepted fanaticism of billions of people. It is impossible that this phenomenon is directed by a specific strength. No, this is a historical phenomenon that has always existed.

Everything began with Abraham who built his group according to a desire to live in love and unity, not in competition. This was an aspiration to rise above the natural human egoism, to live above it, with bestowal and love of others. In this way the group of Abraham became detached from Ancient Babylon and established itself in contrast to Babylon, meaning in contrast to the whole world. At its foundation, in its heart, this group was contrary to humanity from the start.

After all, the whole world lived according to its own egoism, and developed on the basis of competition and narrowness. Narcissism pushed everyone toward development.

On the other hand, Abraham taught his students in a completely different way. As one of the main ideologies in Babylon, he spread his call everywhere, and explained the way to get out of the crisis that had erupted in that period.

And this crisis was caused by hatred, a sharp rise in egoism. People suddenly realized that they could no longer stand each other and were ready to devour one another, even though they lived as one family in the past. They didn’t know what to do with this unexpected conflict.

And so, after studying the subject, Abraham understood that the reason for the crisis was the eruption of the ego.

There were two solutions to this situation, two ways to organize life:
-Either people would move away from one another and separate, like couples who divorce.
-Or they would rise above the ego.

According to Abraham, we must understand that the ego has grown in us so that we would overcome it. Despite our narcissism, we need to achieve love, mutual understanding, and unity among us.

Only a handful of people heard him, a few tens of thousands, according to Maimonides. They felt that this was so, but they didn’t understand how to implement the right solution. Abraham explained to them what was happening and its essence. Nature, according to his words, ultimately encourages people to unite in spite of the egoism. It separates between us, and nature would push us from the outside until we are obligated to connect.

However, in that period there were still two possibilities. People could disperse all over the globe, and in this way they could appease the mutual hatred that was caused by the ego, or they could unite above the egoism and be like brothers.

Every person chose what was closest to his heart. And there were people who understood that Abraham was right, that it was preferable not to scatter in all directions but to work with the ego. “This is a destructive force, and it is up to us to treat it—to rise above it and connect with one another in a good way, with love. That is how we will organize life.”

In addition, Abraham explained to them that this is not just about coexisting in a good way, but it is the goal of creation. After thousands of years everyone would reach the same thing because this is a natural tendency leading everyone to balance, to unity, to reciprocity, to equivalence of form.

The people who understood that this was the truth joined Abraham. They already had a basis for this internally, an appropriate form of development.

But until then, Abraham had himself supported the egoistic force; he sold statues of idols and served his people as a religious priest. He was a wise person, and his father Terah was the highest ideologue of Babylon next to King Nimrod.

But suddenly the son stood up against the father and against the king, and left the country with his group for the land of Canaan. That is how the Jewish people was created.

So basically we are not a people in the ordinary sense of the word. We have been the group of Abraham until this very day. Nothing has changed: “Jews” are not a nation; rather, this is an ideology, a worldview, a perception of life and reality. And the main thing is that this is work on the attainment of the goal of this reality. It is from here that the name “Israel” is derived, meaning “straight to a higher power” (Yashar-El).

Since then, hatred by the Babylonians, from whom they separated, has existed. This is a natural hatred latent in the nature of every person. After all, the ego, as mentioned, hates the altruism, love, mutuality, and unity that characterizes the group called Israel, in its original form.

But on the other hand, this group was open to others, and anyone could join.

Over the course of hundreds of years, the Babylonians who belonged to the camp of Nimrod grew to encompass present humanity. In his writings, Josephus Flavius described how different tribes left Babylon, eventually to include the entire world.

Moreover, hatred of the group of Abraham didn’t leave them. After all, the people who followed Abraham left to explore the mysteries of life and learned to use the two forces: the natural force of the ego and the anti-egoistic, altruistic force, that they discovered in the world.

Thanks to this, a person penetrates more deeply into nature, learns its secrets, knows how to investigate it, and with this finds the approach to all of reality, to the entire universe. He becomes wiser, more successful, he has a deeper understanding. In particular, on the physical level he also knows how to manage, how to build the foundations of the nation, to take care of the royal treasury in the nations in which they are living, how to achieve success in science, to receive Nobel Prizes….

