Answer: It is very difficult to contend with jealousy, sexual attraction, and other particular disturbances. It is desirable to transform these disturbances into positive desires.
How is it possible to do this? Try to make a connection like this in the family that will completely satisfy you; even though that “lust” may appear while studying Kabbalah, this arousal is not at all hormonal, rather it is much higher. But anyway, that is what must be done.
Envy can be converted into a positive movement.
When you begin to learn more, realizing yourselves in connection with other people, you will gradually begin to feel that all of this is being given to you by the Creator. Ultimately our movement forward is based upon receiving all kinds of disturbances and using them correctly.
The disturbances seem physiological to us, but this is not so. You will never be able to calm them down or nullify them by any physical means but only through spiritual correction. It only seems to you that if you play them out until your senses are dulled, or what is called being “completely detached,” that this will help you. This won’t help!
Salvation is only through more rapid advancement in a group that will influence you so that no possibilities remain, not only to act but even to think about this. It is very important to place yourself in a framework like this so you won’t have the power or thought of carrying out these activities.
From the Convention In Sochi “Day Two” 7/14/14, Lesson 6