“What Is The Basic Principle Of A Strong Relationship?” (Quora)

Dr. Michael LaitmanMichael Laitman, On Quora: What is the basic principle of a strong relationship?

A strong relationship is like an animal that you need to constantly feed in order to continuously grow it.

You feed this animal with mutual concessions. Moreover, for those who have their own families, the mutual concessions need to include all family members, and you need to teach children about this animal that you need to concede to.

That is the basic principle of holding a strong relationship, and enjoying it. While it might appear as if you do not enjoy conceding to your relationship partner, because you might think that the other side subdues you—you will actually find that you do enjoy it, because by doing so, you enliven the “animal,” the relationship.

It seems as if the weak side concedes, but if we do what the other side cannot do, then we are not weak—we come out the hero. The hero is actually the one who concedes. We need to respect that quality more. Your partner should be proud of you and honor you that you overcome yourself and concede to them. If you have children, then your partner would tell them about it, and how it brings them real satisfaction.

Based on the video “What Is the Basic Principle of a Strong Relationship?” with Kabbalist Dr. Michael Laitman and Oren Levi. Written/edited by students of Kabbalist Dr. Michael Laitman.
Photo by Karsten Winegeart on Unsplash.

“Can Thoughts Affect Matter?” (Quora)

Dr. Michael LaitmanMichael Laitman, On Quora: Can thoughts affect matter?

Indeed, we can influence the world with our thoughts. A person can learn to influence an external device—electrical, mechanical, even electronic, or any other—and simply activate it at will. There is a relatively recent example of a 62-year-old man with amyotrophic lateral sclerosis (ALS) who turned his thoughts directly into tweets using a BCI (brain computer interface) implanted in his brain, and who, using the same device, learned how to email, bank and shop online solely with his thoughts.

In addition to thought-controlled motor activation, we can transmit emotions like love through thoughts. However, the ability to do so requires very serious training. Such training falls under Kabbalistic exercises that require people to start working on themselves, their thoughts and desires, until they start connecting with other people in these thoughts, desires, intentions and goals. These people can then feel each other perfectly well, needing no words or external communication.

They can be at a great distance, like on opposite sides of the planet, but still feel close to each other, as if talking to each other. However, such a mechanism works only if everyone involved wants to communicate with each other out of love. It is also how a mother feels her child thousands of miles away and how twins feel each other.

I think that we will have the technology based on inner human development so that we will be able to connect to external tools and devices, and thus have no problems with interaction between people and machines. Moreover, we will be able to control them with the power of thought.

Such understanding and ability comes gradually, to the extent that we can cope with it. Today, we can see how human relations have become incredibly negative, with more and more threats and weapons overshadowing correct internal human relations.

A thought can penetrate only from the position of love. This is a state we will have to reach. There is no issue on nature’s behalf. Nature would have already revealed everything it has to us.

The issue is on our side.

Nature—as if protecting itself—reveals itself to us as much as we can cope with it. For instance, imagine if a thought-controlled weapon surfaced in the world today. We would immediately destroy everything. We are nature’s most evil creatures, and we are very dangerous. However, nature will guide us to a state of corrected, loving and caring connections without destroying us—but it will take us a long time to learn.


Based on the video “Can Thoughts Control Machines?” with Kabbalist Dr. Michael Laitman and Semion Vinokur. Written/edited by students of Kabbalist Dr. Michael Laitman.

Daily Kabbalah Lesson – 4/19/22

Preparation to the Lesson

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Lesson on the Topic “Pesach (Passover)” 

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Selected Highlights

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Passover—A Step Beyond Egoism

934How to feel the Creator? If I want to feel any kind of force that exists in nature, then I have to match it, just as in receiving a radio wave it is necessary to tune the radio receiver to it. Only then will I hear that there is a broadcast on this wave. Which means, it all depends on the receiver.

The Creator fills the entire universe on infinite number of waves, on all ranges, and in all forms. It is one general, all-encompassing wave that creates and supports the whole reality. And how do we catch it?

