The root of the word “friend” – “Chaver” in Hebrew stems from the word “Chibur”– “connection, unity.” People with whom I can connect in unity in order to discover the meaning of my life are called my friends.
Question: Does this mean that a Kabbalist has no friends with whom he can, let’s say, go to a football game once a week?
Answer: No, when I was young, I had many friends I was close with until the age of 20 to 22. Then, we separated, and each went his own way. Some went to the army and some to university.
Today, they invite me to their gatherings, but I don’t find the time, energy, and desire to be with them because we are totally different and have no common goals or desires. We have nothing to talk about, except perhaps to remember what things used to be like 50 years ago or how life has gone by, but we don’t have a common present or future.
From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 12/11/16