Question: How can we practically take off the “white gloves,” meaning leave the artificial demonstration of good-hearted relations?

Answer: Removal of the “white gloves” should be slow, conscious, and only to the degree that you can control your states and circumstances.

When you control your states, you can allow some negative thoughts and feelings in relation to your friends, but at the same time you understand that the Creator triggers them on purpose, otherwise they would not appear.

We are not doing anything on our own. Even if we think that we are doing something, it only seems to us that way. The Creator is doing everything—there is none else besides Him.

When I let myself go a little this way and feel my bad relations with my friends in the group, I begin to understand that it is given to me to rise. It means I do not deny, cancel, or conceal my bad thoughts and feelings about my friends, but rather rise above them in spite of my current thoughts about my friends.

Overall, I feel that my attitudes to them are correct. What else can I do? This is why despite the fact that they are correct I want to be above them and control them this way.

It means you control the left line when you slightly unveil your egoism and allow yourself to feel the criticism toward your friends. At the same time, you are building the right line within yourself when you turn to the Creator and ask Him to give you the power to rise above this criticism. Thus you have two lines. This is already the beginning of creation of the soul that you will have to build. It is not even you, but rather the Creator when you ask Him.

Therefore, it is a good thing that you have always treated each other “with gloves.” However, it might be time to start taking them carefully off. When you do it consciously, by allowing negative thoughts you will feel as the owner of your state from both the negative and the positive sides.

You will see that your good state and your bad state are not yours, they come from the Creator. Also, the decisions to make bad and good states are not yours either. They also come from the Creator. And after that between these bad and good states and thoughts you will sense the Creator Himself.
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From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 8/28/19, “Questions and Answers”

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