Kabbalists say that we only need a receiver to catch and detect this wave. And then we will see how many possibilities this receiver gives, like a radio that can be tuned to any wave and we can accordingly hear everything that exists outside the receiver. This is how we will be able to perceive the Creator in all kinds and forms.

There are 125 degrees of attainment of the Creator, and at each degree there are ten Sefirot of direct and reflected light and many more manifestations of the upper force. In this way, we gradually reveal the Creator by changing our own qualities. After all, it is man who must make himself a receiver for the upper force. And the method for creating such a receiver is called the science of Kabbalah, the method of attaining the Creator and revealing Him inside a person.

The Creator will not reveal himself anywhere else; only inside the receiver that each person builds inside himself by joining ten friends and acquiring their qualities, absorbing them inside himself. It turns out that the whole ten is inside me, and this is how I reveal the inner force that connects all these ten parts, which is called the Creator, meaning “come and see” (Bo-Re).

The beginning of the construction of such a receiver within which the Creator is revealed is called the exodus from Egypt. I begin to build a connection between different and alien egoistic desires by faith above reason, by the power of Bina, the power of bestowal and connection. And when I create such a network of connections above egoistic forces, I reveal the Creator within it, and this is called the revelation of the Creator to the creations.

We come to this revelation after leaving Egypt, in a state called the Passover (Pesach) celebration—from the word “transition” (Pasach), which means a step forward beyond our desire to receive.
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From the 2nd part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 4/11/22, Writings of Baal HaSulam “A Speech for the Completion of The Zohar

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Desire For Power—For The Sake Of What?

273.01Question: Should a leader have a desire for power? Can he do without it?

Answer: It depends on what this power is for. If I want to raise my children correctly, I must have power over them. But this is for their benefit and within the framework that is given to me by nature.

Everything else is a bad use of power. This is already something that should not be.

Question: In general, is the desire for power an innate characteristic of a person or an acquired one?

Answer: It is an innate desire. A person is born a dictator and it is impossible to raise a dictator. Society only provides conditions.
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From KabTV’s “Spiritual States” 3/22/22

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Fighting For The Revelation Of Kindness!

271Question: What advice would you give to a leader or a manager who feels a desire for power? What should he do?

Answer: They should decide to conduct elections only according to the criterion of kindness and love of the candidate for power: what he wants to do, what kind of good deeds, and how he wants to fill the space subordinate to him with his love.

Comment: Usually he has an entire list of things he wants to do.

My Response: No! The list will not help here. It is necessary to constantly check his management:, every day, every week, every month, and every year. If it is not according to these criteria, he should be dismissed immediately.

And behind him there is a queue of people who will fight for kindness! A queue of people who want to show the power of love in relation to society.
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From KabTV’s “Spiritual States” 3/22/22

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Cultivation Of Love

632.3Question: Are there any effective mechanisms for combating the negative influence of power on an individual and on the behavior of a person?

Answer: There is the gradual cultivation of love in everyone for everyone else over many years and even maybe generations. Nothing else! Only in this way will we be able to rise above our egoistic essence and become controlled by love.

Comment: But this is a long educational process.

My Response: We do not have anything else.
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From KabTV’s “Spiritual States” 3/22/22

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“Europe’s ‘Strategic Compass’” (Times Of Israel)

Michael Laitman, On The Times of Israel: “Europe’s ‘Strategic Compass’

Some three weeks ago, Europe announced the launch of the Strategic Compass initiative, “an ambitious plan of action for strengthening the EU’s security and defence [sic] policy.” The initiative does not intend to be a part of NATO, but to run alongside it and relate to NATO as a “strategic partner.”

