Unless children receive the answers they need, they disconnect from parents and live their own lives.
We often see that the younger generation is negative toward their parents and elders, they treat them with anger and respond with aggression to their advice. If we saw this anger as a cry for something deeper, we would understand that, perhaps they are right, because the older generation is not giving them what they need.
What do we give the younger generation? They seemingly have everything: snacks, television, or video games. But it is not what the new generation is asking for, not what it wants, not what it is destined for. They lack the answer to the question, “what am I living for?” and it bursts out in the form of violence and anger.
Why is there an older generation and a newer one? Elders need to provide the younger generation with information about life, to pass them wisdom of how to manage in life, to answer the fundamental questions of existence, “Where am I? What for? Why? What is my life all about?”
Unfortunately, more often than not, this does not happen. Most parents never know the answers to these questions themselves. Yet, does this fact free them of the obligation to provide their children with what they need? Of course, not. If parents don’t know themselves, they should also search. Children say, “They had me, they brought me to the world and it feels as if they threw me out here, without any help.” – this is what children feel inside.
Not receiving answers they need, children become disconnected and detached from their parents. A kid comes home, eats something and he has his own life. Father, mother and whatever is out there are like machines that supply their physical needs. Everything else that concerns their soul and other inner needs has nothing to do with them. Who are these people? Dinosaurs or robots around the house that serve him. This is exactly how parents seem to children.
Can it be different? Yes, but only if parents themselves receive a different education.
If the children see that their parents are interested in the essence of life, the reason we live for and how to attain it; if they see their parents develop day by day, children feel that their parents can provide them with answers to any question. They can explain what happens in the world and why, help them understand the crisis and all the problems, so they can relate to the world correctly. Parents can not only explain this but also engage them in this wisdom.
Sadly, if children see and feel inside how miserable their parents are, if they witness them getting divorced, taking drugs, or wasting their time, burning their life out, what kind of attitude can they have towards them?
Children today are very smart. That’s why parents themselves should understand that, for their children’s sake, they must educate themselves.
Question: You explained that we never see people in their true form; that is, our egoism hides who they really are from us. In turn, others also seem to see you not in the form that you are, but in a form they put on you that is comfortable for their egoism.
