Question: As a mother, I feel that my great love for my children is mixed with anxiety, and it seems that the Creator mocks my ego through my children.

Answer: The Creator doesn’t abuse anyone. It is actually people who abuse themselves by not performing the actions of corrections that they can perform and, thus, invoke suffering in vain.
[195432]

Related Material:
Responding To Negative Attitudes
Should We Come Into Contact With Unpleasant People?
How Does One Become Immune To External Influences?

Filed under: Children, Education, Egoism, Q&A - No Comments →

New Life #379 – The Theater Experience
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Nitzah Mazoz

Summary

What is it about the theater that makes it such a moving experience? How does it work to make a person identify with the characters on stage, and how can a person be positively affected by a play?

When you go to the theater, you prepare yourself to be influenced by a special environment. This is how it operates on us. Sometimes a play may remind us of past experiences that have been sweetened. It shows us what happened and what should happen. The theater can teach us a moral. It has a great educational potential.

Identifying with the characters, a play with educational value is written to bring a person to a higher human level. The audience can be prepared for the show starting from the moment people enter the theater.

When a person comes to a play, he is filled to such a degree that he forgets about his own life for a couple of hours and is absorbed in the story. This is especially evident with young children. See how fascinated they are when they watch a play or a movie. After watching a play that has an educational value, you return to your own life as a different person, you grow wiser.
[154554]
From KabTV’s “New Life #379 – The Theater Experience,” 5/22/14

Video: Play Now | Download

Audio: Play Now | Download

Filed under: Children, Education, New Life - No Comments →

New Life #378 – Harmony Between The Sexes Without A Fight
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Tal Mandelbaum ben Moshe

Summary

What has gone wrong with the way women function in a global world? What special force is there in a woman and how can she naturally manage in the world once she receives the right education?

The approach of fighting for women’s rights is wrong. It leads to conflicts. This isn’t a female approach but a masculine one. Who is in control at home? The woman is. Why? Because she serves, loves, and connects everyone. Nature has intended a greater role for the woman than the one she fills today; she has to lead the change. The female way to attain something is by agreement and acceptance, not by force. If women managed the world, there would be no wars. Today we all need to be re-educated.

A woman is the driving force in the transition to a new integral world. She has to come out of her hiding place and lead things. It is not a revolution by physical force but by integral education, by educating to connect and to accept. Will there be differences in the wages of men and women in an integral world as we see today? A modern woman needs to feel that she is responsible for the whole world, like a mother.

Tomorrow is the tomorrow of women, because a woman is a home and today our planet is everyone’s home.
[154537]
From KabTV’s “New Life #378 – Harmony Between The Sexes Without A Fights,” 5/20/14

Video: Play Now | Download

Audio: Play Now | Download

Filed under: Children, Education, Man and Woman, New Life - 1 Comment →

Question: If a father wants to give a child an example of advancement toward and longing for spirituality, what must he do? In what way can he express spirituality?

Answer: A person who aspires for spirituality goes through two stages:

1. He learns about the structure of the world and discovers that the world is a closed integral system, as all of science and research have also verified.
2. He understands that the role of a person is to match himself to the general integral world.

What this means is that a person who longs for spirituality shows how important it is to take himself out of the state that is opposite to nature and bring himself to a state of full connection with it, similarity to it.

This desire for connection with all parts of creation, to mutual harmonious cooperation with nature, to be similar to it, is called “raising a man.”
[194907]
From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 6/26/16

Related Material:
Integral Education From The Cradle
Overcoming The Differences In The Family
Collapse Of The Institution Of Marriage

Filed under: Children, Education - No Comments →

New Life #377 – The Female Approach To A Real Change
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Tal Mandelbaum ben Moshe

Summary

What is the man’s place in complementing a woman who adapts to the integral world, and how can we carry it out in society by education?

Women’s organizations that operate in an aggressive male-like manner to achieve equal rights will not accomplish their goal. It is impossible to equalize what nature has differentiated. We have to find a way to reconcillation between the sexes. Aggressive women are successful in a competitive egoistic society,  but this is not exercising the female force.