Despite the fact that NATO is an alliance established primarily in order to protect Europe, and even though the majority of the countries in both entities, including the primary initiator of the “Compass,” France, participate in both, the new organization will compete against NATO for the same resources. It’s Military Mobility plan, for example, is “an EU initiative to improve the mobility of military personnel, materiel and assets within and beyond the EU.” Similarly, the “Compass” will build an EU Rapid Deployment Capacity task force to enable the EU “to react to conflicts quickly, robustly and effectively. To that end, the EU will develop a Rapid Deployment Capacity (EU RDC) consisting of up to 5000 troops.”

As I see it, Europe’s anti-American spirit will blow up in its face. The initiative demonstrates how disunited the European Union really is. The only solution to this situation is that soon, both France and Germany (to a lesser extent), will suffer powerful blows that will shake the anti-American spirit out of them.

The relentless ambition to be unique, superior, and all powerful, especially in the leading countries in the EU, makes Europe the opposite of united, and in that sense, this initiative is exemplary. The rest of the European countries will have to balance them, but it will not be easy.

Europe had been the dominant continent for centuries, but two world wars have upended the world order. Today, Europe has two leaders, Germany and France, in that order, which are completely opposite to one another in every sense of the word. Additionally, there are the United States, Russia, and a number of Asian countries such as China, India, and several others, which are also growing increasingly powerful and dominant. The EU countries pale in comparison to them.

Because of it, Europe has no future. They might join hands in order to protect themselves against outside aggressors, but the connection among the EU countries has always been loose and competitive. This is why they cannot get along and why they will not succeed.

If there is a future for Europe, it is to show the entire world that humanity has no choice but to live together in peace and rise above the ego. The sustainable concept for humanity is to begin to genuinely help one another. Instead of looking for the next opportunity to beat each other on the head, we must learn to look for ways to tighten the bonds between us.

Granted, this is a learning process, but it has to start somewhere. If Europe sows the seeds now, they will see them bear fruit. If they stall, matters will deteriorate until they are forced to go down this path of peace against their will. As long as Germany stands on one side and France on the other, and in between no one does anything, nothing good will happen.‎
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“Are We Blind To Our Own Nature?” (Medium)


Medium published my new article “Are We Blind to Our Own Nature?

Every so often, I am amazed at the willingness of people to blindly follow leaders in the name of some ideology or religion, and believe that it will solve all the world’s problems. I am amazed not because people can become fanatics, but because they somehow still don’t understand that “The inclination of a man’s heart is evil from his youth” (Gen. 8:21). Somehow, despite eons of bad experiences deriving exclusively from our evil nature, we fail to see that there is simply nothing good in us, that “great is the wickedness of man in the earth, and all the inclination of the thoughts of his heart are only evil all day long” (Gen. 6:5).

Even when we give, we do it because of some ulterior self-serving motive. Baal HaSulam, the greatest kabbalist and thinker of the previous century, and one of the greatest of all time, articulated the nastiness of our nature in the early 1930 in his essay “Peace in the World”: “In simple words,” he wrote, “we will say that the nature of each and every person is to exploit the lives of all ‎other people in the world for his own benefit, and all that he gives to another is only out of ‎necessity.” “Even then,” he stressed, “there is exploitation of others in it, but it is done cunningly, so his neighbor ‎will not notice it and concede willingly.”

I do not expect leaders to acknowledge that this is who we are. Leaders are fixated on gaining power and control, so they will support any agenda that increases their popularity. But what about us, the people who follow them? Have we not learned yet that every ideology and every religion, even if it begins with the best intentions, ends up being self-serving, patronizing, and therefore wrong?

It is vital that we recognize the truth about human nature because only if we acknowledge it will we genuinely seek to change it. Until then, we will continue to cling to false ideas and dogmas, and we will continue to patronize, admonish, and torture one another through our ignorance. Perhaps this is why Rudyard Kipling wrote, “There is no sin so great as ignorance. Remember this.” Indeed, we seem to be oblivious to it.