To the degree that the group of Abraham wasn’t satisfied with expansion on the egoistic plane and entered into the depths of nature using the two forces facing each other, to that degree it developed internally, in soul and in intellect.

As a result of this, from that time on, the Jews were such a success and contributed so much to the development of the world that it is difficult to find a comparison to that small group that has gone in such complex pathways of history. From them came the Torah, the foundation of humanity, which still uses its inherent laws. The record of the “Jewish legacy” could go on for a long time, but in general, all of this is based upon one primary factor.

I repeat, the Jews are not a nation in the ordinary sense of the word. From an ethnic aspect, we come from various tribes, clans, and ethnic groups that populated ancient Babylon. Some representatives of the Babylonians once went with Abraham, for whom it didn’t matter from where his students came. He only wanted to spread love above all differences, and he accepted everyone in the framework of this unity. The word “Jews” (Yehudah) is derived from this, meaning “Union” (Yichud). Abraham formed a group from his students, which, through consolidation, sought to solve all the problems of this world and discover the upper force that governs us, the “world to come.”

Question: In spite of the anti-Semitism, the Jews, in fact, have attained extraordinary achievements. They are 27% of the Nobel Prize laureates in Physics and 31% of the Nobel Prize laureates in medicine. They receive half of the Pulitzer prizes. 37% of the directors who have been granted Oscar awards are Jews. Not to mention the high tech startup companies and the Internet. If everything is so good and beautiful, why are the descendants of the Babylonians unwilling to admit the truth of Abraham?

Answer: It is because humanity doesn’t need any of this at all. People don’t appreciate us because we are so smart. They don’t pay attention to all of these prizes. They say that we are bringing them trouble.

In the beginning, the Babylonians hated the group of Abraham not because of the spiritual potential and not because of the discovery of the secrets of nature. That didn’t bother people. They knew that Abraham had pitched his “tent”; in other words, he opened a training center and began to teach everyone. But when his organization became more impressive, Nimrod saw it as a threat to his rule.

Question: What is the essence of this hatred?

Answer: It was still “in diapers” then, still in its beginning. And after that, when the group distanced itself from everyone, the nations of the world felt its alien presence. And they began to hate it, since the ego is the opposite of bestowal.

This is a never-ending hatred that exists until today. It is latent in the foundation of nature, where two opposing forces are found: reception and bestowal. This is the basis of the universe; we are contrary to all the nations, their opposite. This polarity is expressed in their hatred toward us.
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From KabTV’s “New Life 457 – The Roots Of The Eternal Anti-Semitism Until The End Of Correction, Part 1,” 11/25/14

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New Life 755 – The Evolution Of Effort

New Life 755 – The Evolution Of Effort
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Nitzah Mazoz

Today, compared to previous generations, we don’t make any effort; technology makes our lives easier. In ten or twenty years we won’t need to do anything; everything that we need for life will be provided. We have become lazier because our ego has grown and this prevents us from doing anything trivial.

Our ego doesn’t want to move if it doesn’t have to. Our lives have become easier so that we can turn to the important question: “Why are we alive?” Humanity will not find a reason to make an effort so that a cry will be born as a wolf howling in the forest.

The wisdom of Kabbalah teaches that it is necessary to come to the question, “Why am I living?” In the upper world our efforts will be devoted more and more to the connection between us and this will give us immense pleasure.

The development of the soul requires effort to ascend above the rejection from others that our ego awakens in us. So the effort that we can expect in the future for each one of us and for all of us together will be efforts toward connection with each other.
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From KabTV’s “New Life 755 – The Evolution Of Effort,” 8/4/16

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New Life 754 – Laziness And Effort

New Life 754 – Laziness And Effort
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Nitzah Mazoz

Our nature is a desire for pleasure. We are attracted to pleasure and run away from suffering.

In disseminating the wisdom of Kabbalah, I don’t feel effort or fatigue because the energy and power to act in a particular direction are the result of the importance that it has in my eyes. The importance of an idea like this or another depends on the value that the environment provides for it. The force of laziness stops a person from doing something unnecessary and causes him to clarify whether it is worthwhile to do it or not according to the equation: energy – laziness = feasibility.

