“Father and mother” is the level of the next spiritual degree. That’s why when speaking of them what is being referred to here is the complete annulment of the lower one, annulment of the lower soul before the upper, and engaging with the upper.
And here it is written about the father and his wife who is not your mother. Seemingly she is a strange woman to you. But because she belongs to the father and exists on his level, you have no right to engage her, it is the wrong Nukva for you, not the right female aspect that you are able to correct.
“Father’s wife” is a desire of a higher degree. That’s why a person who is working with a desire that he is unable to correct damns himself. He skips over a step, and by doing this, he destroys within himself the ability to advance.
What is meant by “father,” “mother,” “aunt,” “uncle,” etc. is the next degree on which you become the father with respect to the previous degree. But you have no right to work with a desire of a higher degree than your own, that is, “uncover the corner of your father’s garment.” But when you rise to that degree, then it will be for you.
Question: When a son is born, we always say that it is the next spiritual degree. And now it is clear that the father is the next spiritual degree. How is this possible?
Answer: The next spiritual degree is not higher than the father because the father continuously rises up and the son rises up after him. There is strict subordination here. The relationship is always maintained: the son rises to the degree of the father and, at the same time, the father rises even higher.
From KabTV’s “Secrets of the Eternal Book,” 11/23/16