The nature of the change we need today: in the past the strong prevailed, but today the one who is positively connected to others prevails. The fact that the world has become integrated makes it very difficult for the men, who cannot act in this network.

A woman, on the other hand, is a home, a family, connection, giving birth; she can annul herself for others and complement them. We need a transformation in the heart and mind of every person. We have to realize that the world is integrated and that we depend on each other. Women will digest this change in our perception more easily and thus will lead the change.

The change will start with learning. When we all learn where we are headed, both men and women, then we will act. Managing the change will be in combining the male and the female forces. The feminine demands and the masculine fulfills. The right mutual complementation will lead the world to peace and wholeness, without any distortions and pressures, to perfection.
[154468]
From KabTV’s “New Life #377 – The Female Approach To A Real Change,” 5/20/14

Video: Play Now | Download

Audio: Play Now | Download

Filed under: Children, Education, Man and Woman, New Life - No Comments →

New Life #376 – The Impact Of Women In An Integral World
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Tal Mandelbaum ben Moshe

Summary

What forces do a man and a woman gain in a world that has become integral? What is the woman’s role in the family compared to a man’s, and how do they complement one another?

In ancient times we lived in an interconnected society. Then egoism separated us. Today we are reconnected once again. In the past women were very powerful because they took care of the home, the fire, and the children.

The role of women today:

• Women need to bring to the new world a demand for connection.
• We are on the borderline between the macho male history and the connected female future.
• The male’s nature is to aspire for control. The female nature is to seek the essence. They have to complement each other.
• Today we must first learn what the integral world we are facing is, what is the meaning of “we are one family.”

A woman’s nature is to care for the well being of the family. Today the family has expanded to the size of the whole society. Understanding the integral world will help women find their happy natural place, a sense of wholeness in life.
[154370]
From KabTV’s “New Life #376 – The Impact Of Women In An Integral World,” 5/20/14

Video: Play Now | Download

Audio: Play Now | Download

Filed under: Children, Education, Man and Woman, New Life - No Comments →

New Life 490 – The People Of The Book, Part 1
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Tal Mandelbaum ben Moshe

In our world, I have to prepare myself to read each book. If it is an English novel, I need to know English; if it is an architecture guide, I must be familiar with architecture; if it is a report on chemical experiments, I must be familiar with chemistry.

There must always be the basis of preparation that is transmitted separately from generation to generation.

So it is for spiritual attainment. The Oral Torah accompanies the written Torah. The word “Torah” is derived from the word “Ohr” (Light). Therefore, the Oral Torah precedes and is a preparation for reading the book; it accompanies this book and is transmitted by “word of mouth” from generation to generation, from Kabbalist to Kabbalist, in a chain of those who are able to open the book.

If I really want to find out and know what it is talking about, if I want to uncover the world in detail and understand through it who is showing me this “film,” if I am ready to be changed to become like Him, to delve into the matter of the essence of the “pictures” being broadcast, then I must search for people who have a mastery of the Oral Torah.

A Performance with a Surprise

Question: What does it mean to be similar to that force that is showing this “film”?

Answer: This is talking about equivalence of form, equivalence of characteristics.

For example, if I am far from being interested in the theater, when I go to some performance, I cannot connect to it immediately. But then they whisper to me that the playwright has a special cast, the lead actors are real characters who are truly experiencing these dramas….

At first I didn’t know and didn’t understand anything, I was not ready. But now, when I know the background, the substrate, with this I penetrated a bit more deeply. I created new characteristics and feelings within me, I could identify with the protagonists, come in contact with them as if I am standing in their place myself and even going through the situations they are experiencing. I acquired the same characteristics, and thanks to that, the performance appears before me in a completely new light. We don’t understand this world otherwise.
[151424]
From KabTV’s “New Life 490 – The People Of The Book, Part 1,” 4/1/15

Video: Play Now | Download

Audio: Play Now | Download

Filed under: Children, Education, Israel, Israel Today, Nations of the World, New Life - No Comments →

In the News (Science Daily): “People with more friends have higher pain tolerance, Oxford University researchers have found.