If we resolve to change our nature, we will discover that there is indeed an alternative. The reason we perceive every being in our world as selfish and uncaring toward others is that we ourselves are like that. However, this is not at all the truth. If it were, this world would not persist; it would disintegrate before any complex being could come into being.

The truth is that the law that governs our world is not the “winner take all,” but the “law of balance,” of homeostasis. Every scientist and physician knows that were it not for homeostasis, or dynamic equilibrium, nothing would evolve. Yet, unless we recognize that our current perception is flawed, we will not be able to open our eyes and see the truth.

Once we realize that we are the only selfish beings on the planet, we will begin to change. Gradually, we will become aware of our mutual dependence and learn to act accordingly. What comes naturally to animals, we will gain through our efforts. Yet, our reward will be a deeper understanding and perception of the world than any being can have.

Only once we achieve this new perception will we realize that we were created selfish precisely so as to perceive how the world really operates. Had we been made this way from the beginning, we would have followed our instincts and would not have known that there is more than one option for existence. Our ego is our foe, but it is also our impetus for positive transformation. The sooner we use it for that purpose, the sooner we will gain that new perception and discover the truth about our world — that everything is balanced, harmonious, and filled with love.
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“The Heavy Price Of Feeding Ourselves” (Medium)


Medium published my new article “The Heavy Price of Feeding Ourselves

Putting food on the table has become a luxury these days. U.S. inflation soars to 8.5%, the highest annual level in 40 years and grocery prices are particularly hit, up to at least 10 percent higher from last year. For many people, not only in America but around the world, the cost of food is out of reach. Are we on the verge of the next global crisis?

“Sharply higher prices for staples and supply shortages are increasing pressure on households worldwide and pushing millions more into poverty.” declared the Heads of the World Bank Group, International Monetary Fund, United Nations World Food Program, and World Trade Organization in a joint statement just released.

The World Bank estimates that for each one percentage point increase in food prices, “10 million people are thrown into extreme poverty worldwide.” The Covid-19 pandemic caused disruptions in the world’s food supplies; climate crisis has damaged agricultural crops and threatened the food security of millions of people. Now the war in Ukraine is affecting grain and fertilizers production and exports to the world. Global food prices have reached “a new all-time high,” and the situation is getting worse every day. Starving masses could fuel social tensions, particularly in vulnerable countries.

But besides the aforementioned factors, people’s mindsets and habits trigger food insecurity. As the world evolves, the population has grown as a result of medical developments that allow increasing fertility and life expectancy. In addition to it, we are not only more numerous and live longer but we also consume much more today than in the past. Just a few hundred years ago we stayed home passively and a slice of bread a day was enough, today we live a hectic life and instead of a slice we need a pound of bread a day.

Compared to nature, we can see that animals behave differently from us in terms of breeding and consuming calories. When animals are not hunting or gathering food, they usually lie down peacefully and save energy. When there is a lack of food in the area, they give birth to fewer offspring. In the past, in times of food shortages, women naturally would also conceive less.

But as human beings we are no longer as attached to nature as animals, nor do we care to think deeply about our future as human beings and how properly use and balance our resources. We may easily degenerate into a world of famine and consequently, more conflicts will emerge.

We will be able to prevent hunger and other problems that can cause great suffering and death through a joint international debate. In such a discussion, representatives of countries would consider together what to do with the onerous facts and how to use human capabilities to solve them.

The problem is that the international organizations that are supposed to deal with it, like the UN, are impractical because they represent the bureaucratic forces of the states and governments, nor are they enthusiastic about dealing with solutions about the future of the world. It turns out that we have no one to trust and no one to wait for to formulate plans for a good life for us.

The scale and gravity of today’s global challenges which have outgrown the present systems’ ability to handle them require fresh new thinking. In my view, until we deal with the heart of the problem, which is the egoism in human nature, we will find no remedy to our woes. We all need to finally realize that humanity is a single superorganism in which any disruption affects the whole system and any solution should be integral. In other words, a better future starts with a shift of awareness of what needs to be fixed: we.
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