In general, there is no success in anything without effort. Effort is a prerequisite for success because through it an individual builds tools. If a person were given something without his having exerted effort, he would not know how to enjoy it because we have pleasure only according to the amount that we invest in it.

“A year of work is sweet” means that someone who makes an effort to earn his bread finds more pleasure in it than someone who doesn’t make an effort.
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From KabTV’s “New Life 754 – Laziness And Effort,” 8/4/16

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New Life 753 – Expectations And Disappointments

New Life 753 – Expectations And Disappointments
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Tal Mandelbaum ben Moshe

According to our nature we anticipate pleasure all the time. If a child doesn’t see something pleasurable ahead of him, he will not grow. The expectation mechanism exists in us to bring us to resolve the big question, why are we alive?

Since we don’t want to be disappointed, we develop defense mechanisms and learn not to expect anything so that we won’t be disappointed. Disappointment is the place that is not filled with what we expected to be filled and its purpose is to direct us toward a goal correctly.

In contrast to people, animals have no expectations for the future; they adhere to the moment. But the more a person develops, the more distant is his vision of the future. If a person has a higher purpose, he relates to all expectations and disappointments as corrections of direction on his way there.

In systems of relationships in which we truly love others, this in itself is fulfilling for us. The realization of love is giving, and to the degree that a person gives, he is fulfilled. So it doesn’t depend on the other side, but upon his relationship to the other side.

Our world is entirely egoistic; we draw pleasure to ourselves and therefore encounter limitations and become tired. The whole idea is to develop love from us to others. So if someone gets tired of love, this indicates it is not complete love. Love beyond the ego, which is not for those who are close to us but for those who are strangers, is not tiring. Instead it opens a person to the upper world. Then one is nourished by the general force of nature, which is entirely love and has limitless energy.
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From KabTV’s “New Life 753 – Expectations And Disappointments,” 7/26/16

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New Life 752 – Master Of My Own Fate

New Life 752 – Master Of My Own Fate
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Tal Mandelbaum ben Moshe

Everything comes to an end. The question is, can we reach a life that is full of only good and sweet events? They say that the wise can foresee the future, but others say that it is better not to see it, but simply to live the moment. There are different approaches: one is to ignore the situation, which means to lie to ourselves; the second is to mitigate the situation; the third is blind faith.

According to the wisdom of Kabbalah none of this is true. We can learn to change our fate! Scientists have discovered that there is constancy in everything in the world, and our lives are also managed by the upper constancy. We can penetrate the upper operating system of reality and thus control our lives. There are two systems of scrutinizing reality that constantly operate on us: bitter and sweet; truth and lie.

These systems have to bring us to a general scrutiny, to the question of what is the point in our life, what are we living for? The upper operating system operates according to a precise program that aims at the truth, which is the wellbeing of the whole. The more I begin to think about the wellbeing of others, the more I feel the system and understand what is going on.
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From KabTV’s “New Life 752 – Master Of My Own Fate,” 7/26/16

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New Life 751 – Connecting Opposites

New Life 751 – Connecting Opposites
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Nitzah Mazoz

All conflicts stem from our nature. Our nature is the evil inclination and it is constantly brewing something for us. The wisdom of Kabbalah is the only method that allows us to use conflicts in order to develop and to reach a state of wholeness. We have reached a point today in which it is impossible to cover up conflicts on any level or in any field anymore. Today the ego is so big that a person cannot stand anyone by his side in a relationship, in the family, or at work.

Here the wisdom of Kabbalah offers a very practical solution whereby we must find a way to connect above our differences, to discover love above the hatred. In order to do so, we have to discover the positive force in nature that will balance the negative force in us, the evil inclination. A middle line will be built between the negative force and the positive force that we have to discover, and in order to do so, we have to learn a new technique of connecting.

This learning process is done in a group, through exercises. In these exercises everyone relates to himself in several ways: once as the smallest in the group, then as bigger than the other members in the group, and finally as an equal to them. Thus, the three lines of our attitude to others are built in each one and eventually the central point of connection is felt. We expect the special force, the upper Light, called the Creator to be revealed in the center of our connection. Then we will understand that the purpose of all the conflicts between us was to bring us to the attainment of the upper dimension.
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From KabTV’s “New Life 751 – Connecting Opposites,” 7/21/16

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