“’To test this theory, we relied on the fact that endorphin has a powerful pain-killing effect — stronger even than morphine.’

“The researchers therefore used pain tolerance as a way to assess the brain’s endorphin activity. If the theory was correct, people with larger social networks would have higher pain tolerance, and this was what their study found. Friendships may really help take the pain away!”

My Comment: All of us are completely interconnected in a single system, so to the degree we maintain connections between people, we can also share both good and bad feelings.

If we are connected in good relationships, unpleasant sensations completely disappear. If we take on concern for others in their place, then we necessarily free them from thoughts about themselves, from the ego, and they can feel the Creator.
[183570]

Related Material:
A Remedy For Depression
Guarantee Of Happiness
Rising Above The Gaping Emptiness

Filed under: Children, Education, Health, News - No Comments →

New Life 436 – Rosh HaShanah
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Yael Leshed-Harel

According to the wisdom of Kabbalah Rosh HaShanah (the Hebrew New Year) is the beginning of a change. What is the change? What introspection do we do on this holiday, and how does a person become compatible with the system of nature that operates in the world?

A new beginning starts by summing up the year that has passed, by finding the evil in us with regard to love. It is a self-examination of if I were directed to the upper force whose nature is love and bestowal. So that we will be a head and not a tail means that we will not encounter blows without understanding why, that we shall advance toward love by ourselves. Nature has a plan to bring us all to a state of mutual bestowal, connection, and balance to be as one man.

We can correct our attitude to this plan every day. We don’t need to wait for Rosh HaShanah. The “day of judgment” refers to the evolutionary program of nature called God. I can turn judgment into mercy. What am I judged for? To what extent do I object to or support the program of development, like a computer program. We have to do such self-examination every day, but Rosh HaShanah is a kind of general symbol.

I cannot affect this program personally but only by correcting my attitude toward others. The goal of our development is connection, love of others like ourselves, and do not do unto others what is hateful to us. The nation of Israel has to perform this self-examination since this nation has to lead the whole world to correction.

A Shofar, pomegranate, apple dipped in honey, and a fish head all symbolize the mitigation of the Dinim (judgment) by respecting bestowal instead of receiving. Crowning the king means that the goal of our development should lead us and that we should be as one bundle.

Being sealed and signed in the Book of Life means that we are all connected in one network. Establishing a connection with others is being sealed and signed in the Book of Life. A person seals his own sentence since it is up to him and to his attitude to others in the network. In order to be sealed and signed in the book of the righteous, a person has to learn the laws of the system, which are pure bestowal.
[144589]
From KabTV’s “New Life 436 – Rosh HaShana,” 9/28/14

Video: Play Now | Download

Audio: Play Now | Download

Filed under: Children, Education, Holidays, Israel, New Life - No Comments →

Comment: According to a study carried out by Harvard University, life without friends is as dangerous as smoking (Newsweek).

My Comment: A person is a system influenced by many factors: loneliness, sadness, fears, worries, all sorts of doubts and pressures put on him by society. All these factors can create great pressure, which could cause serious illnesses.

Comment: According to the study, the level of fibrinogen in the blood of lonely people who have very few ties with their relatives and have few friends is 20% higher than that of other participants in the study.

My Comment: A person needs to be in contact with society. It is our nature. Therefore, a lonely person constantly subconsciously searches for contacts, and if he doesn’t find them, he is under constant stress and pressure.

Question: Do you believe that young people who are involved in virtual relationships feel lonely?

Answer: Yes, in recent times loneliness is felt more acutely because there is no warmth in virtual relationships. But this is still a positive process because the growing loneliness leads a person to the recognition of evil. The question is how and whether it is along the long path of suffering or along the quick path of the Light.
[193506]
From KabTV’s “News with Michael Laitman” 8/31/16

Related Material:
Smartphones Instead Of Love
Friendship On The Internet May Not Be Strong
Virtual Ping Pong

Filed under: Children, Education, Health, News - 1 Comment →