Question: Is suffering a manifestation of egoism?
Answer: Naturally. What does suffering mean? I want something I do not have. It turns out that unfulfilled egoism causes suffering.
There is another kind of suffering: suffering from love, when I want something good for another and suffer if I cannot realize it. It is not so that the other would love me and respond to me, but because I want to give it to him unconditionally.
Thus, there is selfish and altruistic suffering. They need to be sorted out.
We shift from one suffering to another: from suffering for ourselves to suffering for others.
From KabTV’s “Fundamentals of Kabbalah,” 1/26/20