Question: It is widely believed that if you don’t love yourself, no one will love you. A slightly less discussed opinion is to love others, you need to love yourself. And even less discussed, but perhaps more valuable: to love yourself, you must first love others.
How to love yourself?
Answer: There is only one way out: try to do to people what they want or what is really important to them. Show people how to find happiness. This will be your happiness and the happiness of all; a person cannot disconnect himself from others. It is necessary to make sure that by showing or drawing people to happiness, you see your happiness in it.
Question: That is, literally to love others regardless of yourself?
Answer: Yes. From this you will understand that this is self-love.
From KabTV’s “Kabbalah Express” 11/6/20